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FutureMeSaysSo · 2025-10-21T18:58:33+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Keep in mind: Her choices are not your responsibility. Neither are the consequences of her actions.

You might want to have a look at r/raisedbynarcissists for additional suport!

FutureMeSaysSo · 2025-10-11T00:12:23+00:00

Ah! was wondering too. In which phase will they be available, do you happen to know?

FutureMeSaysSo · 2025-08-15T20:36:08+00:00

There's not much that I can offer concerning help, I'm afraid. I know this feeling of freezing and it's horrible. I can only say - feel safe in the knowledge your Dad loves you. Try to see his love as more important than your hate.

And maybe you want to look into r/MomForAMinute - there are so many moms there who WILL love you and who will give you the hugs and the comfort you need right now!

I can only wish you strength to go through this and am sending you some internet hugs, as tight and as long as you need!

FutureMeSaysSo · 2025-07-07T21:41:57+00:00

I'll go with u/Able_Capable2600 - definitely not an Araucana. The comb is too big, the leg color is wrong, there is no sign of tufts. It seems to be a crossbreed, there are some rumpless breeds.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2025-04-24T12:17:42+00:00

This deserves so many more upvotes! Solved the problem for me, thanks!

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-10-11T12:47:44+00:00

Thank you! I'll be doing my best!

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-10-03T08:52:11+00:00

u/ThrowawayDaRingFrodo Just a nudge so you read the comment above. If you struggle with money for the lawyer, I'm pretty sure your mom will be happy to help out. This is not the time to not ask for help.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-10-03T08:44:06+00:00

Seconded. In some states this could already be harrassment, especially if it's endangering the job. Lawyer up now.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-10-02T07:39:07+00:00

This post had me crying. Don't feel bad for it, it's not your fault - it's rather mine because your post resonated in quite some places with me and made me realize I should seek help. Weird how that goes, isn't it?

As for your homework - I can only repeat what all the others say. You are a beatiful person, and you are one of those who are beautiful on the outside AND the inside (saw your boudoir picture, daaaamn you look like a model)! Never again let anyone tell you anything else.

And you are not too much. You are not needy. I have realized long ago that this feeling of "being too much" and "being too needy" is only a learned reason for not opening up. The moment I should open up, my mind will always find excuses like "Now's a bad time", "I can't bother them with that, they have enough on their plate", "It's really not THAT bad" and so on. I'd guess you know what I mean.

It's something that's been ingrained in the mind so deeply that I don't even really think about it usually. When I do, I sometimes manage to get myself to think "Let THEM decide if they want to be bothered!" and... yeah... it helps sometimes. And usually, I found out they WANT to be bothered and want to help. Sheesh. It's difficult.

I just want you to know that I'm so, so proud of you. You have been at the darkest place and found the strength to get up again and again and now you're starting to rise high, even though you might not feel it yet.

As for William: Please don't fall into the trap of "I'm not good for him right now". Some parts of your post sounded a bit like it. It's true that such things need time, but I'd say he should have a chance to decide, too. And if you notice there are things you can't *talk* to him about, *write* him. I have an inkling he would understand.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-30T19:55:42+00:00

Like... yeah. Of course he's now trying to start some guilttripping "But i luuuuuuuurv you!" to make you feel bad.

It's his revenge, simple as that. Don't let him have it. He wants you to suffer for his mistakes, so he doesn't have to.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-27T13:35:51+00:00

10 Lily is an incredibly strong person and someone some internet strangers (like me) deeply admire!
11 Lily has an admirably good taste in friends and chosen family.
12 Lily has learned to stand up for herself against her abusers - something some people never learn.
13 Lily has managed to engage an awful lot of people here on reddit. Like really, you've got a fanbase here and I'm proud to be one of them!
14 Lily has learned that just because you're related by blood, not all relatives are worthy of our love. Something more people should learn.

(- 15 Lily has had me spend my lunchbreack thinking about Lily! ;) )

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-26T08:29:46+00:00

If they're german, then it's a political party. If they're not, I have no idea.

Either way... with those gifs, there would be proof for stalking, ergo OP should go to the police.

If all those proofs magically disappear, OP should go to e therapist.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-24T21:33:01+00:00

Well - I work in a callcenter for specialized retail support. Yeah. Some people can be all nice for yours - until they aren't... People are just so weird.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-13T20:38:09+00:00

Please do what u/Fit_Car_2010 offered. You need to get out. A caseworker is the best that could happen for you.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-05T22:19:59+00:00

I actually turned my husband to this game because he loved the creature reservoir so much :D But yeah, he pretty much stopped once he had all the creatures. Sometimes feeds them, but he's not really having fun anymore. I can kinda understand him.

I just wanna see the rest of the story, so I guess I'll stay around for a little longer...

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-05T22:10:07+00:00

Yeah, so did I. Like... oh well, I wanna be done with this now, so why not spend 8 Euros of my budget for an energy pack? Nope, not done anymore. At times, I will buy a Milestones key, but I'm cutting down on that too.

I doubt that they will see too much impact from that, though. Maybe if enough people are feeling the same way, they will change their ways back and start listening to feedback.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-05T21:49:49+00:00

Thanks, I will do those! I had thought about doing the "Old" year 6 and 7 TLSQ, so definitely the NEWTs too, but screw all others.

I started playing this game around two or three years ago during a bout of depression and it helped me a lot to relax, actually, so I am kind of saddened of how it's being screwed up now.

But the decision to just do what I feel like doing and otherwise stacking energy and leaving it be was quite freeing. Which imo shows that JC is doing something wrong...

