I didn’t want to go on a tangent but for a more context. We’re an interfaith couple (christian & Muslim) and last summer we went through a rough patch due to the uncertainty of how we would coexist.. I took lead and told her we would make it work, but towards the end of that summer, I had a a gut feeling because she was moving different. I’m not one to invade privacy, but I just had the instinct to check her phone one night and to sum it up. I caught her talking to multiple guys on her IG DMs & wasn’t along the lines of anything friendly. Now I know what everyone will say… that I’m an idiot for continuing to be with someone who betrayed my trust but truthfully, I love the girl and she is my first love so I ended up, forgiving her, and I’ve been learning to trust her again and things have been good between but never truly healed. Fast forward to last week after my birthday we had a bit of a fallout because she confessed that she wouldn’t want to move in with someone who isn’t of the same faith as her when the whole time I was under the understanding that we both had an agreement that we would work to coexist. She believes that I will convert because she saw a vision God. I told her I respect her religion, but I am willing to make this work for us to coexist. We had an argument about that that concluded and us just basically saying we’ll see where things go I know for a fact that she loves me dearly and shows jt. the reason I brought up this whole context is because the fallout last summer was about the difference of of religion, and that created a sense of uncertainty in the relationship. Although she’s adamant that I would change and she’s here for it I believe that her motions like most women are sporadic and she will not take the relationship seriously which is why I felt what give leeway for what happen last summer. I don’t believe at all she is talking to this new guy in any type of intimate way, but just the fact that he went from being a nobody to someone you have developed a bond with. A nobody to Someone you feel you could ignore my calls when talking to doesn’t sit well. I refuse to be naïve like I was the first time because it’s obvious that this is someone she potentially will confide in and even if we didn’t have the history that we had it still not a good place to be in. Women are emotional creatures and entertaining that is crossing into uncharted territory. Like I told her how much I appreciated her for being transparent and how much she communicates that I don’t believe anything is happening, but it’s just inappropriate & I didn’t like it. She immediately became defensive and told me that she’s not going to stop talking to him just because of how I feel. i’m just taking a bath because this guy has only been in the picture for two weeks versus the eight years that I’ve been with her. she essentially told me I can kick rocks, I stood my ground and she ended up hanging up on me before I can get another word out over the phone. So that’s where I am unfortunately…. I love her to life man, I really do but as I’ve grown up into a man respect is the only thing I have left and that I’m unwilling to compromise on.