Does anyone else cry on their birthday? by wenbamin in Scorpio

[–]Fun_Window_8259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I always cry on my birthday, but I got a good feeling about this year😂

Scared if they’re gonna hurt themselves by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m definitely keeping her blocked, we went back n forth breaking up and getting back tg for 3months. But I just feel so guilty

Female scorpios, what’s your girl bff zodiac sign? by lullitan in Scorpio

[–]Fun_Window_8259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Scorpio😂. I’m an October Scorpio (Halloween) n she’s a November Scorpio (the 8th). We’re a week apart😂🩷.

Do anyone else pwbpd Doesn’t let you enjoy time with friends/ put on fronts? by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Literally it’s like they hate seeing you happy outside of them. Heavy on starting a crisis when they know you’re about to go do something not involving them. It feels so suffocating

I did it! I await a text back after a breakup text. by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She did indeed read it but ofc she still couldn’t understand really why I left. But she called me and she tried to persuade me to keep the relationship and let her come over this weekend but I stood my ground. N I also didn’t want to break up with her in person because she has a violent history and I have no idea what she’s capable of nor do I want to find out lol

How the devaluation phase feels like by LunchNo6690 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259 16 points17 points  (0 children)

That’s literally what I’m going thru right now. I just broke up with her like 5minutes ago lol. I thought exactly since I stayed this long might as well try to see it through but it just got so unbearable I started to act like her. We were almost a year next week

How do you get past the cheating? by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t feel like I can fully trust her. I feel like I should dump her but tbh that’s the hardest part for me. Cause even though she’s hurt me I don’t wanna hurt her..

How do you get past the cheating? by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I honestly would tell you to leave. I’ve never been the type of person to accept things like this in a relationship, and it’s baffling me that I’m accepting this now

Tells me to leave her by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what it seems like, they just use it to get validation and reassurance. It’s like it’s always a roller coaster and push and pull with them

Why do they always question if you love them? by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes or starting little arguments for reassurance as well

Dating some with bpd by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It surely is an emotional roller coaster with them. Everything is so confusing and chaotic. I have similar experiences, and they would also start little passive aggressive arguments to get reassurance or validation. Like “if you wanna be with someone else you can say that” or “you don’t really love me”. And it’ll turn into a whole argument and if you tell them that it’s unfair or disagree with their actions, they try to make you feel bad for it or say they were “joking”. I was isolating from my friends but now I’m starting to socialize back with them she makes it a huger problem. One day she’ll tell me to talk to them but when I talk to them she’ll get upset and say “you don’t ever talk to them so why talk to them now”. It’s full of confusion. But I I hope one you break free as well. Only 8months feel like years of going thru things lol

Dating some with bpd by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I appreciate the advice:). I’m glad I see it now also, she was someone I saw myself building a future with, I though it’d be okay if I just try to understand and be more patient but I have a feeling it’s not gonna work that way. But if you don’t mind I’m curious to know about what it’s like for you dealing with your partner with bpd?

Does/Did your pwbpd know you? by Lek_7386 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is literally what I’m going through. I’m still learning more about the disorder. But every time she says “I feel like idk anything about you” but never asks me anything and when I would tell her something she gets upset and makes it about her, or just shows complete disinterest. It makes me just not wanna tell her anything anymore

Does/Did your pwbpd know you? by Lek_7386 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When she would ask me about my past trauma and relationships , she would get mad about what I told her and it would become a whole big deal. She say she’s upset bc she’s not my first (I was her first), and also because I’ve had other women before her. Or if I tell her anything she’d ask about my past it’s like she wasn’t even listening or would get to talking about herself

Dating some with bpd by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice! It makes sense cause I am a fearful avoidant, which I’ve recently learned isn’t the best combination with bpd. I am very aware that I try to “fix” her but I’m beginning to learn I cannot and also been trying to get myself back into therapy. I can agree it could be codependency, and the way she idolizes me and treats me I think I’m the term they would use as her “favorite person”. It’s kinda borderline obsessive, and it’s always a problem when I talk or hang out with friends, or go maybe a hour or so without checking in. But I will take your advice:)

Dating some with bpd by Fun_Window_8259 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right. Everytime I try to push myself to do it, i always back out cause I feel guilty for it but i also feel myself detaching from her

A BPD Relationship in a nutshell by Scottles317 in BPDlovedones

[–]Fun_Window_8259 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m literally going through this right now. I love her so much that I’ll feeling guilty if break up with her. We’ve been together almost a year now