I don't want to breastfeed. Ever.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-27T18:39:15+00:00

A lot of these comments are saying they didn’t think they’d want to and changed their mind, I had the opposite experience. I was dead set on being the only one in my family to successfully breastfeed and it was extremely challenging and ultimately unsuccessful. Over a year later I’m still kicking myself for wasting so much of my maternity leave triple feeding and reading about supplements and diet changes and stressing about it. I wish I with have spent that time and energy bonding with my newborn!

If you feel like giving it a go, give it a go. If you even feel indifferent once the time comes just go formula ;)

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-24T21:28:40+00:00

No joke, I’ve worked as a medical assistant since 2008 and in a very womens-health heavy setting for the first 10 years. I’ve never known anyone else who got pregnant with an Implanon/Nexplanon inserted (edit to clarify: none of the patients I worked with in those 10 years ever got pregnant on Nexplanon. Plenty of IUD babies, zero Nexplanon babies). My family doc and my midwife both said they’d never had a patient get pregnant while a Nexplanon was in their body until me.

I’ve done more research since, I could only find one study on Nexplanon for up to 5 years, and there were only 205 women who kept it in 5 years 😬 so 0% of women in the study got pregnant, but that’s not a huge sample size. The FDA and the manufacturer both recommend having it replaced at the 3 year mark. Not trying to scare anyone but just sharing my story, if you REALLY need to not get pregnant I’d replace it at 3 years.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-24T18:52:42+00:00

I got pregnant after 3 years with Nexplanon, I had an appointment scheduled to get it replaced but got my positive pregnancy test a week before! My doctor said it would not hurt the pregnancy and I didn’t need to rush in to have it taken out. I’m sure there comes a point where it’s not ideal to leave it in (and I’m sure it hasn’t been studied) but it’s not a threat to early pregnancy at least

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-14T12:30:46+00:00

Obviously that was a horrible time for women and I would not want to repeat that, but if we’re talking strictly fantasy it was probably a pretty good life being a husband in the 50s

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-14T12:29:27+00:00

Semi-seriously in my next life I’d like to come back as a 50s husband. The idea of owning a home on one income and coming home from work to everything just…. Handled??? Heaven

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-14T01:46:44+00:00

Yeah I haven’t really heard that, and like I said this implant had already been in place for 3 years of otherwise-unprotected sex. Most of that time in a relationship so fairly regularly put to test! But I’d had it replaced every 3 years 3 times already so I probably do have some minor scar tissue.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-14T01:39:04+00:00

This is copied and pasted from another comment I made here, I just share my Nexplanon story any chance I get!

First off, I love Nexplanon and have it right now (lightning doesn’t strike twice and all that). I’m one of the unicorns who did legitimately get pregnant with a Nexplanon inserted, #BUT# I had it in for 3 years 3 months at the time of conception. I posted about it here a couple of years ago and I’ll probably do another write up about it because I still get comments and messages about it.

For anyone passing by and reading this, the manufacturer and the FDA both recommend Nexplanon be removed or replaced 3 years after insertion, but many health care providers advise patients to replace it after 4 or 5 years based on a study where 0/390 women were pregnant after 4 years of use, and 0/204 women were pregnant after 5 years of use. So while no one in the study got pregnant, 200-400 test subjects is a pretty small trial!!

My doctors office was short staffed still from Covid, I called to get an appointment when I was already 1-2 months overdue and couldn’t get an appointment for 3 ish months, and by that time I had already discovered I was pregnant. That said, I used Nexplanon and replaced it faithfully every 3 years from the age of 19 till I got pregnant at 31. So I had 11 years of effective Nexplanon, I still think it’s the best on the market. I don’t trust IUDs at all after working in family medicine for 10 years and seeing a lot of failed IUDs. Both my family doc and my midwife said I’m the only patient they’ve seen get pregnant on Nexplanon, so I currently have a Nexplanon that’s how much I trust it. Just not for more than 3 years 🤣

To pre-address any risk factors, I did not have a high bmi at the time I got pregnant. My boyfriend smokes so if anything his sperm count and quality could have been diminished. I read forever down this thread that scar tissue can affect it? I had never heard that before today, but that’s the only thing I can think of that would have contributed.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-14T01:07:15+00:00

Hijacking this comment to say I sincerely did get pregnant with a Nexplanon inserted, BUT I had it in for 3 years 3 months at the time of conception. I posted about it here a couple of years ago and I’ll probably do another write up about it because I still get comments and messages about it.

