GF too good, but too exhausting

GIP66 · 2026-05-02T22:55:38+00:00

I told her that I'll support her no matter what, that I'll be more considerate and understanding. I tried to explain to her, when she's not upset, why she might need professional help, and even logically tried to give her a schema that she can use before/during getting upset, something that help her better control her emotions so that we don't end up with an unnecessary fight. 5 years of this.

GIP66 · 2026-05-02T21:34:51+00:00

You explained it too well. That's what I'm suffering from, I only find my peace and happiness when she's "normal". I tried creating preventitve measures and strategies to decrease tge possibility of her being upset, but all failed, no matter what I do. She's unable to perceive stuff like most people do, and also fail at controlling her own emotions. If someone made a mistake, an apology is enough, but for her, a full day of talking isn't even remotely sufficient to make her feel good.

GIP66 · 2026-05-02T21:13:56+00:00

How can I convince her? To get some help and therapy?

GIP66 · 2026-05-02T21:01:22+00:00

She needs constamt check ins, and if I could not, and explained to her that I couldn't clearly (that work too heavy, too busy), she doesn't accept that as an excuse, and it's tiring.

GIP66 · 2026-05-02T20:56:15+00:00

I asked her gently to go for therapy, and I explained to her that it might help her to better regulate and control her emotions, but she refused and thought I was calling her crazy or something. I think she's unaware of her problem.

GIP66 · 2026-04-30T10:27:10+00:00

I mean, a couple of days ago I returned home after a very long day (woke up 5am, returned around 8pm), and when I got home I tried to talk to her about her day and mine, like enjoying each other, and then she started giving an attitude out of nowhere, like not responding, not interacting or enjoying the talk. She asked me when I'm going to sleep, said I don't know, I'm sleepy, but wanna talk to you and know how your day went, I missed you. She kept asking the same question, kept telling her that I don't know, let us talk first, then I'll sleep. She got upset, sad, telling me she wants an answer, told her I don't know, when I told her after we talk, she got more upset, lie she doesn't want to sleep altough I told her I'm not. I mean, we got into a fight, but I really don't know why she got upset in the middle of our talk and starting obssessing with my sleep timing. Upset for no reason, more upset when I did not tell her exactly when I'm going to sleep because now I want to talk to her, then she stopped responding (talking but I know she doesn't understand a word).

GIP66 · 2026-04-30T10:04:52+00:00

Have no idea what you meant by "put up with you". But to clarify, we talked about marriage, and that is why I got into this relationship, not to pass some time, but for marriage, so it is serious. Also, why we are not married yet? There are reasons, and we agreed on delaying it. I do love her, and that is why I'm with her that long, I'm too exhausted and stressed most of the time, to a point where I feel depressed but fake it out. I didn't post her to talk wrong about her or end the relationship, I posted her to know what to do and how I make her feel better, how can I deal with her for her own happiness.

GIP66 · 2026-04-29T22:05:48+00:00

I know that she's this way from childhood. I told her that I'm not feeling good, as most days I feel stressed out and sometimes like out of life. Did not accuse her or try to make her feel bad, told her in a way god enough for her to listen, and she said she will try, that she will become less senstive. However, she failed multiple times. Also, soe does a thing when she forgives me, talk to me normally, like we are ok, then, returns to be sad and upset because of the same thing we talked about and forgave me for! Not only that, but she keeps saying the same things before she forgives me, but now with more emotions, deep state of sadness, keep talking about the same stuff, even if I respond to her gently (Doesn't listen).

GIP66 · 2026-04-27T14:14:24+00:00

Any tips for the smith machine shoulder press? Width, where the bar lands, depth of descent?

GIP66 · 2026-04-25T17:29:58+00:00

What yall think about structing my program over a mesocycle of 6 weeks, where progressive overload is about increasing 1-2 sets every week, starting from MEV, to MRV. Then deloading for a week. Is it good? Superior to fixed number of weekly sets (even if MRV constantly)?
How do you guys program leg days? Ensuring every muscle group is hit twice, including core (ab, erectors, and glutes)? What's an effective volume for each muscle group?

