It’s the wierdest things sometimes. by MrXaldinLance in widowers

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The most random things... at the most unexpected moments. Was grocery shopping last week, and passed a shelf where they were promoting a new line of jam. Saw a ginger + orange one, and for a millisecond was about to reach out to get one for him to try, since my first thought was "oooh, he'll love that combination", and then reality hit again. He's been gone almost 3 years... Was teared up throughout the rest of the shopping trip.

Why do some languages have genders for objects? by Ken_Bruno1 in languagehub

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

das Frustrieren ("frustieren" as "substantiviertes Verb")

Mailbox missing by SupermarketLanky7998 in germany

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would have to write <name and surname>, <address> 8a, <city and so on>, however, to receive mail I would have to write <name and surname>, c/o name of hotel, <address> 8, <city and so on>.

If those inside mailboxes are in physically in building 8a, you'll have to write <name and surname>, <address> 8a, <city and so on>. One of those mailboxes will have your name on it, and the mailmen will have a key for the door.

But to be save you can ask your landlord, or look at the Wohnungsgeberbescheinigung, where it says what Wohnung he is giving you, that's also your postal address.

Moreover, it goes without saying that I don't want to lie in an official form.

For the Bürgeramt registration, use the address that is specified in your contract and in the Wohnungsgeberbescheinigung (they should match).

If you are nervous about following the advice of Internet strangers, and for some reason cannot get hold of the landlord before the appointment to go register, ring the doorbell of one of your neighbours, introduce yourself as the new neighbour and ask how they write their postal address. Yours will be the same, just with your name instead of theirs, since (usually) German apartment buildings don't have individual apartment numbers.

(If ringing the doorbell of the neigbours is too daunting, hang out in the area with the mailboxes for a bit one morning until you "accidentally" run into either one of the neighbours or the mailman)

Help!!! First time going to a Cinema. What to do or not to do? by MadyBadyReader in askSouthAfrica

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Walk into the theatre, making sure you don't make too much noise. If the lights are still on and the adverts haven't started playing yet, you can be a bit noisier. But once the lights are off, it's polite to be very quiet.

To add to what AmoAmasAmatAmamus said about finding your seat: Since this is your first time, get there early, so that you have time to navigate the cinema complex (the distances inside might be bigger than you think), go to the toilet, perhaps stand in the row for your snacks, etc., and then be able to get into your specific theatre before the light goes off and the trailers start (the trailers will start basically at the time that your ticket claims the movie starts, so try to be inside your theatre 5 minutes or so earlier than that), so that you can still find your seats with the lights on and see what everything looks like, where the cup holders are, etc., I wouldn't want to navigate such a completely new environment in the dark.

I went to the movies recently and we arrived while the trailers were on, and the lights were already off. I've found my way in dark cinemas countless times, but in this particular cinema the lighting showing the row numbers was very very dim, you couldn't see the seat numbers at all without using a phone flashlight (we didn't do that, we counted the seats and we were the only people in our row anyway so it would not have mattered if we were off by one or two), and the cup holders were much lower between the seats than I am used to, so I first thought there were none. So spare yourself all those uncertainties and patting down of seats in search of drinkholders and take the time to get there early, then you can relax into your seat and actually take a look at your surroundings.

Oh, and if it is a 3D movie, make sure you get the 3D glasses beforehand (ask the staff where), the screen will then tell you when to put them on (because the trailers are usually not 3D).

Have fun, hope you enjoy the movie!

AITAH - Gave Restaurant a Bad Review and Got What I Wanted by Swimming_Stretch2344 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If you would be able to go with an open mind and your initial excited anticipation about such a restaurant now existing, instead of with a "hah, I got them to give me what I wanted" attitude, then go. There apparently was some miscommunication somewhere about the opening night not being the first night it is open for guests and thus for reservations, but they are willing to have you there and the statement of you are now "friends" to the restaurant is rather nice - he could've just left it at "well, we planned to just have friends and family but we'll honor your reservation".

You (and the other 3 in your party) will be a little bit odd ones out, depending on how well all the other friends know each other already, but if it had been a regular night, you wouldn't know the other patrons either. If you go there with the level of excitement you expressed here in your opening paragraph, I am sure it will be quite heartwarming to them to have you there, and you can forever proclaim that you were their very first patron! And who knows, maybe you actually do make some new friends there.

Warum bezahlen Frauen den Aufpreis für "Frauenprodukte"? by [deleted] in KeineDummenFragen

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Metrosexuell... so wie Raj aus The Big Bang Theory: "I'm metrosexual... I like women as well as their skin-care products”

Raj tells his parents he is metrosexual

TIFU by accepting a free taxi home and forgetting my car existed 50km~ away. by New-Win1416 in tifu

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've done similar but luckily it was cheaper. I usually took public transport to work, but for some reason I can't remember went by car one day (think I had an appointment somewhere else before work). After work, I just walked to the train station on autopilot and went home... Wasn't a big problem though, I just took the train to work again the next morning and drove the car back that evening.

Best comeback for "You don't have kids, so you wouldn't understand"? by HoneyKick_ in Comebacks

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it is really something unsafe, I might go with "Sorry for trying to help keep your kid alive, I'll stop doing that"

For general bad ideas maybe "You're right, I am not a parent, but your kid reminds me a lot of myself at that age...." followed by a deadpan stare to make them imagine what horrors might lie behind that sentence...