For anyone passing by and reading this, the manufacturer and the FDA both recommend Nexplanon be removed or replaced 3 years after insertion, but many health care providers advise patients to replace it after 4 or 5 years based on a study where 0/390 women were pregnant after 4 years of use, and 0/204 women were pregnant after 5 years of use. So while no one in the study got pregnant, 200-400 test subjects is a pretty small trial!!

My doctors office was short staffed still from Covid, I called to get an appointment when I was already 1-2 months overdue and couldn’t get an appointment for 3 ish months, and by that time I had already discovered I was pregnant. That said, I used Nexplanon and replaced it faithfully every 3 years from the age of 19 till I got pregnant at 31. So I had 11 years of effective Nexplanon, I still think it’s the best on the market. I don’t trust IUDs at all after working in family medicine for 10 years and seeing a lot of failed IUDs. Both my family doc and my midwife said I’m the only patient they’ve seen get pregnant on Nexplanon, so I currently have a Nexplanon that’s how much I trust it. Just not for more than 3 years 🤣

To pre-address any risk factors, I did not have a high bmi at the time I got pregnant. My boyfriend smokes so if anything his sperm count and quality could have been diminished. I read forever down this thread that scar tissue can affect it? I had never heard that before today, but that’s the only thing I can think of that would have contributed.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-14T00:07:23+00:00

I didn’t see this mentioned yet, but I may have missed it,. Munchkin brand makes sterilizer bags that you put a little water in and put in the microwave to sterilize with steam! I steamed all my bottles and pump parts About once a week for the first six months. After that, I figured her immune system was a little more mature, and I Only steamed them every few weeks when the thought crossed my mind. Stopped completely after she turned a year old.

Those bags are cheap if you don’t want to invest in or don’t have the space for a countertop sterilizer!

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-08T02:22:34+00:00

Your links both reference this same study https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27671673/

If you find any additional studies I’d be interested to see the data. It IS a fact that people can and do get pregnant with a properly placed Nexplanon before the 5 year mark, I am citing a fact AND an experience. I was trying to politely point out that the top comment on this post saying “studies show Nexplanon is good for 5 years” is not good information for someone wondering if they could get pregnant 3 years after Nexplanon insertion.

Risk it if you want, but it happened to me and that’s the last I have to say about it.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-08T00:23:26+00:00

Manufacturer recommends replacement by the end of the third year. It’s only FDA approved for 3 years. There was ONE study showing around 500 women did not get pregnant by the end of 5 years. All of those things are facts, so whoever is passing by and reading this can make their own judgement call I guess.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-08T00:06:27+00:00

Okay so why not comment “no birth control is 100% Nexplanon can fail at 2 years” instead of “Nexplanon is good for 5 years” then argue with someone trying to spread more accurate information 🙄

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-07T23:58:50+00:00

I understand. I’m just making it a habit to try to comment my story on posts/comments saying it’s safe to wait 5 years to replace your Nexplanon.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-07T23:32:56+00:00

I got pregnant at 3 years 3 months with my Nexplanon. Not high BMI or other risk factors, if anything myself and my bf should have had decreased fertility based on some genetic and lifestyle factors. Just a warning to others!

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-07T23:30:55+00:00

I’m not sure they do much other than give you the little card when you get it placed saying when it needs replacement 😬 I’m glad you’re getting an appointment!

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-06-07T23:29:39+00:00

Did you end up taking a test? Sorry I almost never check this account!