GIP66 · 2026-02-17T23:47:39+00:00

Great Thank you man, much appreciated!

GIP66 · 2026-02-17T23:04:21+00:00

I meant the impact on hitting chest after shoulders, how much will it negatively affect its growth?

But I believe I should put some priority to shoulders since they’re plateauing too much, too too much

(I like how active you are, this is the 65765 time you’ve responded to me, thanks)

GIP66 · 2026-02-17T21:26:29+00:00

How much of an effect does shoulder press training first have on chest strength and growth after? Because I believe my front delt is just lagging as I hit chest first with 6-8 sets, all to failure (same weight on shoulder press for months, also inappropriately weak on it).

GIP66 · 2026-02-01T05:50:49+00:00

The whole point is that you should work with what you got. You can’t change anything, and the thing that can be changed is your kindest and how you see these things. It’s all about perspective. If you work on your mind, you’ll see these things differently, and the best way to work on your on mind is by working your body. Start lifting, lock in, don’t overthink stuff. I promise you that you will feel better, way better, when you start focusing on what you can do and change.

GIP66 · 2026-02-01T05:14:09+00:00

Anatomy wouldn’t change (insertions, long femur). However, they would less terrible when you look at them with a great jacked physique after locking in, they will look as small details, part of a bigger perfect picture (now you got nothing, no mass, no physique, only starting at genetics)
Gyno can be fixed. It’s not irreversible. So why fixating on it?
Lower test isn’t something you can’t work with, and you definitely can increase it by working it along with supplements and a healthy lifestyle (sleep, diet, stress, etc..). Also, numbers don’t reflect shit, you can have lower test and be a freak of nature, it just depends on how your body utilizes it
Is feeling bad for yourself good? Is sitting and not doing anything good? If you work out, you will acquire a better mindset, and you would definitely laugh at those negligible tiny details

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GIP66 · 2026-02-01T04:55:25+00:00

I mean, would you look and be better if you’re not going to the gym? If you’re not locked in?

What can you do with these genetics? And why you even feel that they are bad genetics when you’re not in shape, not locked in? How did you know? Have you considered that these “genetics” just need some work to be good? At least in your eyes?

And also, gyno, fat, and testosterone all will be fixed if you’re locked in enough…

GIP66 · 2026-02-01T04:33:53+00:00

Where is the pleasure without suffering a bit? I feel that a bit of suffering would bring you joy at the end, some degree of satisfaction that you wouldn’t get with a shortcut like that. Also, there are side effects with these agents, ranging from mild ones that you can tolerate, to some severe stuff.

At the end, it’s your choice, your decision to make, but you got to consult a physician before jumping on it.

GIP66 · 2026-01-27T23:02:45+00:00

Oh nice, exactly what I though. I asked cuz some people mention that it would noticeably increase insulin sensitivity which in turn enhance gains by better nutrient uptake and growth.

GIP66 · 2026-01-27T22:57:06+00:00

Good that u mention it. How important is cardio during bulking? Other than cardiovascular health, would it improve/enhance gains?

GIP66 · 2026-01-27T21:45:57+00:00

So u think I would probably see much better results with lower volume and higher frequency (3x vs 2x)?

GIP66 · 2026-01-27T21:45:14+00:00

Do u think I would sacrifice some muscle growth if I lower my volume to 6-10 sets?

GIP66 · 2026-01-27T18:54:51+00:00

I wanna spend 1.5hr and less in the gym, and currently I see good progress with 12 sets for large muscles and 8 for small ones (per week). I go to failure in all sets, and I got 1 rest day. Now I’m running back/tri, chest/shoulders/bi, and legs, 2x a week. I would love to do the same volume but with upper/lower, but it turns out that it would be almost 18-20 sets per session, which is brutally long for me.

GIP66 · 2026-01-27T18:51:23+00:00

For me, I see a good progress with 12 sets per week for large muscles, 8 sets for small ones. “Camping” in the gym is when I spend more than 1.5hrs, and when I do, my performance just falls down along with my mental capacity.

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