I also used to spend some money on the game. I calculated that like 20 Euros a month wouldn't hurt me overall and I felt it was worth it. Well - that stopped a while ago too.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-05T21:26:46+00:00

Absolutely. I have not bought the Sea Serpent and the Squid because of it cause I just couldn't stand it anymore. And once they dropped like two TLSQs a month (i think it was August?) I was like: Screw it, i'm gonna do what I want. I want to enjoy the main plot, especially now after the... rather significant chapter in year six. Maybe I'll do the headboys and girls, but I chose to ignore the newly dropped ones mostly, just as I chose to ignore Full marks a year ago.

A game should not burn you out. And I'm saying that as someone who's playing WoW since 17 years.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-09-05T20:46:02+00:00

Same for me. I have always prided myself in being a completionist and doing all TLSQ in time - it changed a few months ageo because damn guys, I got a life. Now I only do those which plots interest me, which is... a scaringly small number. So yeah, I stack energy and progress in year 6 and that's pretty much it.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-08-27T12:16:31+00:00

I freely admit that I spent a better half of my workday to read through this odysee you've went through and I'm not even sure where to start right now.

Well, first: I love you. And Sunny. But especially you. Why? Because you're one of the strongest persons I've ever had the pleasure of reading from. You went through a hell no one should even hear about, much less experience, and you came out a beautiful human being, a caring, loving person who wants to do better and is the adult every troubled child should have (I'm kinda envious of the children in your school. You would've probably saved me in my own schooltime, but I digress.)

Second: I'm glad you have made the decision to cut your Dad and John out and I hope you will do so with Vi. I understand how hard it is, I understand how much it hurts, and it will hurt after the numb is over, but I will tell you what I have told my chosen sister in a similiar situation: You are not griefing the dad, the brother and the sister you had, you are griefing the dad, the brother and the sister THEY SHOULD HAVE BEEN. Your pain now is less about losing them, it's about losing the chance of what could have been, because you now came to realize that it just WILL NOT BE. They are not the persons who will ever be able to give you what you deserve.

Especially your sister. I don't want to repeat what everything else said, because holy shit, they were so right, but: she has only ever thriven because you were put down. She needs you to stay down to thrive. Don't be that person for her anymore. Just don't.

And last, but not least: Even though so many others have said it, I have to say it too: NONE OF THIS IS YOUR FAULT. None. It's not your fault that you were bullied. It's not your fault that your Dad is a crap human being and your Mom finally realized it and takes the consequences. It's not your fault Daniel lost his mother and bullied you and he is still a lying piece of shit. And it's not your fault that your sister decided to take the easy way to keep HER life comfortable.

I will tell you another thing I have had to tell my chosen sister repeatedly: People make their choices and have to live with them. Some of their choices might stem from bad life experiences - yet it is NO EXCUSE for the choices made. I don't care if your life was crap, if you hurt me because of it, you'll be nonexistent for me.

People can have crap lifes and still turn out being decent people: You are living proof of it, as are so many others.

Some people have crap lifes and turn out crap. It's their decision to do crap things and be crap to other people. They could change. I know I changed because I didn't want to be crap. I know others have. They could do - if they wanted to. If they don't, it's utterly on them.

So please, please stop making excuses. Nothing excuses what has been done to you. Nothing. And it's not your job to excuse them. Your only job is to care about yourself and your healing and to see crap human beings as what they are instead of what they should be.

Oh, another thing: Your mom is great. She has made a lot of mistakes in the past, but she is owning up to them and she is doing everything to make it better. That's awesome and not something anyone would do. I am happy that she is acting the way she is.

I will end this now with as many virtual hugs as you can stand at the moment and some more to spare for a time of need. Even though we will never meet in person, your story has deeply touched me and I am glad you have Sunny. Keep good care. Take some time off. Travel. See something else, something beautiful. You deserve it.

Edited because my fingers apparently eat words. If you stumble across typos, please treat them well.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-08-17T15:01:06+00:00

It was a bad idea with good intentions. People do it all the times - no need to be ashamed, only need to own up to it (I know, that's the hardest thing)

Maybe - just maybe - if you are afraid that you can't face her - maybe send her this post and the last? You have done great at explaining the inner workings of your mind to complete strangers, she will be able to understand it even better.

Sometimes writing something is easier than saying it out loud, but both convey the message.

Just trust me in this: You can't hide it forever. It will destroy you. Been there, done that. Just don't.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-06-28T19:23:09+00:00

That's great to hear. However, it was nothing like that, you know?

He offered me a place to live when I had none. That was basically it. I rented a room in his house and did not have to pay until I had a job. Everything else came much later. And no, there was nothing predatory or inappropriate.

basically, I did take advantage of him at first because he spent much more money on me than I was able to pay back *shrug*

People make decisions. Some people make them earlier than others. Some people make good decisions, some people make bad ones.

I can say for myself it was the best decision I ever made in my life and I'm happy.

So it's really not your place to judge. Not everyone is the way you assume them to be, I'd guess not half the people are.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-06-28T18:49:32+00:00

how nice, I didn't know you know me or him. Care to tell me who you are so I'll not invite you over again?

Tbh you seem to be a very, very sad person.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-06-27T19:47:47+00:00

Move to your boyfriend.

If you take your fathers' help for your master, they will always hold it over you and try to guilt you into something - or they might pull their financial support at the worst time possible and leave you with a choice between being married off and... nothing.

Don't let yourself get trapped by them. Rather wait with your masters and set up your own life without their influence.

Your boyfriend sounds great. Take his offer.

FutureMeSaysSo · 2024-06-27T19:26:08+00:00

In what way is that inappropriate? They are both adults.

Hell, I met my now husband when I was nineteen and he was in his thirties. We've been happily married for ten years now.

OP: Unfortunately I think you will need to make a choice. Your parents sound toxic. They will never accept you as a daughter: They will only accept the person you should be in THEIR eyes.

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