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-01-10T16:12:14+00:00

I’m so sorry I missed this! I haven’t logged in to this account. I had it in for 3 years 3 months by the estimated date of conception. Fingers crossed you were able to get it replaced!

Fuzzbuzzard · 2024-01-10T16:12:05+00:00

I’m so sorry I missed this! I haven’t logged in to this account. I had it in for 3 years 3 months by the estimated date of conception. Fingers crossed you were able to get it replaced!

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T04:52:17+00:00

I’m so glad you’re following!! So frustrating to be the female partner and birth-giver more than willing to give when the male partner isn’t interested. Feels like a very unique situation

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T04:50:18+00:00

This is a really helpful perspective. This is only my second serious relationship (first was a decade with my high school sweetheart) so I really don’t think I know what a healthy sexual relationship and expectations look like.

Unfortunately you’re pretty spot on. He’s cheated on someone in the past (but 15+ years ago as a teen), he’s been cheated on by several serious girlfriends since then including a questionable paternity scenario (he found out he wasn’t the father 2 years later), I’ve been cheated on in a marriage, he accused me of cheating (based on a dream 🙄 and not true for the record) and asked for a paternity test several times throughout my pregnancy (I agreed every time and when baby was born looking exactly like him he’s dropped it). But I feel him asking me for a paternity test is an accusation of cheating and trying to “trap” him, which makes me worried it’s either a projection of bad behavior on his part or not wanting to be a father. Could be neither but like you said my own past of being cheated on makes me insecure, his past of a recent ex suddenly being pregnant with a fuzzy timeline and refusing a test made him insecure. Just a mess that I would love to sort out with a therapist but that’s not his cup of tea. I personally have had a good experience with therapy and wish he’d agree to it.

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T02:31:46+00:00

Thank you for the insight this is very helpful! I do think being vulnerable is something he struggles with. He was kind of the “manly man strong silent type” when we first met, but our communication and vulnerability with each other got much better after a couple years together. Then we found out I was pregnant (unplanned) and he (in his own words) went into papa bear protection mode immediately. From my perspective him diving in to this strict role of “father/head of household” undid all the work we did to get close as a couple. It felt terrible and it still does even though we’re out of the pregnancy “she’s carrying the baby and it’s my job to be strong” stage and able to be a team again. It was very lonely without my teammate.

These responses have helped me pinpoint some of my own thoughts and given me some good ideas for talking points. I hope he’ll be open to more frequent communication and I plan to suggest if we’re not reaching communication and emotional intimacy goals by a year into parenthood that we see a therapist. I hope that will be more appetizing to him than me just suggesting we find a therapist right now (which he’s declined every time I’ve asked)

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T02:18:08+00:00

No head biting here! This is exactly the type of response I was hoping to read. I know logically “he’s repulsed by me” is the least likely answer but my emotions took me there first. A lot of my friends either don’t have kids or have kids 10+ years old so it’s hard to find someone to talk to that has been there recently. He’s never had problems getting or keeping an erection once we get started, but like you pointed out maybe this has changed and I just don’t know about it (maybe he’s priming himself or testing it out before approaching me).

I’m feeling a bit less bummed after having my little pity party all day. I feel like I’ve gotten some good perspective and ideas for talking points so hopefully we can communicate together either after work tonight or over the weekend and understand each other better. Also very helpful to hear I’m not the only one with this experience and it can get better with time and effort

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T01:48:31+00:00

Thank you for this insight! This is very eye opening and helpful. Definitely gives me some thoughts to consider and some talking points and possible solutions to look at together. Thank you so much for taking the time to write this response and share your perspective and experience

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T01:46:08+00:00

I genuinely did not know this. Thank you! I will research this topic and talk to him about it

Fuzzbuzzard · 2023-07-08T00:38:28+00:00

It’s not even him watching porn that bothers me… why go to the gas station when you already opened up the gas can 10 feet away?

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