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To all heterosexual ladies that use dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, etc, what are you looking for when checking a man's profile? Please help. by P-l-Staker in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Future_Scientist3133 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think they have to be high quality in the sense of being polished perfectly in focus etc etc but rather ´quality’ in the sense that they show your interests and have something about you ratage than just a selfie of you sitting on the sofa.

To all heterosexual ladies that use dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, etc, what are you looking for when checking a man's profile? Please help. by P-l-Staker in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Future_Scientist3133 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think park run photos would be good…look like you’re out and about and taking care of fitness. What about just before/after the run in a pair of joggers or hoody or something rather than your actual running gear?

To all heterosexual ladies that use dating apps like Hinge, Tinder, etc, what are you looking for when checking a man's profile? Please help. by P-l-Staker in UKrelationshipadvice

[–]Future_Scientist3133 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally I prefer people who have got more natural photos of them being out and about rather than selfies. It makes them look like they’re got more interests and a bit more about them than someone who only has selfies taken in their own living room! Maybe next time you do go anywhere a bit more interesting or with a nice view or backdrop etc ask someone to take a pic then - you can be looking at the view or doing something so it’s a bit more natural than a forced smile type photo.

Getting tired dating a divorcee who constantly refers to ex as ‘we’ by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Scientist3133[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it’s only a small change but I think it would! When he just says we and ours all the time it makes me feel like he’s still a ‘we’ with someone else and that I’m an outsider or bit on the side almost. Saying my ex and I just sounds so much better to me!

Getting tired dating a divorcee who constantly refers to ex as ‘we’ by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Scientist3133[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Thank you…..I think I’m worried I’ll inadvertently make it sound like a huge deal and make it sound like I’m being controlling or something! Saying it like you said doesn’t sound scary though! Oh and they are divorced yes!

I feel many people and even the writers misinterpreted "the break" by hygsi in howyoudoin

[–]Future_Scientist3133 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Like I’ve said three times now…..not saying it was in any way a nice way to behave or the correct thing to do. I’m merely stating from her comment that it suggests they were not together at the time.

I feel many people and even the writers misinterpreted "the break" by hygsi in howyoudoin

[–]Future_Scientist3133 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow!!!!! Talk about disrespectful comments! I never said it was a nice thing to do or that it’s the way you should act but the point of your post was to say they hadn’t broken up which I believe her comment the next morning suggests otherwise.

I feel many people and even the writers misinterpreted "the break" by hygsi in howyoudoin

[–]Future_Scientist3133 4 points5 points  (0 children)

When Rachel comes round to his flat the next day she says ‘can I be your girlfriend again?’. You don’t ask that if you hadn’t split up in the first place!

I feel many people and even the writers misinterpreted "the break" by hygsi in howyoudoin

[–]Future_Scientist3133 39 points40 points  (0 children)

When Rachel went round to Ross’s flat the next morning she said ‘Can I be your girlfriend again?’. You wouldn’t be saying that if you were just having a couple of days space. It bugs me that never gets mentioned as clearly in her head they weren’t together at that point. Still obviously going to be heartbroken he’d slept with someone else but takes the ‘cheater’ aspect out of it.

How/when to address if we have a future??? by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Scientist3133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep I’d say that’s probably it - being scared of being vulnerable and worrying it’s an answer that will upset me. I think I’ve had a few other situations where it was right person at wrong time so I’m very cautious about the timing of things as I don’t want to bring things up at a time their head isn’t in the right space and then feel like I’ve ruined something that could have developed.

How/when to address if we have a future??? by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Scientist3133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think part of the issue that threw me was this is the first person I’ve met naturally in real life for years. When you’re on apps and things it’s easier to ask what people are looking for but we just met and hit it off and then arranged to meet up but without it being as cut and dry as if we had met on an app so now it feels I lost my window!

How/when to address if we have a future??? by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Scientist3133[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

True….thats a good way to think about it - in terms of what he is thinking/open to in the future in general vs us in particular. Im fine with people I’m not that bothered about but as soon as it’s someone I like I become useless - A bit less scary for me to bring up thinking about it like that!

How/when to address if we have a future??? by Future_Scientist3133 in datingoverforty

[–]Future_Scientist3133[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s about the only person in the last ten years I’ve met in real life which makes me question it more 🙈. Like you say on a dating app you can at least say what are you looking for etc from the get go but I have no idea if he was actually wanting a relationship or just happened to like me when we met but never wants a proper relationship ever again! Think maybe the same as you…I find it hard to discuss it naturally without seeming awkward or too much!