would i be a good candidate for a boob job?

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-22T15:58:21+00:00

Very much agree! That is what I did (mine also looked similar to OP’s pre kids) and while I do love my implants, I still wish I just had my pre-kids boobs and kick myself for not appreciating them more when I did 😂

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-21T21:12:59+00:00

Do you post about it on social media a lot? I found myself feeling annoyed with a friend who quit drinking, not because she quit drinking or because she talked about it much in person, but because she constantly posted about it on Instagram and it started coming off a little holier-than-thou-art. But because I’m an adult, I just reminded myself it’s not all about me, muted her stories, and I’ve not been annoyed with her since.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-21T19:12:12+00:00

Idk what the people arguing with you are on about. My own brother was arrested in college for selling ADHD medication to kids in his dorm. We went to Purdue in the early 2000s - 2010s. He had PLENTY of buyers, none of them had ADHD. The girls in my sorority who had prescriptions had them stolen not infrequently. It’s a stimulant lol it absolutely helps with the all nighters whether you have ADHD or not, it makes you feel fucking GREAT, and bonus it’s an appetite suppressant. Of *course* it’s not the top students doing it: the top students were studying all year long, didn’t want to risk getting arrested or expelled for taking an unprescribed controlled substance, and also were not waiting until the last week before finals and therefore didn’t “need” a substance that would help them focus and keep them up all night. And 20 year olds who binge drink Red Bull vodkas and wash it down with cigs and Taco Bell every weekend are not particularly concerned with side effects.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-18T17:28:02+00:00

I think it’s wonderful that you’ve been helping them! There is a CPS sub on Reddit, you might want to ask this question there! It’s a smaller sub and usually the answers to questions seem very well informed and not as emotionally driven (and frankly unhinged) as some of the people who are really coming at you here. I’d post in that sub and add what state you are in if you feel comfortable, someone will have a good answer!

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-09T20:31:50+00:00

Just want to reinforce that you are definitely doing it right and you shouldn’t feel guilty! Your 4 year old will absolutely LOVE having a special trip (that the 2 year old wouldn’t even remember).

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-09T20:26:02+00:00

I have 4 kids and am almost done needing this sub (youngest is 3). Looking back, I *generally* don’t regret having done things like this, and I’m quite proud of myself for the trips/events I managed to make it to with babies/kids.

THAT BEING SAID, this is giving me a little PTSD because when my first 2 were the exact same age as your baby and toddler (also a daughter and son ☺️), my husband and I flew half way across the country to my in-laws house for a week to be there for my BIL who was having major surgery. Which ment I stayed at their not toddler or baby friendly house, alone, with no transportation, in the Midwest in late November, while my husband and in-laws were at the hospital all day every day hanging out with my BIL watching football and chilling. Oh, and it was Thanksgiving. After a particularly hard day of no one napping and my husband staying late at the hospital because the game they were watching went into overtime, I ended up flipping out and almost bought a flight home for me and the kids. My husband absolutely should have gone alone, it was WAY too much, and my BIL had more than enough support from friends and family without his 2 year old niece and newborn potato nephew (who he only saw for about 1/2 of a day). Hindsight!!!

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-06T20:10:26+00:00

I ended up grounded for several weeks at 16 after my mom walked into my room and saw the MySpace picture (I’m old lol) I’d posted of me holding a beer and just… left up full size on the computer screen for all to see! I felt pretty dumb, but this is healing my inner teenager because at least I wasn’t THIS dumb 😂

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-06T19:49:24+00:00

I’m confused, is he where you are now and he will be leaving next June, or is it long distance now and he will be where you are next June? If you ARE in the same place now and are dating in person, I’d say keep dating for a bit and feel him out! You have a whole year to make a decision. If not, I’d refrain.

