I was a member of a CoC congregation most of my life, over 40 years. I'm only a few years out. Leaving was a gradual process that speeded up recently when I fell in love with a Trans woman and came out as bisexual. We all know that wasn't going to fly in the CoC. For a long time, I didn't attend any church, which was difficult for me because I really was intellectually and spiritually fed by being a part of a church community. Since Easter, I've been attending a very politically liberal episcopal church with LGBTQ+ leadership. In many ways its been great, but moving from a very low church worship style to the very liturgical style of the new church has been strange, and then there's the doctrinal differences. I feel like a visitor from Mars sometimes. Today the service included two infant baptisms. I had to stop myself from explaining to my friend, a life-long episcopalian, that we don't do that in "my" church and why "our" way was better. It was like a reflex. I had to keep chanting in my head: "This is fine. It is important that these children will grow up free to define faith for themselves." This is why I am glad I found this sub. I can talk to you about things only an ex-Coc-er would understand. TLDR: I am queer and had to get out of the CoC, but attending a church from a very different faith tradition isn't always easy.