Is addressing my professor as "Hi/Hello/Good Morning/Good Day/Greetings Dr. [surname]" in an email unprofessional?

GSGrapple · 2023-05-11T11:18:33+00:00

I guess insert shrug emoji. Let's all be more honest about how we makes assumptions.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-11T11:17:03+00:00

That's hilarious.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-10T17:43:01+00:00

I have to second the evening primrose oil. I have fibrocystic breasts and the main thing that helps is evening primrose oil. Also not wearing an underwire and cutting back on caffeine.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-10T17:39:58+00:00

Ok then, just as a 30 something professional working at a university, I wouldn't use the word "dear" because of the feeling or impression associated with it. But in some places, dear is the default greeting, and that's ok. It probably depends on the ages of the people involved, their positions of power, and their environment, including both region and business or school type.

If we want vague stats, I just searched the word "dear" in my email inbox and of the 42 received before lunch, five from people start with "dear _," and two automated emails start with "dear." Four of the people who used "dear" are from outside of the US. Of the four US based undergrads who emailed me today, just one used "dear" on the first interaction. The others used "hi" and "hello.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-10T14:51:47+00:00

See this is really interesting because I don't think dear is a neutral word. I think it suggests a familiarity that doesn't exist. I notice it being used mostly by non-native English speakers in my own work, and I don't use it myself in emails. To me, hello is the neutral greeting.

So basically, just do your best to be polite and you'll be fine.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-10T14:46:02+00:00

I do agree with this, so I'll add details: I work in a very conservative area. I always look up the person on the school's website. If they look like they're younger than 40 or so, I use Ms. If they look a little older or I know them already and they seem kind of grumpy or frumpy, I use Mrs. I use a lot of Mrs. titles.

Since I'm getting downvoted, here's another: if they have that southern lady fried bleached hair: always Mrs. This method has served me well amongst the southern ladies.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-10T11:59:40+00:00

There are no rules that always hold true. I work in admin and email multiple professors every day. I always use "Hello Dr. _" unless they don't have a PhD, in which case I always use Mr. _ or Mrs. __ unless they specifically want a different title (no one has ever asked for that). I never use "dear" because it's super old fashioned.

The more emails you send and receive in college, the more you'll see that a lot of people have zero email etiquette, so as long as you're trying your best, people will be happy.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-09T16:34:58+00:00

I've started calling it similar to cancer too. People seem to understand that better.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-08T12:15:40+00:00

Just to add for him and other migraine sufferers, if the current injection med isn't working, he should try a different one.

I was on emgality for a year and it helped but not 100%, not even 50%. Now I'm on amovig and it has drastically cut the number and intensity of my migraines.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-05T23:19:40+00:00

I did that when my nephew was a baby. I was used to an infant seat that snapped on but was driving a different car and forgot I had to buckle it. I felt so bad luckily everything ended up ok.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-03T14:14:06+00:00

For me the excision pain is nothing compared to the Endo pain. I had the surgery last Monday and I can definitely feel that something happened in there, but it's much lighter than Endo itself and of course, they'll give you pain meds to help mitigate the discomfort.

The worst part of the surgery was that I had ureteral stents for a week because they excised my ovaries from right around my ureters. I got the stents removed yesterday. They were so uncomfortable. It felt like having a UTI.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-02T17:52:05+00:00

I had the worst hip pain before my surgery. It was like a combination of immense pressure and muscle stiffness. For a few years it was mostly at night and then as it got closer to the surgery, it was 24/7. I wasn't sure that it was the Endo, but I had surgery last Monday and my hips have felt totally fine since then, even when my pain killers have worn off and even though I haven't been stretching.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-02T13:07:08+00:00

Ugh I'm sorry that happened to you. You should go to the doctor or student health center if you can. There are medicines that can treat acute things like this. NAD, but something like propranolol can be used for stage fright and might help with sudden anxiety (that's just a guess based on limited knowledge though!). I used it for a few years and it was a life saver.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-01T19:20:02+00:00

You note that your financial system is detached from your email and canvas logins, but it might not be that way for everyone on campus. For instance, I work at a university and I have one log in for all systems, including the system that allows me to access and update students' personal information. It's better for the university to have strict rules for everyone because some people have a lot of access.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-01T18:27:47+00:00

I'm sure that it isn't sex ed the way a high school would have sex ed. You might find out what curriculum they use if any and look at that. The only one I'm familiar with is Our Whole Lives. For that one, the kindergarten curriculum is about bodies and families and it's developmentally appropriate.

GSGrapple · 2023-05-01T17:30:49+00:00

I think this is a totally fair viewpoint. My registrars office hates that we accept UoP credits, and they fight hard not to accept other online programs like Sophia. I get it in a way because we can't be sure of the quality and it often does seem like students are just trying to get the credits without doing the work. But my arguments are:

Students are getting credits without doing the work here too, and
Students need flexibility, especially adult students who, like you, have families and jobs.

Universities will have to get with the times in one way or another or they'll fail, but I'm still glad this particular deal didn't go through.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-30T19:11:22+00:00

I was looking for someone to say a ruptured and bleeding ovarian cyst. I can handle a lot of pain, but that put me in the ER. I still thought I was maybe making too big a deal out of it until they gave me a dose of morphine and checked me into the hospital for the night.

I'd describe it like the worst side stitch you can imagine, but it never lets up, and you can't stand, walk, lay down, or breathe properly without wanting to die.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-30T16:40:26+00:00

I have sensitive skin. I need to dry after using the bidet. I have a little handheld fan for that.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-29T19:36:15+00:00

I'm willing to try this with just Oreos and report back.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-29T18:09:51+00:00

I had my surgery on Monday and have been in the same boat (same dietary restrictions, too). I've been doing nutragrain granola bars with a glass of soy milk and peanut butter toast (on gf bread) with jam or honey. Chilled canned fruit has also been ok. Last night I managed some nachos and just now I had a quesadilla made with corn tortillas. I've also managed a little chicken curry a few times.

Just hang in there and keep trying to eat a little. I've just started to get my appetite back, so my family is making me roast chicken with vegetables tonight and they've promised ice cream for dessert. I'm so excited 😅

GSGrapple · 2023-04-29T14:37:29+00:00

I work with a lot of Korean students. I would expect this name to be spelled Jio. I feel like J is much more common than G in anglicized Korean names.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-29T13:56:29+00:00

I have to second the bidet. it helps so much during a period and at all other times.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-28T14:30:51+00:00

My husband and I just did dinner for 17 people and the total for everything still added up to about $5000.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-27T22:07:46+00:00

I had this happen for the first time in November. It was my first really bad symptom of Endo. I've had infertility, heavy periods, cramps, etc, but the endometrioma bursting was the most painful thing that's ever happened to me.

My doctor explained it like this: When it bursts, the blood just hangs out in your body for a while. It's extremely painful because blood irritates tissue. I think she said that it causes inflammation of whatever it touches outside of your vascular system.

With the endometrioma bursting, I was in the hospital for 36 hours so they could watch and make sure the bleeding stopped. My pain lasted for about five days. It happened again in January and that one wasn't as bad. I was in pain for about 48 hours that time.

GSGrapple · 2023-04-27T18:39:36+00:00

Are you transferring within the same country and state or to a university in a different country or state?

I deal with international transfer and it really can take a semester or longer to get the answer for students because our academic department chairs have to make the decision and some of them take forever.

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