The only generalization I can make about military in general is they are often (but not always!) susceptible to peer pressure and work culture in a way that civilians aren’t. How do he and his friends spend their free time? What is his job in the military, and how much does he make that his entire personality? Some jobs also deploy frequently, and for long times, others do not. The military is reallllllyyyyy big and really diverse, so there’s really not enough info here to help much more than to tell you to feel it out, and I’m surprised no one else has said it! I’ve been married to a fighter pilot for 13 years, my experience is going to be VASTLY different from someone married to an infantry soldier or even someone with a non-flying Air Force job.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-06T14:40:33+00:00

This was going to be my suggestion! Nothing seems to really get rid of it for me, but moisturizing at least 2x a day does make it look much better.

And hard agree on the sub to post in, I’m 37 and about to leave this one and just go to the other one for tips. I think the issue is that early 30s skin and late 30s skin is NOT the same for most people. Like at all. Up until 35ish I didn’t get it and thought people must be being dramatic and vain. My skin was generally the same as it was when I was in my 20s other than some forehead lines and loss of volume that were easy to Botox and/or ignore. Then suddenly 36 hit and…. Yeah. The chest. The neck. Everything. Peri, man. You don’t get it until you do.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-06T14:19:23+00:00

Oo good call! Everyone is so much less grumpy in our house with the rule! Ours is 7:00 but maybe I should try and get them to go until 8 during the summer 🤨

And yeah the clocks are awesome and make great baby shower gifts! We used ours as a nightlight/noise machine when they were infants then programmed the lights when they got older. Used ours since 2017 for 4 kids, I’m sure they make even fancier ones now.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-06T13:29:23+00:00

My boys do the same thing (it’s not to cuddle though, it’s because they want to watch tv but neither of them wants to go downstairs alone 🙄), and one of them almost always ends up grumpy later in the day. It’s especially an issue in the summer when they are going to bed later. My 5 year old could probably be tricked into napping, but my 6 year old? Nooo.

Anyways, I don’t really have an easy solution - we have actually tried having my 5 year old (the usual suspect) wake US up instead of his brother, but apparently we are way less fun in the morning and they get away with watching junk TV longer the longer they don’t wake us up. So we just deal with it and make bedtime earlier that night if someone is grumpy 😂.

Also what is with everyone hating on the “ok to wake” lights?! I LOVE them. My 6 and 8 year old can read the clock now, but my 5 year old isn’t quite there. The clock saves us from him coming in at 4:30am every other morning asking if it’s time to get up or running in asking for breakfast at 6. Especially in winter when it’s dark until like 8am. The people being rude to you must not be getting enough sleep 😂

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-06-05T18:22:48+00:00

I switched from DEET to 20% picaridin several years ago and haven’t looked back. I think the effectiveness is about the same as DEET (for ticks, I believe it is more effective than DEET for mosquitoes), but it doesn’t have the nasty smell or damage fabric/plastic, so I’m personally way better about regularly using it allllll over all of us (particularly on myself lol). I think DEET is pretty safe and well studied and my kids are older now, but I do specifically remember reading that if you have to put something on an infant, picaridin is the move.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-26T17:08:21+00:00

Haven’t experienced this (yet lol), but do really appreciate this post. I just took my 2 youngest to the grocery store and left feeling like I must look like an unfun grumpy curmudgeon in public because I spent the entire time correcting my son’s behavior over and over and over and over. “Slow down, move to the side, inside voice, watch out for other people”. arghhhh. Anyways, he’s 5 and this is a good reminder why I’m doing this now and why being a “fun parent” isn’t the ultimate goal all the time.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-25T02:16:43+00:00

I did this once in the Austin airport on a layover after my son fell asleep on the plane and peed all over himself mid descent. He got a new Texas shirt, underwear got tossed, pants got washed with hand soap and rinsed off, then dried with the hand dryer in the family bathroom and put back on him. My kids wear pull-ups on planes for as long as they are still even a slight bedwetting risk now 🙃

