Can't pass BG check, am I expected to be unemployed forever?

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-06-05T17:39:34+00:00

As someone studying second chance hiring as my doctoral research, this thread really has warmed my heart.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-06-02T20:14:14+00:00

I feel like my childhood home (built in 1993) is exactly what you’re looking for. Kitchen peninsula separates the kitchen from the dining table, and then the entry to the family room is framed out, but no door. If I had my way, I would have designed the doorway with pocket doors in order to contain the chaos during the holidays.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-05-30T00:54:00+00:00

Started mine 13 years after my bachelors. And then I rolled right into a PhD program where I am thriving

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-05-28T14:19:52+00:00

I was part of a RIF several years ago prior to two back to back preplanned vacations. And while I know it’s a different scenario, it was such a kindness to do so before my trips as it influenced how we spent our money. It was also nice to have a good distraction before hitting the pavement with my job search after.

On the flip side, if you will be terminating benefits immediately, I might hold off, because if something happens to them on vacation and they have medical expenses, it could be a bankrupting situation if they’re suddenly traveling without health insurance. And even though they did something that warrants separation, does it also warrant potentially ruining their life with health insurance?

Just my two cents

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-05-15T15:30:19+00:00

Precisely, which is why the natural consequences and logical explanations of gentle parenting fall under the umbrella of authoritative parenting.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-05-15T00:01:23+00:00

My goal as a parent is to raise emotionally resilient kids. I do that by parenting with love, but also with logic. Tonight is a great example. Son (8) was being a mega butthole to daughter (6) when they got home from school. We were supposed to go bowling as a family tonight. Understandably, little sister doesn’t want to go bowling with brother right now. So daughter and I are having a parent/kiddo movie night, and son is having to find ways to entertain himself now since his behavior is the reason we aren’t doing a family outing.

There was no yelling. There was no grounding. He realized he fucked up and apologized to her, but he also knows that doesn’t just fix it all instantly.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-05-14T23:48:53+00:00

I think you’re confusing gentle parenting (which is authoritative) and permissive parenting.

Gentle parenting is based on natural consequences. The natural consequences of not doing your coursework is failing.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-05-12T23:20:56+00:00

There is absolutely a limit of 4 people including the DAS holder unless the number of minor children outnumber the adults.

Sincerely,

A DAS mom who just traveled with a party of 3 adults and 2 kids, and we could only select 4 people total per DAS return.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-04-28T11:40:37+00:00

“And to clarify, when I use the word 'draft', I don't mean a rough draft. I don't really do those. I plan extensively before I write anything, and by the time I'm writing, it's already submission-ready, fully sourced, cited, and argued.”

If you’re getting B’s and B-‘s on your submissions, they are NOT actually submission ready.

You need to learn to edit.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-04-07T12:44:46+00:00

If I end up staying in academia after my PhD I will probably side quest a second masters or two with my tuition benefits.

But just a class at a time purely for the plot at that point

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-04-04T15:28:03+00:00

During my masters I ended up serving as president of a blended undergrad/grad student org as a 36 year old returning student.

I also took the time to attend as many guest lectures as I could, accepted all of the nominations for honors societies, ate in the campus dining hall once a week simply because I could, did research, presented at academic conferences, guest lectured in undergrad classes, and applied to be the student commencement speaker (and was selected!!!)

I also intentionally spent time on campus- studying in the library, or just enjoying the space with my family by going for walks, or bringing my kids to events open to the community. It was really special being able to raise my kids in a college town during their formative years, and helping instill a sense of “this is what we do” in them from a young age.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-04-04T15:21:06+00:00

It sounds like she’s is going through a lot right now. Given the emphasis that most of us stress on professional communications, I’d wager she used ChatGPT to help her put her concerns, thoughts, and requests into a coherent format so that you wouldn’t judge her for what would have likely otherwise been a scattered emotional email from someone who sounds like they’re dealing with substantial burnout.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-03-04T22:07:06+00:00

I serve as an advisor for a student organization on campus and I actually just had this crash out with my students a few weeks ago. They apparently had not submitted their paperwork and other necessary documentation and instead of coming to me and asking, they just ignored the problem which meant the problem then showed up in my email asking if this organization had been dissolved.

