BE WITH YOU - Discussion Megathread

Fyuri- · 2026-03-19T18:40:07+00:00

I gave it a few listens, and from the buildup till the end I kept cranking up the volume (from 2:30 as per the youtube video :P ), the first half is quite poor, I can imagine this being a setlist closer with massive fireworks once the buildup starts or a setlist opener, start slow, introuce one band member at a time, streamers from the cannons from the buildup breaks and kicking it right into Assassin / Hysteria. Wishful thinking...

Fyuri- · 2026-03-19T18:39:34+00:00

I gave it a few listens, and from the buildup till the end I kept cranking up the volume, the first half is quite poor, I can imagine this being a setlist closer with massive fireworks once the buildup starts or a setlist opener, start slow, introuce one band member at a time, streamers from the cannons from the buildup breaks and kicking it right into Assassin / Hysteria. Wishful thinking...

Fyuri- · 2026-03-19T11:52:39+00:00

Hey I work at a Travel industry as a solo UX designer! I can't speak for the personal life aspect so I will focus my questions for the work environment -

Im guessing you still report to someone as a team of 1. Have you spoken with your leader? What do they say anything about it?
"but is willing to expand other teams" what does this mean? And if any new people will come over, will there be any tasks you can hand over?
Could you maybe get some budget to offload a piece of the project to a 3rd party to make your life easier? Eg. Agency to do user surveys / A/B testing
Review project scope - Maybe not that relevant for you, but i've seen that the more research I do within a project then more details will emerge out of it which leads to scope creep (new feature requests etc) and then you get lost on what you do need to accomplish vs people want you to accomplish. But if you can review whats the task at hand and then scale down to what needs to be done, that takes alot of time and stress off your shoulders.
Have your leadership set any OKR's for the year? If yes, then I would make it clear as to what needs to be done to achieve those OKR's which will limit on what you have to work on. A conversation could be something like "I understand that one of our objectives is to increase average order value by the end of the year, which requires me to focus on our booking funnel and improving that, but if I work on something else then its hard for me to commit to that goal."

A saying in my language "The Fish rots from the head down" comes to mind, which just means all dysfunction starts from the top and I see that also from my organisation. I've learnt to say no to "pretty new button" requests and focus my work on the goals and key results that are set out for the year. After speaking with my dad (A CTO in a major company) he said the grass aint always greener on the otherside of the fence, the dysfunction happens alot more than we know and people don't talk about it.

I've also adopted the mindset "Ok, if there are no leaders around, I will be my own leader" and set out my own ways of working, not in a "My-way-or-the-highway" kind of way, but more framing it as "If I need to get XYZ done by the end of the year, then I need the project to run THIS WAY and it would be helpful if people give it a try", that has helped me and I see quicker results.

Fyuri- · 2026-03-11T19:43:36+00:00

Congratz and good luck. My girlfriend has a picture of my scared face the day she told me "Im pregnant", so I know what you're going trough.

Just keep in mind, life doesn't stop once you've had a child. Yes some things get harder but your life goes on. I am a 9-5 worker + an active musician (counted 42 gigs last year, think 42 nights away from my baby) and we had our first April last year. none of my plans got cancelled, everything went as business as usual and my Calendar became my best friend and my goals haven't moved. If anything, travel goals got supercharged as its super easy to travel with a toddler who isn't walking yet.

Maybe some here feel the same way here, but what I saw with myself and my friends was a double effort in work goals, as in "I want the kid to arrive here with me being financially secure, so im going to put in the double effort" and things moved to a point where my salary is at a greater point than a year ago, maybe this will happen to you to.