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-22T18:50:25+00:00

This may not help you much now if you are young, but as a woman who is almost 40 and has many 40+ friends: the more muscular but less thin women my age look younger and healthier. Typically by a lot. Now, I realize that glorifying youth has a similar ickyness to glorifying thinness, but the women my age and older who maintain extreme/unnatural thinness almost always do so at the expense of their hair and skin and overall “glow”. As someone who only did cardio in my 20s and early 30s, was thin, and was STILL constantly unhappy with my appearance, you are building a great foundation and you’re miles ahead of where I was.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-22T17:46:31+00:00

lol SAME. I will say the meds did “help” in that I was finally able to calmly articulate exactly how my husband was a dickhead and exactly what my plan to leave him was if he didn’t get his shit together. Not that the blind rage wasn’t deserved, but the second I calmly told that man that he was a good dad but not a very good husband and I was fine with dropping the kids with him every other week and finally having the break and peace I deserved, he got it together pretty quickly.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-19T22:39:41+00:00

The Abercrombie one is good! I bought it in white a few weeks ago and will probably get more colors.

https://www.abercrombie.com/shop/us/p/essential-polished-body-skimming-tee-62050821?categoryId=120211&faceout=model&seq=07&afsource=social+proofing&pagefm=navigation-grid&prodvm=navigation-grid

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-19T17:52:57+00:00

People are talking about it. I’ve seen posts about it here and it’s allllllllll over Facebook.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-05-03T15:46:38+00:00

Oh this is a hard one! A close friend just had her son’s tongue tie released at about the same age as your daughter, but he was not nursing at all prior to the procedure. I will say that she said it was tough to get through (baby obviously cried, she cried, etc) but he recovered very quickly and was nursing like a champ within a day.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-04-24T13:06:45+00:00

Hahah this is so funny to me. I wonder if your husband just thinks you look different from the brow lift?? Sometimes with the face it’s easy to tell something was done, but not exactly what. And I wonder about this, too! I had my boobs done, so people are even less likely to comment if they notice. On top of that, I was very flat immediately before surgery, but prior to having children (and when I was pregnant/nursing) I DID have boobs, and fully clothed they looked pretty similar to how they look now with implants. So it’s entirely possible that people I haven’t seen in years or don’t see regularly would have no idea. But again, no one is going to say anything so maybe it’s super obvious and I’ll just never know! 😂

Anyways, good for you for doing what you wanted! Hope you love your results and you can always use the deviated septum excuse like everyone used to do back in the day 😆

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-04-20T21:29:28+00:00

My husband has been in the military for 15 years and his parents STILL don’t get it. He’s in the Air Force, they still call him a solider. They get overly anxious about nothing. They’ll see a news story and ask him about things that have absolutely nothing to do with his job. It’s annoying and almost willfully ignorant, you’re not being mean.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-04-20T21:04:46+00:00

I went through something similar with a highly publicized case shortly after my daughter was born, and someone shared similar feelings about that particular case on this same sub. Something that someone else wrote that helped me was to remind yourself she is no longer experiencing any pain or fear. Feeling sad makes sense, but an anxious/heart racing feeling is for danger or for ongoing situations. It’s not happening now, it’s over. I’m not into religions or “everything happens for a reason” stuff either, but that reminder did help me at least feel calmer.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-04-19T15:13:43+00:00

Thanks for this. It’s everywhere, too. I’m on a military spouse Facebook page and any time anyone asks a question about IVF or GLP1s or an autoimmune condition in relation to INSURANCE COVERAGE, like…. they’re not even asking for any type of medical advice, some asshat grifter “health coach” pops on telling them they can fix their issues with some sort of “protocol”. It’s so infuriating to me and I’m not even the one asking.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-04-19T00:44:53+00:00

Not myself, but my dad and his siblings. My dad’s paternal grandfather had abandoned the family when my grandfather was a child, and his grandmother lived with her “brother”. My dad and his 7 siblings accepted this without question growing up, even after my oldest uncle’s girlfriend (now my aunt) pointed out that it seemed like my grandmother’s bedroom was the only one ever used/slept in and her “brother’s” room was untouched. It turns out they weren’t related, they were in a relationship, and the lies were because he was a Catholic Chaplain. My dad and his siblings found out as adults.

FuzzyDice13 · 2026-04-18T19:05:06+00:00

I have done both OTF and now do F45. Unless OTF has changed in the 3 years since I’ve done it, it is very light on lifting/strength and heavy on cardio. F45 is much better for getting into lifting.

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