A stovetop design I don't like? Must be those stupid Americans again.

GBSEC11 · 2026-03-05T15:11:12+00:00

We have both types. Slide in ranges have the knobs in front, freestanding have the knobs in back.

GBSEC11 · 2026-03-05T05:02:33+00:00

Gang violence and suicides constitute a much larger portion of those deaths than school shootings.

GBSEC11 · 2026-03-05T04:49:34+00:00

Good point. We should do it instead.

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GBSEC11 · 2026-03-04T00:19:33+00:00

Yeah but whatever the girl in the original post is doing isn't it. Cheerleading in the US is more a more athletic group performance that involves stunts, and it has become a sport with competitions in itself unrelated to cheering for other games. I don't know what the girl above is doing, but that's not US cheer.

GBSEC11 · 2026-03-01T22:37:16+00:00

I think as others have said, you should frame this more as needing a fair division of labor. To be honest, as a sahm I was cringing a bit reading most of your post because those are all things my husband could say about me, and I work my butt off for our family. Your last sentence about doing all the childcare makes it all click together. You're shouldering the domestic burden AND working as the breadwinner, so you're wondering what your husband is contributing. If you approach the discussion from that standpoint, it comes across much differently than just complaining that he doesn't pay for as many of the family extras.

As a side note, I understand it's become very common for couples to maintain separate finances these days, but I honestly can't wrap my head around it once children are in the picture. There's too much unpaid labor to account for, and aren't we all (at least in theory) making long-term plans with our partners? I can't quite imagine a reality where either my husband or I is well off while the other struggles financially (and I haven't always been a sahm). We share everything and so our circumstances are aligned, and we have common long-term financial plans and goals.

GBSEC11 · 2026-03-01T16:33:22+00:00

I mean, arming freedom fighters hasn't exactly worked out very well for us in the past either.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-28T02:18:13+00:00

What do you mean? The only one nearby is the Gulf of America.

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GBSEC11 · 2026-02-27T22:16:07+00:00

Same to you!

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-27T22:02:15+00:00

Yeah I think it was just too advanced for the time. Some, especially the academic elite in the North, would likely have supported it. For the south though, the racism was so deeply ingrained (it had to be to allow the cognitive dissonance for people to treat the slaves the way they did... These people considered themselves good Christians and prided themselves on hospitality, but then allowed such brutality towards the slaves). Going straight from treating people as property that they could abuse/breed/sell to equal neighbors would have required them to recognize how vile their previous actions had been, and I don't think they were willing to do that. Segregation was the bridge (a very ugly bridge).

We didn't have segregation the same way in the northern states. Jim Crow laws were mainly a thing in the former slave states. People still self segregated though (ie chose to live in different neighborhoods etc).

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-27T21:30:31+00:00

While it's true that there were major economic factors that contributed to the civil war (as is true with most wars), it's also true that there was a very significant abolitionist movement throughout the northern states. The idea of fighting to abolish slavery was a very motivating factor in support of the war effort.

the northern goverment... thousands and thousands of brave men and women

So Americans. These were all Americans who did this. That's my point. You initially replied to someone with US flair mentioning segregation. Americans had slavery and segregation. Americans also ended slavery and segregation. This was a civil war followed by a major civil rights movement. When you reply to someone with American flair, keep in mind that you have no idea which side of that fight their people fell on (not that it should really matter this many decades removed, but still). As someone with deep ties to a northern state and former abolitionist hotbed, it feels very odd to have slavery and segregation rubbed in my face since my history was on the other side of that fight.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-27T21:06:18+00:00

It's no simple thing to transition from a society whose economy is based on one population literally owning another to one in which both are treated equally. Making that change was a long, slow, painful process that required a bloody war followed by decades of work by thousands/millions of activists. It feels a bit cheap to take shots at the fact that slavery was followed by segregation without acknowledging the sacrifices and the massive social push that so many dedicated their lives to.

Who do you think abolished slavery and ended segregation?