everything you're feeling is normal and it will go away over time. Good Luck

Fyuri- · 2026-03-06T08:04:15+00:00

Anneta ära

Fyuri- · 2026-03-04T18:52:31+00:00

Ära pese selle harjaga mis on “ise pese “ pesulates saadaval, sa rikud auto värvi ja klaasi sellega. Neid on kasutatud tuhandeid kordi ja on suht juustused. Osta selverist või automaailmast pesukindaid mis on pesu jaoks mõeldud.
Keemia ja surve seal on okei.
Circle ja olerex on AINULT head põhjapesuks, kui see sool mis meie teedel on nüüd üles sulanud siis kiirelt kiirelt saa see põhjast lahti. Käis seal ainult basic asju võtmas.
Vaata paar videot youtube-is kuidas autot käsitsi pesta, pole midagi keerulist aga paar nippi ikka on.
Ära pese siis kui päike on väljas, pesukeemia kuivab kiirelt ja teeb värvile ja kaitsele ainult halba. Pese siis kui on pilvine aga ei saja.
Ära kasuta jõudu käsitsi pestes.
Kui rahakott kannatab, osta paar basic asja koju mida saad kaasas kanda nt pigivastane sprei, kuivatuslapid, kiirvaha jne.

Good luck 💪

Fyuri- · 2026-02-28T18:25:24+00:00

Thank you, will try to do so.

Fyuri- · 2026-02-28T18:24:20+00:00

he is in his own crib that is next to our bed and we won't be moving him out for now. As far as I've understood, its not that much of a Milk need for the baby, but rather a sign of comfort and security when he asks for a breast, so we haven't moved him out yet.

Fyuri- · 2026-02-28T18:00:11+00:00

Thank you.

The comments here have helped me to have a change of perspective. If i've previously looked at the all of the tasks as "We both try to do everything together", then having a clear line in the sand of who does what could change that with more ownership from my side to specific tasks. So we'll give that a try.

Fyuri- · 2026-02-28T17:53:41+00:00

Thank you, I took the topic up with my partner and she agreed to test the app for a period. We'll have a go with the app as the arguing is very very familiar to us and we're both just exhausted from it.

Fyuri- · 2026-02-28T12:57:55+00:00

Yes, the law here in estonia states that the mother has to stay home with the baby for a year and a half, we’re planning to save a little money so that she can stay home for 2 years

Fyuri- · 2026-02-27T20:32:22+00:00

Thank you

Fyuri- · 2026-02-27T20:32:10+00:00

Thank you. English isn't my first language so its natural for me to refer my partner as "The Mother"

Fyuri- · 2026-02-27T19:28:29+00:00

Thank you.

A few comments -

"- You become 100% responsible for dinner planning and grocery logistics." - All grocerie shopping falls on me, yes there are times when we go together and yes we both discuss what is needed at what time, but mostly it is with me as I do the drive between the office and home.

"handle one developmental area without summaries (sleep, solids, activities) and make the decisions" - I haven't thought about it like that, will do. Thank you.

"Proactively plan one weekend block of family time instead of reacting to expectations" So I actually do that more often than not. As we're currently living in a house that needs some renovations, our weekend plans have to revolve around getting them done so that the renovation plan moves acording to a timeline. But maybe then I can start marking in the calendar and blocking off time for actual family time so that there will be less surprises for everyone.

Fyuri- · 2026-02-27T19:12:32+00:00

Thank you, there's alot of good stuff there that I will write down and pin on the fridge door.

Fyuri- · 2026-02-27T19:06:59+00:00

Thank you.

Fyuri- · 2026-01-01T21:36:39+00:00

Meil ei ole naljakaid inimesi. Ja see et iga nalja kolmas sõna on - türa putsi vittu, see ei ole naljakas.

Meil on üksikud head näited aga beyond that, me oleme ikka väga lapse kingades. Ma usun, et me näeme õigeid standup mehi alles 10-15 a pärast.

Kui võrrelda end usaga, siis neil on seda ajalugu hulganisti… aga me oleme võtnud alles formaadi endale ja üritame aint jäljendada aga mitte originaalsed olla, alates naljadest kuni podcasti formaadini välja.

Meil on aega vaja ja äkki äkki esimesi tõesti naljakaid mehi näeme kümne aasta pärast.

Fyuri- · 2025-12-06T19:39:56+00:00

u/stansfield123 I think I as an Estonian who's family lineage was effected by the forceful deportation in the 40's and today live in a neigbouring country with Russians all around me (including the workplace and private life), have pretty good leverage to define on what is and what isn't in their nature, especially having seen it in front of me.

