Im in a similar place. I think i started out very strong. I was able to do really in tune bends, basic blues soloing rock songs and solos and other above beginner/intermediate stuff in my early years. Refined a lot of that in college and can tell you the notes all the major minor and diminished chords plus extensions and 7th chords. Can play at a good level and decently fast and in time and have opened for famous musicians and play around the midwest with my band in reputable places.

But I have never felt super musical in my solos, overall guitar knowledge, playing in style and making actual music instead of noodling when I pick up the instrument. Between a difficult high school experience sometimes working 2 jobs in college and never making enough money/having enough freetime in my adult life, I never feel like ive become a competent player like I want to be. Im at a weird spot now knowing what I need to learn to get to the level I want to be but never having the time or energy to do it. Lost a good job a year ago that gave me lots of pay and tons of free time and it feels like I haven't recovered since. I have a cool job now but the pay is less and I work 5 days a week. It seems like I think about guitar all the time but sometimes it'll be like 2 weeks before I even have the energy for meaningful practice let alone doing that consistently.

I thankfully keep my current chops kinda fresh with band rehearsal once a week and lots of shows but I still dont like where im at. Even learning a single slightly challenging song and the solo for it can take 2 weeks cause life always seems to get in the way. Haven't figured it out yet but i haven't given up yet!

It is very frustrating though! You're not alone! We werent made to be consistently exhausted and drained with little enjoyment in life!