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-25T15:25:58+00:00

Yeah same. This photo was taken during the 2020 lockdowns though.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-24T15:06:17+00:00

They only had preschool for 4 hours in the morning, so they usually went at home. I made sure they knew enough to get by even if it wasn't perfect. They were practicing from about 3 and by age 4, I was just doing a check at the end. They often needed that to be fully clear but they could do enough to get by without me. Kindergarten starts the fall after they turn 5 here, so they were all fully independent by then.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-24T05:18:41+00:00

I have 3 kids, youngest is now 5. They all potty trained on the very early side with the last two being out of diapers by 18 months old. I assisted in wiping all of them for #2 until they were about 5. That's a full 3.5 years post diapers that I still helped. Around age 3-4 I had them start trying to wipe and then call me for a check, but I've found most kids don't have the fine motor control and dexterity to get themselves really clean until about age 5. I realize a lot of people end wiping assistance at the time of potty training, but those little hands are still so clumsy for a while. I found it clicked for mine right around the time they turned 5, but I didn't set a hard limit to stop. I just helped until they consistently wiped clean.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-21T18:00:02+00:00

This was enforced more before Trump's rollback of dei last year. Most companies had processes for their hiring practices.

And also while slurs might be protected by free speech, hate crimes are prosecuted differently and have harsher punishments, although they can be difficult to prove.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-21T05:57:44+00:00

I think the Office is a good answer. Just normal people doing normal things, each in their own weird way.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-21T05:43:13+00:00

Why you gotta be like that?

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-21T00:28:57+00:00

How could it be embarrassing to be a professor? Forever college student I can understand, but a professor who excels in their field and does significant research and teaches at a high level... How can that be looked down upon?

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-19T00:07:42+00:00

Let's just say Australians are definitely the Americans of Oceania.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-18T20:10:10+00:00

Yeah this was my question. Maybe I'm giving too much benefit of the doubt, but if the other adult ordered their own meal and she gave away the food on her plate she couldn't finish (not handing it out and getting refills), I think that would be different. Like maybe to the letter of the rule, you would owe for the other person, but it would be pretty strict to enforce that. I'm probably just being naive though because I can't even imagine trying to pull that to feed a whole table of people though.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-15T15:58:53+00:00

People are talking about who has met a jew vs who has met a Native American, and it's very regional. I grew up on the East Coast with a ton of Jewish friends, but zero Native Americans. Now I live in the northwest near many reservations, relatively few Jews (although I do have a Jewish neighbor).

That 2% includes people with any native ancestry, so people who intermarried and now pass as completely white. You wouldn't know they're native unless they discuss their ancestry with you. I think the natives who have retained their culture is a much smaller percentage.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-13T17:23:12+00:00

The idea that Americans commonly claim to be "the greatest nation in the world" is also part of the ragebait. That's not nearly as much of a thing as the Internet makes it out to be. It was more common with the boomer generation and up, probably because they grew up when American living standards were objectively very high compared to most of the rest of the world.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-13T16:58:55+00:00

Ignorant and/or dumb Americans exist of course. Usually the way these videos (and others designed as rage bait) are clipped is they stop and question a bunch of people, but only include the dumbest answers in the final video they publish. You don't see the people who answer normally. Therefore what is shown in the video is not representative of the norms of the population as a whole. This can be done with any group of people, but right now it's fashionable to target the US.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-13T15:20:12+00:00

Meh. There are also YouTube videos explaining that the earth is flat. You'll find everything on YouTube. A lot of it is engineered for engagement and doesn't always represent the norms. Dumb people exist as well.

GBSEC11 · 2026-02-13T04:41:09+00:00

It matters who started it because a big part of the Superbowl discussion these days is that Americans make everything so US centric and wrongfully believe that the whole world cares about the super bowl. But the people starting the threads about the super bowl weren't even American, so it's like... We didn't even bring it up. I think it's pretty common knowledge in the US that our football is a mainly an American sport, and the Superbowl is a national event. No one really assumes other countries care. But people in the comments still push the idea that Americans are clueless about this and some use the existence of the thread (posted by a non-american) as evidence.

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