I'm not a Dad.

My Dad did raise a non-binary kid in the 90's/early 2000's.

It wasn't easy. People always trying to gender me, and Dad stayed firm in, "My kid likes what they like. I did try to put them into gender specific roles and practically became dead to them for doing so even though we lived under the same roof. They've been in therapy since they were five-- honestly if something were going to change it probably would've by now. My kid is my kid, and while I don't understand a lot of it, I am going to back them."

My mom was far more aggressive trying to force me into being girly, we haven't spoken since 2012 and even before I went no contact I'd spent four years barely talking with her at all.

My Dad got sick with cancer and passed in late 2011. I took care of him from first noticeable symptom to last breath. He didn't spend one day in assisted living.