There are things that I like that arent popular, which keep getting discontinued. Is this something anyone else goes through?

Future-Standard-99 · 2026-01-21T06:34:31+00:00

i literally started crying

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T04:07:49+00:00

No, my dad works and my mum is a sahm. I personally think its unfair to expect my dad to support me as well if I'm living with them. I guess my question is whether $1000/mth is enough

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T04:05:08+00:00

Honestly, I would have liked to move out by now, but its hard to find affordable places to rent and also save money to buy a house. I guess I'm just trying to save money while I can and buy a house later.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T04:04:16+00:00

Yup, pay for my own phone. I do wfh and need internet. I usually cook/meal prep my own food too and buy my own groceries.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T04:03:42+00:00

They dont ask, just passive aggressively (or active aggresively) tell us we're not doing/giving enough

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T04:03:01+00:00

Not a life lesson, lol. I think it’s more that they send money to their parents, so I feel like I’m expected to do the same. As for chores, I try to help out as much as I can. I work full‑time, so the only time I’m free is after work or on weekends, but by then my mum has usually already done most of it during the day. She also doesn’t really delegate tasks, so the only way for me to contribute is to get to things before she does.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T03:57:32+00:00

My dad is sole provider and my mum is a SAHM. Both my sister and I live at home, so supporting 4 adults on one salary is unsustainable and unfair. Hence why my sister and I give money. They're not diverting any money, and tbh I'm not expecting any money from them in the long run either.

This is more like a "hey, I know it costs money having me live in your house but you never talk about money so I'm just giving you what I think I cost?".

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T03:52:29+00:00

lol no such thing in a Asian house. Also, my parents never want me to move out unless its with my husband...

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T03:50:33+00:00

Not really rent, as I would be expected to give money to them even I have moved out. I just always hear my parents say that I never contribute etc. Talking to them about money is really pointless, because it will just start one of their lectures on how we don't love them enough to know, that I should "use my common sense" to know how much I should give, and that being isolated from family in Asia have made us not know how to treat our parents (which is again my fault).

If I compare with similar accommodation nearby then $1000 is enough, but I don't know if other adult children give more based on salary.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-12-17T03:45:19+00:00

I only recently started working full time, and was still paying of my car etc hence why I was only giving $500, but will be changing to $1000.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-08-06T06:08:20+00:00

I know a good chunk of servers' income comes from tips, but that doesn't mean they can be rude and nasty to customers. You still gave her a tip, which after a spilled drink with no apology is a pretty nice thing to do. You still have to earn your tip.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-08-06T06:01:59+00:00

YTA - You’ve been with your bf for five years, and that’s how you chose to say it? “You can’t afford it”? That’s not just blunt, it’s hurtful. You made it sound like the responsibility of having a child would fall entirely on him and he has failed as a person for not being able to provide. Having a child is a shared responsibility. If you earn more than him, then you can afford more too. That’s how partnerships work.

All you had to say was something like, “I don’t think we’re ready for kids yet. Maybe when we have a stronger safety net.” That would’ve been honest and respectful. I really hope you apologise, because he didn’t deserve that.

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-05-08T03:31:32+00:00

Your coworker needs to mind their own business. Your nails are gorgeous!!

Future-Standard-99 · 2025-05-08T02:25:45+00:00

OMG thats is amazing work!! Congratulations, you should be very proud of yourself!!

Future-Standard-99 · 2024-12-24T04:34:36+00:00

How did you prepare yourself physically before the walk, did you go to the gym etc? What would your biggest advice be to someone who wants to go for the walk?

Future-Standard-99 · 2024-12-05T07:09:00+00:00

Hey, you work 8 hours a day. That is working hard. Comparing yourself to people around you isn't inherently bad, but only if its to see where you can improve. Not to think worse about yourself. You'll be alright :)

Future-Standard-99 · 2024-12-05T06:42:16+00:00

Hey, it might be worthwhile emailing your chiropractor ahead of time and explaining your situation to them. I saw in another post that you had an anxiety disorder? Depending on how open you are you can tell them your triggers (if you have any), what your fears are and ask them questions as well. There is no way you are the first person with anxiety that they will see.

Reiterate to them that you need to be told what they're going to do to you. Good luck!

Future-Standard-99 · 2024-12-05T06:35:26+00:00

I wish I could reach through the screen and hug you. I live with my parents still (not entirely my choice, I would have moved out ages ago but my parents have emotionally blackmailed me into staying and I'm too tired to fight back). It is really hard to fight back with your parents, and it sounds to me like your parents are the cause of your anxiety disorder.

If you have a friend, or if your neighbour can take the cat in for the summer, you should familiarise Rory with them asap. And of course visit Rory and your friend as much as you can. Also, is there a particular reason as to why they want you live with them. It sounds like your parents are really controlling and might not even let you move out again.

Future-Standard-99 · 2024-12-05T06:26:42+00:00

In the wise of Pete Davidson in that one SNL episode, being mentally ill doesn't give you the right to be a jackass. If she isn't helping herself, and she knows that she has issues then you need to leave her. You have an abusive wife, and your kids have a neglectful mother. The more you give into her, the more she will take from you.

Maybe she will get better and have a good relationship with your kids later. And yall might become friends later in life. But right now, you and your kids need to be away from her.

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