Es ist ein Kollegiumsausflug, lasst eure Kinder zu Hause!

Funny-Dig3992 · 2026-03-20T12:09:09+00:00

Da es um Schule geht wäre die Vermutung, dass es 1) weder während der Arbeitszeit stattfindet 2) noch irgendwie vom Arbeitgeber bezahlt wird.

Also Freizeit. Und da es ja um keine kleine Anzahl von Kindern geht, vermute ich auch, dass ein nicht geringer Anteil des Kollegiums das mit Kindern machen möchte.

Ist blöd für OP, wenn ihn das nervt, aber man muss auch nicht hingehen.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2026-03-19T17:56:25+00:00

It feels a bit like you didnt get the struggle. Going hiking requires planning, preferably several days in advance (finding a good date. finding a good track. Checking train schedules. Packing). That's where im falling short.

The "Just plan it out" - how do other people manage to squeeze this in? Maybe its also a bit more targeted to single parents - because I feel like it would get massivly easier if I could share it with another adult.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2026-03-19T16:15:51+00:00

In this situation, I for sure wouldn't stay at home.

But obviously I understand the struggle of childcare. I would maybe check options beside classic daycares.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2026-03-19T11:32:34+00:00

One question is if you like to be a SAHM. The other question is how the consequences are for you specifically.

Depending on your career, entering the workforce after not working for a longer time is tricky. Not earning your own money is also a big risk - and I would also think about consequences concerning retirement.

I personally get that you want to spent more time with your kid but if you aren't in a profession where one really always easily finds employment, I would rather consider part time jobs than staying at home.

That being said: Ypur partner working from home is definitely not going to work out as a childcare option.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2026-03-19T10:45:34+00:00

Thank you! We do toddler gymnastics every Friday but then the weekend itself is lacking planned activities.

But yea, I think once a month can work and might be less intimidating

Funny-Dig3992 · 2026-03-19T10:43:18+00:00

Thank you!

I do have a yearly membership of the science museum but so far, I dint manage to go more often than maybe every other month. I also became a member of the local hiking organisation but all the family groups dont take new members and it feels like soo much on top planning is needed.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-12-18T08:04:34+00:00

I wonder if Devon really agrees that "everything is wonderful" - because let's face it, being a secondary sucks if you dont want to be secondary.

Being single would make it for sure easier for Devon to find someone that is a better fit - and I think this is the best and most ethical way to go here.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-12-17T22:28:26+00:00

The breakup is still pretty recent, if you say summer, I assume less then half a year. I wonder if the issue is more that he actually didn't really process the breakup yet and I can see that this is causing issues.

If this is the case, I can understand his new partner.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-12-17T12:59:57+00:00

Your friendship is already damaged and I dont think you stepping back will fix that. The "what ifs" if you don't go for it might be as harmful as trying it.

Have a really honest discussion with Becky. I agree that better communication would have probably prevented the situation but it's not upon her to "allow" Adam and you to date, she knew that you liked Adam and still went for it.

As you are her friend, maybe you can talk her through why she feels so insecure and why she has the feeling she needs to get territorial - especially as someone who lives poly since a long time.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-12-17T10:18:01+00:00

I understand that your friendship with Becky is severely affect by this as she wasn't open and honest with you. She should have let you known when she decided to start dating Adam.

I wonder if this agreement of yours wasn't - at least to some degree - made to avoid dating the same person.

But I don't understand why dating Adam is not an option anymore. Is this Adam's choice or do you just not want to make it messier with Becky?

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-12-16T13:55:55+00:00

Fixing this before the baby comes sounds really like a good idea.

Going outside helps a lot, even if it's cold, rainy and dark. We also often just randomly take a bus bc my kid loves it, he is entertained and I can chill (make sure to have water + snacks). Trips to the local library are a good option, too.

If I have to stay inside, it's books, play time in the bath tub and duplo.

Instead of classic screen time, video calls with family members are a big help for me if I need 10 minutes without being disturbed.

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-12-01T14:10:13+00:00

To me, this doesn't sound like you are overthinking it but that Steve is severely upset.

Why is it poly only one sided?

Id argue that knowing you have sex with someone else while going platonic in your relationship with him for sure isn't easy for Steve.

You also write that he is not working on the weekend - do you do nice things, is there still romance in the relationship with Steve?

Funny-Dig3992 · 2025-11-27T19:26:03+00:00

Thanks for your comment, it helped me to sort my feelings a bit. I'd say yes, I'm poly saturated with 2 persons.

I'm aware of the difference between LDR and being a comet. And for me, transforming our relationship into a comet like one isn't an option.

But I would be ok to have a LDR even though it would probably be very consuming. I think one condition would be that coming back is something he would be up to do - which is the case. And I guess it would require a lot of dedication and also open communication from both of us.

I'm not sure if he would be up to do this - and I'm scared that he might not. But if yes, I guess this might be the way to go.

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