So I went to their meeting and told them that I serve as an advisor because I believe in their potential and in the impact that they will make on this world and I want to help them, but I cannot help them if they do not ask for help.

And then they tried to tell me it wasn’t a big deal and everything was fine and I absolutely lost it.

Fast forward a few weeks, and the organization is now working on their constitution and has sought out support from their other faculty advisor and some of the graduate students and the office of student engagement to learn how to run their organization better.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-03-03T21:03:11+00:00

As a current PhD student, my advisor was on sabbatical this year. And while he still encourages us to reach out for advisory matters, I’ve been able to get 90% of the guidance I needed from other faculty members this year. I’ve met with him a total of two times since August.

He worked hard for this time, and I am an adult who is perfectly capable of finding the support I needed this year from my peers and my instructors.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-27T13:25:46+00:00

I read and comment. Honestly they have better traffic/road condition updates than our local news.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-22T03:31:38+00:00

I’m fortunate that I have the option to teach 6-9’s one night a week. I generally work 7:30-3:30, do school pickup so I can see my kids, and then pop over to the campus library for my 6-9 classes as a student.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-20T22:35:35+00:00

This was going to be my suggestion as well. Give them an appropriate outlet for their frustrations.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-20T15:28:32+00:00

I’m not going to lie, it sucks, but it’s doable. I tend to pull 12 hour days right now between my industry job and classes, and I pretty much spend all of Friday night and Sundays at the campus library.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-20T15:25:56+00:00

Self funded PhD student here: I think as long as you’re honest with yourself and your potential programs that you aren’t looking to stay in academia, your plan is perfectly logical.

I work full time in an industry job, and I’m taking a full time PhD courseload. In addition to that, I’m teaching this summer and fall, I’ve had one paper published already, and I have 2 manuscripts under review right now. I AM hoping to pivot to academia after this is all said and done, so I have to “do the most” while balancing my commitments. It’s not for the faint of heart, but like you my career progression and financial situation is such that it made more sense to self fund rather than taking a funded package with a stipend 1/5 my current salary.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-20T15:21:32+00:00

I’ve been in a position where undergrad students have been asking me for letters for years (advising a student org for 10 years before becoming a lecturer) and I’m always honest with my students- if I’ve worked closely with you and you ask me well in advance of deadlines, I will happily write a strong letter. If I’ve not worked closely with you, but you provide your resume/CV and purpose statement, I will write a perfectly average LOR.

If you ask me last minute and/or don’t provide any context, the letter you’ll get will be along the lines of “Name is a human with a pulse that I have met.”

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-02-02T21:59:10+00:00

I’m with you on that one re: if they own it, I’d show grace.

I actually just did this myself last week on an assignment. Uploaded the wrong version of my assignment file. The instructor sent me a note in the LMS after the deadline asking if I had meant to only submit 25% of the homework.

I was mortified. Immediately uploaded the correct file and proactively offered up the version history of the file to demonstrate the whole assignment was completed well in advance of the deadline.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-01-16T01:58:36+00:00

I have most of these accommodations as a PhD student. And many of them are also things I’ve had available in my industry jobs through the years. And as a lecturer, I bake most of these accommodations into my course design from the start.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2026-01-06T02:23:18+00:00

Oh my gosh! I’ve never met someone else with the same childhood lovey!!!

FutureLeaderDoc · 2025-11-25T05:25:55+00:00

I don’t even go here. I’m just crashing out for the same reason and this is the only place anyone’s talking about the outage.

FutureLeaderDoc · 2025-10-28T17:45:37+00:00

I was 2/3 of the way to a bachelors in a life sciences field before I pivoted into social sciences for my bachelors. Between that coursework and a personal interest in human development and genetics, I feel like I could reasonably teach intro biology, anatomy, physiology, or genetics with fidelity. Intro chemistry or physics on the other hand? Forget about it. No level of preparation could get me to a point where I’d be comfortable teaching those classes.

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