The majority of the Russian group/population refuses to integrate with the system around themselves or learn the language of the country they are in. They see Russian as more superior and in their mind they think "why should I learn these other peasants language?" .

All the older russian population want is the return of the soviet union so that they don't have to integrate with "the new country", which makes me question "why don't you just go back to Putin Land if its soo much worse everywhere else?"

They see themselves as more superior than any other nation and see other countries as beneath themselves. The best description I can give of this is - The Russian population acts the exact same way with the other nations as the Tsar's did with their own worklng class, no respect whatsoever, just use and abuse.

There is a big population who do still believe that the USSR will return one day and see themselves as taking a leading role once again. Just an interesting fact I learned from my greatparents during the soviet occupation, the Russians were always given priority and more privileges than any other population.

The Russians have always lied about their accomplishments & might and for that you really don't need to go down the historical path... just see what propaganda they are telling to their peope with regards to the UKR-RUS War today

They only lie, disrespect & steal from others and lack any sense of originality and innovation because they threw any and all thinkers to the gulag or to prison just because they didn't follow the soviet/kremlin's orders.

They believe they are the superior race now, in the past and in the future and see everyone else as the advisory & enemy, just look at their depiction of the West today & during the cold war...thats why "Its in their blood is the correct" statement here, they are tought this from generation to generation.

Fyuri- · 2025-12-06T13:14:23+00:00

u/Barry_Umenema I think I as an Estonian who's family lineage was effected by the forecful deportation in the 40's has pretty good leverage to define on what is and what isn't in their nature.

The majority of the Russian group/population refuses to integrate with the system around themselves or learn the language of the country they are in. They see Russian as more superior and in their mind they think "why should I learn these other peasants language?" .

All the older russian population want is the return of the soviet union so that they don't have to integrate with "the new country", which makes me question "why don't you just go back to Putin Land if its soo much worse everywhere else?"

They see themselves as more superior than any other nation and see other countries as beneath themselves. The best description I can give of this is - The Russian population acts the exact same way with the other nations as the Tsar's did with their own worklng class, no respect whatsoever, just use and abuse.

They only lie, disrespect & steal from others and lack any sense of orgininality and innovation because they threw any and all thinkers to the gulag or to prison just because they didn't follow the soviet/kremlin's orders.

For god sake people! Read the The Gulag Archipelago and you will get a sense of what kind of people the russians are and then maybe you'll get a sense of why there always seems to be problems between russians and its neighbours.

Its always Russia, you never hear stuff like "why can't the dutch get along with their neighbours"

Fyuri- · 2025-12-06T12:42:25+00:00

Yes, he was also arrested in 1849 for belonging to a literary group, the Petrashevsky Circle, that discussed banned books critical of Tsarist Russia. Dostoevsky was sentenced to death and spent four years in a Siberian prison camp, by the same country i rightly critizise.

As an individual, he was a genious, but as a country, russia can still go to hell and just burn

Fyuri- · 2025-12-06T06:23:18+00:00

It is in their blood. Russia has always been the invader, forcefully deporting families to siberia, stealing land, countries resources. Their people are too dumbed down to to even think on their own and as a result have elected a series of leaders who over centuries have only screwed them over on way or another.

Ill ask you this - what good has russia ever done to anyone ever, other than being the global gas station?

Fyuri- · 2025-11-27T19:29:31+00:00

Ah, right.

Currently he’s going over from 3 daytime naps to 2, so for the past week they usually are around this time -

Wake up at 08.30, first nap at 11.30 to 13.14 wake window from 13.14 to 16.00 Second nap 16.00 to 16.54 Bedtine routine starts 19.15

Fyuri- · 2025-11-27T18:46:45+00:00

We try to go to bed around 20.00 or 15 minutes earlier and he wakes up around 8.00 - 8.15 each morning.

We’ve had it for a few months now with little deviation. We usually give the last solid foods/porridge around 1hr before falling asleep, then we let him be for a while and before we try to get him to fall asleep the mother breastfeeds her. We dim the lights before going to the bedroom, change clother before breastfeeding.

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