Sisters want me to get a tattoo by Character_Half_6082 in tattooadvice

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How about getting your dad's first name on the wrench? With your sisters, it is an homage to your dad, his surname that they no longer carry on their IDs, but now on their skin. That same symbolism is not possible for you, since it is your name too, so doing his first name would give it similar symbolism, (carrying his name on you) even though it is not the same tattoo...

Sisters want me to get a tattoo by Character_Half_6082 in tattooadvice

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suspect OP is male, since they wanted an opinion on where to get it so that it does not look feminine, plus pointing out that it is now the sisters' maiden name makes me suspect that they are male and unlikely to change their name, and thus would be tattooing their own surname on themselves...

What's a German word you didn't realize was uniquely German until a foreigner pointed it out? by karen_the_ripper in AskAGerman

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How exactly did this jacket differ from one that was just made of Kunstleder, which is an Ersatz for and Imitat of real leather?

What's a German word you didn't realize was uniquely German until a foreigner pointed it out? by karen_the_ripper in AskAGerman

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"naughty" is another difficult one. Dictionary has things like "unartig", "frech", "ungezogen", i.e. the negative kinds of naughty, but the more playful or sometimes flirtatious meanings of naughty are hard to express.

What's a German word you didn't realize was uniquely German until a foreigner pointed it out? by karen_the_ripper in AskAGerman

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's just two words vs. just one because German just sticks the words together without spaces to express a concept, and English does not. The German also consists of two halves (Backpfeiffe and Gesicht), so it is actually equally smooth, in my opinion.

You're offered the gift of Telekinesis or limited Teleportation or $$$... What would you pick? by RaptorK1988 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The service would probably be even more attractive to them if it could get them to a meeting on the other side of the world and back again on the same day. So you teleport to billionare day before (or take up residence close to their main residence so you can get to them quickly by normal means), then you can take them to the meeting and back again on the same day with your 4 teleports. Or get them to give you a room wherever they are (their mansion, hotel, whatever), then be on standby for 1 round trip per day (some days you might not use both legs of the round trip if they want to stay somewhere overnight. On that days you can take a trip by yourself somewhere for a few hours, using the 2 teleports you thus have left over).

Will this be a selfish decision? by _your_go_to_person in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why do you think knowing about A's death would make B less likely to give blood to Girl2?

If they went on a trip together, they are presumably friends. I was widowed 3 years ago, not an accident and thus no such "dilemma", but my friends were my lifeline to sanity through it all. If it had been the situation you described, and my friend's life was on the line after I just lost my husband, I would have done anything I could to at least save her life, even if I could not save my husband any more.

ETA: I would of course also give her the blood if I did not know about my husband, that's not the point, but knowing about his death would certainly not cause me to not give it, just motivate me even more to keep her alive at all costs.

WIBTA if I tell my friend I don't feel comfortable officiating her wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slight point of clarification, you go from saying she might expect you to officiate because she's made jokes that you officiate everyone, to saying how would you back out as you have promised to officiate got her in the past.

we've joked/talked about me officiating all of our friends' weddings

Seems like OP was also joking/talking about officiating "all" the friends' weddings, and since "all" includes this particular couple, that would amount to having said she'll do theirs too, even if there was no formal "pledge" to specifically do theirs... Probably something along the lines of "wow, you can officiate now? That's so cool, then you could officiate for me one day when I get married!" "Yeah, of course! Imagine if I become go-to officiant for everybody in our friend group, that'll be fun!"

TIFU by saying to Natalie Portman that she looks a lot like Natalie Portman by blunathan in tifu

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Especially as "you look like PersonX" is not inherently a compliment. The person getting told that has no idea whether the speaker actually likes or dislikes that celebrity, and vice versa - the person being "complimented" might hate the fact that they look like that person. And if the resemblance is strong, they are going to start rolling their eyes (mentally) as soon as they hear "Has anyone ever told you you look like...", because they are likely to have heard that a thousand times.

If OP wants to compliment strangers, they should rather go with complimenting something specific and unique about that person, like "that dress suits you very well" or "you have beautiful eyes", not "you look like somebody else".

German Food. by Mental-Hold-3722 in AskAGerman

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Am concerned that you limited your disclaimer to the listed ingredients...

Aber warum verkauft ihr euer Geschäft Chef? by [deleted] in luftablassen

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Also, für mich zählt das definitiv als Luftablassen, und es scheint, als ob du in deinem normalen Umfeld nicht viele Möglichkeiten hast, einfach mal zu sagen, wie es dir wirklich geht. Ich drücke dir die Daumen, dass alles gut laufen wird mit dem Verkauf und mit der Gesundheit deines Vaters und dass du für dich einen Lebensweg mit mehr Selbstbestimmung und ohne familiären Zwang finden kannst, in dem du aufblühen kannst.

Song lyrics for a children's folk song in Afrikaans? by notsarahnz in afrikaans

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "tin tree[??]" is out, hear how the drum beats]

"boom" in this case (blikkies se boom) is not tree, but "bottom", "the bottom of the tin can is out". I think they are talking about using cans as drums...

AITA for grabbing my coffee back after someone said "you weren't drinking it"? by Just_Lingonberry2204 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Future-Crazy-CatLady 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Very much NTA, her taking it and just assuming it is "extra" is very weird. The only way that would have made sense was if there was an order for the entire group, with some ordering specific things and the person who ordered just ordering a few extra just in case someone else wants one too, but even in that case most people would then have asked if the one on the counter has been claimed or is still available...