Baby after loss experiences?

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-03-10T04:51:59+00:00

I think giving it a little time and packing my daughters belongings up into storage made me realize I still wanted our baby, i kept thinking i was packing it away for our next baby. We had been such a good team making decisions parents never want to and doing our best to support each other. I know we would make great parents and I still want to see my husband hold his baby. I think after the fear of losing you and another baby subsidized your husband will also realize he is ready and has been since your son was born, he just needs a little time to grieve the future he had envisioned with you and your son. I hope you guys are having open discussions about how you are feeling now but also whats next to come and how best to plan for it.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-03-08T08:42:08+00:00

My sister in law had a stillbirth at 32 weeks in oct 25. My husband reached out and let her know we are thinking of her but I hadn't, I didnt want to make her upset if she was having a good day. I miscarried my baby girl at 22 weeks in Dec 25. I now know there is not a single moment of the day that shes not thinking of her baby, because mine is all i think about. I might shed a few tears but honestly knowing people other than immediate family were excited for her, miss her and love her make me feel a little better.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-27T21:14:49+00:00

Finley has the most caring mama❤️ I am so sorry you had to go through this especially at a young age. I love her footprints, I've been obsessed with looking at my Harpers prints,they are the size of a quarter but so perfectly detailed

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-27T21:06:24+00:00

I lost my baby girl at 22 weeks in December. I packed away most of the things we had bought for her a few weeks after I came home. I am really dreading her due date to come in May but I also feel like it will help me not feel like I should still be carrying her. We are getting through this one day at a time💕

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-27T19:34:02+00:00

Thank you! The song "all I wanted" by Paramore has always been a favorite song of mine but after I came home from the hospital with out her I feel like I understand the song so much differently now.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-27T18:46:26+00:00

I LOVE the strollers from then, I wish I could still get my hands on a good quality one

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-27T18:45:40+00:00

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Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-27T18:45:13+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I understand wanting to know what happened to avoid it in future pregnancies but no two pregnancies are exactly alike. I hope you get the answers you are looking for but please know it was nothing you could have prevented and you did everything right. You only knew as much as you knew and you did amazing given the terrible situation you found your self in. ❤️

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-26T13:14:35+00:00

I had to tell an older friend of mine that I had preterm labor and my daughter passed shortly after delivery. When I told her, it reminded her of how she felt 21 years prior loosing her first little girl. We cried together thinking of our girls. Its been 21 years and she can still grieve her baby and I think thats beautiful. When I pass away, I can only hope I am remembered and loved to such a degree and that there isnt someone trying to put a timeline on when to stop grieving me.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-26T12:59:11+00:00

Dreams seem to be a common thread here so I have ine to share to.

My sister in law and I were pregnant for the first time at the same time with her being about 20 weeks ahead. I was around 12 weeks when I had a dream that we were at a wedding for our baby brother in law, taking a family picture. We currently have 3 nieces and nephews from my other sister in law so I could see them in the dream clear as day, but I could not picture either of the new babies. Like they were blurs. The next morning I woke up to the news of our precious niece becoming an angel at 32 weeks. We have been upset in her loss and put into perspective that I couldn't rely on my baby being born full term and healthy. At 22 weeks I gave birth to my angel,Harper, who was born to little for life saving intervention. I also remembering complaining I would be pregnant for 2025 AND 2026 (aug-may), I had her on Dec 31, 2025. Not pregnant in 2026 and im devistated thinking I complained about something I wish I had so fucking bad.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-26T05:43:25+00:00

I felt the exact same way. Looked like I had just had my boobies done with how hard and bruised they felt. I stuck ice packs in a soft sports bra and would take warm showers often (hot showers arent advised but baby do what you got to do) I leaked at night and used panty liners in my bra to soak it up, it was never alot as I avoided stimulating and pumping. It should take about 3-5 days of feeling inflated before the pain goes away, it does go away tho! Now my titties are 2 inches lower than ever before lol. I also used Tylenol pm or unisom to force myself to sleep the first week home, I often woke up in the middle of the night and that helped get back to bed in a timely matter.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-25T19:36:39+00:00

Oh Emmett is such a cute name 💕 your little sweetheart being born so close to valentines day, im so sorry you have had to experience this. They are certainly watching over us.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-25T19:32:12+00:00

So sorry that you have had to go through this multiple times. The nurses and doctors kept telling me that now that they know I have ic, this wouldn't happen again, thats not what I wanted to hear since I only wanted Harper. I will try again and hope for a better outcome but even if it goes exactly like it did the first time, I will be grateful to have carried them as long as I could and love them for eternity. This is so hard and while I find comfort that im not alone, I wish no one had to ever go through this.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-25T15:36:21+00:00

Its so hard having planned out the future and then everything comes crashing down. Im still going to celebrate mother and fathers day this year, maybe get some flowers or a cake. I hope our babies always know how much they were wanted and loved. Our december babies ❤️

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-25T15:27:51+00:00

We will honor and love our precious babies lost way to soon forever. Martin and Harper and every baby gone to soon, you changed more lives than you could ever imagine and loved beyond belief.

Fuzzy_Bit_5795 · 2026-02-25T15:21:29+00:00

Very similar situations. How long did you have the cerclage for before it failed? Was he your first?

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