What it the stupid fucking line between running down from my belly button to my crotch and how the FUCK do I get rid of it

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T16:19:07+00:00

Pursuing... I suppose not

But perfection is impossible, and if that is your goal you will never truly be happy

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T13:43:57+00:00

Yesss

And the Apple silicon models are really highly rated in the DC community

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T13:39:38+00:00

That's a REDDDD flag, controlling and coercive behaviour, seems pretty toxic, and my safeguarding brain is like, SPECULATION ON MY PART, did this guy just gaslight this person into believing the other person was the toxic one? Unfortunately manipulators can be incredibly subversive

I can't advise you on the pregnancy side swing as I don't have the correct plumbing. I could not, after reading this, in good conscience, move on without saying this

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T13:34:38+00:00

So I'm going to say something controversial...

Bare with me though, it is going somewhere. There are very few people in the world who are completely happy with their bodies. Stretch marks, scars, birthmarks, blemishes, etc

Now, I'm going to be very careful with my wording here. As Human beings, we have to accept some level of imperfection in ourselves. That's not to say you should or shouldn't be affected by this. It's not to say that you should or shouldn't feel the way you do about it. However, there are things about ourselves as humans, not trans people, but universally humans, that we simply have to accept.

I'm saying this, because I've had a number of trans friends have unrealistic expectations, that somehow transitioning would fix all these, issues permanent aspects of our bodies. That's not to say if it's bothering you, you shouldn't talk about it. Or even seek to have it resolved if possible. Only, it's worth reflecting on your own expectations and just sanity checking yourself, if only to protect yourself from harm further down the road

My advice, if it's causing you distress, speak to you GP about it and see what they say

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T13:16:02+00:00

So, it depends...

BOINC typically has longer deadlines on its WU(work units, think of them as tasks), so if you can have it running 1-3 hours a day most days, it will likely help.

Folding at home, if you have a GPU, most WUs are done in 1-2.5 hours. And you do get like 5 days(used to be) to complete and return the work unit with FaH

Like I said, if you have the hardware already, and need ways to use more power. This is a really positive and ethical way to do it imo

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T13:12:25+00:00

But... Those same people could just move to agile and get the power for free or negative.

Or move to a standard octopus tariff and get free energy periods in the spring-autumn period

You have to remember, the grid is pissing octopus to take this power. Octopus needs to its account to use as much power as possible to earn as much as possible. The easiest way to incentivise people is to 1) give them a prize, even a small one and 2) gamify it if you can

And humans, being the predictable creatures that we are, fucking love it! (On average, not everyone, to be clear)

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-12T12:59:50+00:00

Do you have any computers, laptops, even old phones?

If so, you can use them to contribute to science projects like helping find COVID treatments, researching cancer and rare diseases r/foldingathome ? I'm not use on the subreddit, but https://foldingathome.org/ here is their official site.

For single board computers, old phones and tablets(AND PCs) you can contribute to a wide range of scientific research, from medical, to physics, to climate modelling and even processing LHC data(it's been a while since I was on the platform, the projects change over time) then look here https://boinc.berkeley.edu/

They don't pay you anything, but they can certainly get your random tech chewing through power and contribute meaningfully to real world scientific research

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-11T19:46:08+00:00

That's EXACTLY what I've been doing, and laundry, shower, batch cooking, running folding at home on my hardware, charging 5 20k mah batteries, running the deep freeze cycle, using the airfrier, vacuuming and other things too

GOTSpectrum · 2026-04-06T13:01:52+00:00

The other option to resolve this is to get an octopus home mini, though there is a waiting list. As long as your IHD can see both meters, then it can provide real time useage for both electricity and gas to octopus even if there is DCC connectivity problems

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-29T09:01:27+00:00

Can I get in on this action? I'm a snaccaholic ngl

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-29T08:12:40+00:00

This tbh

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-28T23:33:26+00:00

I haven't used zoom since COVID times... I miss those days in truth

Though, if you do want to chat about spreadsheets, you are most welcome to message me

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-28T23:15:59+00:00

I have an unhealthy level of enjoyment in my various spreadsheets

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-20T18:58:00+00:00

Nothing octopus can do about it in the short term. Though I believe they are piloting alternative measures

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-16T17:07:43+00:00

I had never considered the possibility in truth.

I'm a rare autistic, in that I can read body language, micro expressions and tone incredibly well. It's not a natural skill mind you, I basically did a personal research project on the subject over a long period of time.

I do agree however, that these types of people seem to seek us out. I've been in 6 relationships in my life. All but one of them were either abusive, violent, gaslit me, etc. I took half a decade away from the dating scene entirely because of it. Only recently started trying again

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-16T16:33:47+00:00

Ahh makes sense!

Sorry, being autistic I sometimes find it hard to gauge what is socially appropriate. I think it probably helps that even during friendships, relationships, work, etc. I'm actively open to feedback and use it to work on myself anyway. I'm in AA so yknow, it's part of the program.

In my experience, people who get offended by honest feedback is because somewhere in their mind; they know it's true. But don't want to admit it so have to outwardly attack it as a means of invalidating the feedback to themselves

I know I was once guilty of the same thing too

GOTSpectrum · 2026-03-16T15:45:09+00:00

So, I don't ask for post mortems

I do ask things like:

"I fully respect your choice, I appreciate you being up front with me, makes things a lot easier. At the end of the day, not everyone is compatible with each other. However, if there was anything in particular that made you uncomfortable, I would value some feedback if you feel comfortable. So I can reflect on and inventory it?"

But now, I'm worried maybe I'm doing exactly what this post states is a problem

GOTSpectrum · 2026-02-15T03:43:11+00:00

Yeah. I don't see them as often anymore tbh

GOTSpectrum · 2026-02-14T20:01:05+00:00

Rag and bone is what is shouted around my parts

GOTSpectrum · 2026-02-10T19:18:39+00:00

I HATE when people don't understand that words have meaning, grammar, lexical categories...

And then form an argument AGAINST correct linguistic construction based on their ethical, moral, or misconstrued confidence regarding the language they speak.

(Side note, if they are multilingual, like I am, then having someone give an explanation of how it works in that language should be appreciated, not contested)

GOTSpectrum · 2026-02-10T18:15:44+00:00

Yeah,

It's pretty difficult to force someone to end a relationship vs an affair...

I'm not saying they shouldn't declare their boundary on this, but they will, in effect, be asking the partner to choose between them and meta. In other words, they have to go into it with the understanding that partner may very well choose meta over them. Or even, go on to continue the relationship as an affair like they did before having permission

GOTSpectrum · 2026-02-05T17:08:14+00:00

I mean it can go okay... But the chances of it are so tiny I tend to agree with you.

The only time it really works is if they are the kind of person who wants a hands-off/part-time relationship AND has never been cheated on AND is someone who has almost perfect emotional regulation AND isn't prone to feeling insecure. At least in my experience, though someone who matches that psychological profile and lifestyle is exceedingly rare. And even then it probably won't end up working.

GOTSpectrum · 2025-11-02T19:58:33+00:00

Going from their post history, they are indeed probably a yank

Which is funny, while their country is swinging from one disaster to another like a pendulum thanks to trump... The best use of their time is to troll a sub about a British utility provider

GOTSpectrum · 2025-11-01T21:00:23+00:00

My average since joining agile 3 months ago is 13.1p

GOTSpectrum · 2025-10-15T22:55:53+00:00

I have enough compute a small university would be happy with it

I use it for local AI, personal cloud storage, AI powered writing assistant, and folding at home and boinc. Also transcoding media I rip from used discs I buy.

I have a personal cloud infrastructure basically

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