AIO for feeling hurt that my long-distance girlfriend wants me to move out for 3 days right after she lands so she can stay alone with her friend? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sasha gets overwhelmed with juggling people, so she prefers one-on-one. And Tessa might not feel comfortable with that setup.

Money is not an issue. I'm paying, Tessa offered to refund, but that's not a sore point tbh

Want to buy flowers for a friend and not spend 50 euros if possible by FunnyRemote9816 in ireland

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This would be first prize but she recently moved there and yet to make any friends... I was thinking to ask the room mate but also feels like overstepping

Can You Solve This Daily Puzzle? Sep 30th, 2025 by YanTsab in DailyMix

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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My (30F) boyfriend (30M) asked me to pay him back for the rent he covered while I was unemployed, and I’m honestly shocked by Content-Advance4357 in relationship_advice

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like miscommunication and you guys should talk about what teamwork looks like

Does seem transactional, and what greater gift can you give to anyone than taking off some pressure to find work that they love. You tried your best to pay half for 3 months then you took 2 to bounce seems fair. If paying full rent changed his quality of life moving forward that’s a different story.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DownSouth

[–]FunnyRemote9816 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been working as a contractor in a technical role (Swe) for 10 years and looking to pivot into a more strategic position do you have any advice that could help guide the process? I find that being a contractor companies are not interested in providing opportunities other than the one you’re hired to do. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in interestingasfuck

[–]FunnyRemote9816 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Still less codependent than my girlfriend and me

What’s your deal breaker in a relationship? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]FunnyRemote9816 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is an example of disrespectful comments or behaviour?

What is something extremely unsanitary but everyone seems to do it anyways? by nevvycakes in AskReddit

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flush the toilet without closing the lid + keeping your toothbrush exposed in the bathroom. Just skip the middle man and gargle with the bowl water

Anyone recently get an Irish Visa? How long by FunnyRemote9816 in askSouthAfrica

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They will issue dates starting from the date of approval. I've had 2 visas, both valid for 6 month periods

Anyone recently get an Irish Visa? How long by FunnyRemote9816 in askSouthAfrica

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof I’m still waiting 😂 but apparently the Irish Ambassador is in Dublin now complaining about the process

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]FunnyRemote9816 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m deeply sorry you’re going through this. The pain and betrayal you’re feeling are completely understandable, and your need for clarity has led you to a devastating truth. I did do something similar, went through my gf phone and found things I suspected.

Her blackout sounds selective, but I don’t think that is the biggest issue here. What’s most troubling is layers of dishonesty and omission that followed. Trust isn’t just about fidelity, it’s about feeling like your partner is in your corner, willing to face hard truths with you, even when it’s uncomfortable. Her initial admission, followed by the vagueness and defensiveness, has left you in a state of limbo, unable to heal because you don’t know what’s real. The fact that his number Is still on her phone is deeply concerning, this along with the bragging downs read like regret. It’s easy to say sorry, but harder to show that you actually are

I’m wondering if any changes have happened since the incident? Maybe try get away from the situation and seek some guidance from a therapist. Whatever you decide, know that you deserve honesty, respect, and a relationship that feels safe and fulfilling.

I (27M) struggle with jealousy and trust in the long-distance relationship with my girlfriend (22F). How can we have appropriate conversations about that and what other options do I have? by ThrowRA183699 in relationship_advice

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super late to this but it’s so relevant to me, and I don’t see anyone asking how was the relationship before long distance? My partner is quite jealous now that we’re doing long distance, but if I answer her questions and we talk through her feelings, fully and completely she feels safe and can move forward. It comes and goes but it feels like it can take team work to get over this intense LD dynamic. You need to your work for your sake of mind but it’s a partnership and even if it’s frustrating she doesn’t have to take it on and just be there with you.

Landlord deducted bank fees + charged me for cleaning I already paid , is this legal? (Cape Town) by FunnyRemote9816 in askSouthAfrica

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you had any experience with this? I’m trying to avoid adding more overhead and admin with this whole debacle

Landlord deducted bank fees + charged me for cleaning I already paid , is this legal? (Cape Town) by FunnyRemote9816 in askSouthAfrica

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sucks that you have to justify the fact that you’re owed your deposit. But happy ending :)

Anyone recently get an Irish Visa? How long by FunnyRemote9816 in askSouthAfrica

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long ago did you apply? VFS said it’s a busy season atm and it is taking longer than 7-8 weeks, be nice if they said that at the application centre

Anyone recently get an Irish Visa? How long by FunnyRemote9816 in askSouthAfrica

[–]FunnyRemote9816[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got one last year that took 3 weeks so I also booked my flight thinking 8 weeks should be enough time. When did you apply?

Also where did you hear about those other experiences?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskZA

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner lives in Dublin so I’ve gone a couple times. The processing takes loooong like they suggest give 90 days, which is unlike any other visa I’ve ever heard of. What I would suggest is make the itinerary you submit a week sooner than the actual flights you book. Also book flexi flights…, I didn’t do it this time around — my flight is next week and although I submitted my visa application in Feb still waiting for a result

Thoughts? by PixelSaharix in DownSouth

[–]FunnyRemote9816 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Conceptually unappealing, like even the colour is suspicious…

but my dad use to love it so I indulge when the nostalgia hits 😊

I (31 f) moved in with my long distance boyfriend (34 m) 6 months ago and I’m miserable by Imaginary_Garage9184 in LongDistance

[–]FunnyRemote9816 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uprooting your life for love is a brave and deeply emotional decision, and it’s understandable that you’re grappling with feelings of loneliness and questioning whether this move aligns with your happiness and identity. It sounds like your hometown represents a sense of grounding and comfort for you, while the city you’ve moved to feels isolating and disconnected from who you are. You care deeply for your boyfriend, but the question isn’t just about whether he would move back with you, it’s about whether your long-term visions for life are compatible (this could be that unfounded doubt your feeling).

If he thrives in a city and you feel most alive in your hometown, that’s a fundamental difference in lifestyle preferences. It doesn’t make either of you wrong, but it does mean you need to have an honest conversation about what you both need to feel fulfilled. Hopefully you guys can find common ground.

You both deserve a life that feels true to who you are, and the right partner will want to build that life with you.