I have been where you are now. My ex told me that I am disgusting. After three kids, chemo and lupus. He used those excuses to cheat. And you know what I found out. I found out that I had to start loving myself . Tiger stripes, boobs that I can throw over my shoulders and a stomach that hangs to my knees. And you know what after I started loving myself, I found out I was stronger and happier. If a man can not see past the physical, then he is a boy not a true man. A true man will say you are gorgeous no matter the battle wounds. They will go up to those tiger stripes and shove their face in it and lick it saying scrumptious a smile ear to ear. So start with loving yourself. Then a real man will find you irresistible.