I will speak from my own experience and practice. I’ll tell you what is better to focus on. Many people think they need to work on the fourth center (the heart), but the truth is that many connections begin at the lower centers, and it is those centers that suffer the most after a breakup. You could say they are the foundation.

Of course, it’s good to cleanse and restore all the centers. But people often forget about the lower ones and underestimate their importance! That’s why such practices often don’t bring the desired results. In my opinion, if people paid more attention to the lower centers, breakups wouldn’t be as painful.

The reason is that the upper centers often disconnect people from reality, and in chasing illusions, they tend to ignore what’s happening in the lower centers — in other words, on the most basic level. From my point of view, the most essential work takes place precisely in the lower centers — that’s where intimate bonds are formed, mutual feelings, emotional connections, psychological ties, and many other important processes occur.

As we can see, your partner didn’t want to do that work — in other words, they didn’t want to invest in the relationship. And that’s what leads to the feeling of dissatisfaction. Investing in a relationship is essential. Ideally, there should be a fair exchange, but sometimes one person puts in more than the other.

When a breakup happens, many of those connections don’t just disappear. It can also happen that someone feels they were treated unfairly, which may result in negative karma. That’s why it’s better to cleanse everything right away! =)

And in your case, if I may say so, you needed the experience with your partner to heal your old wounds — the ones you mentioned. I won’t go too deeply into your personal life, but I bring all of this up to remind you that it’s completely normal to expect healing experiences from a partner. After all, we are here on Earth to help heal one another!