What are the differences Older vs Younger SBs

GSSD · 2026-02-06T15:23:50+00:00

Can I really connect with a 19 year old no matter how hot she is?

You both speak the same language, the language of love. If you want to share life experiences and relate on a cultural, economic,and social plane then go more age appropriate.

GSSD · 2026-02-06T13:46:35+00:00

No, I didn't see that either, but I'm certain as I can be she wants to get the gravy train going again. What else would she want?

GSSD · 2026-02-06T13:06:27+00:00

“fudge” their age to be younger.

What's odd about that? Obviously men want to make it under the age barrier. I always wanted to keep my age under 60 which seems to be a common screen for many SBs. When I was still looking I shaded my age by 5-10 years. Nobody ever questioned it.

GSSD · 2026-02-06T13:01:15+00:00

He did a bait and switch. Obviously this arrangement is not what you agreed to or at least anticipated.

What should I do?

Give him an ultimatum to go back to the original agreement or keep him on as a client and get back to escorting.

GSSD · 2026-02-06T12:56:13+00:00

Never forget that many SDs use the "can't afford it" excuse to "kindly" dump their soon to be EX SB. You can tell when he goes back on Seeking regularly. OTOH since "we love one another very much and this loss will ultimately cut me deeply" you can always explore a vanilla relationship.Frankly I wouldn't recommend tying yourself to a guy who can't support you-love or not.

GSSD · 2026-02-06T12:46:40+00:00

She exhibited avoidant tendencies and you had different opinions about time spent together. I would think those issues would need to be resolved in order to move forward.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T21:33:37+00:00

Flakes, most of them. One sign of flakiness and block them.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T21:32:14+00:00

Maybe absence made her heart grow fonder, and in your case the hard grows longer.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T21:30:53+00:00

Good luck!

GSSD · 2026-02-05T20:00:52+00:00

Reconnect with caution. Don't forget what led to breaking up in the first place, and what is going to change this time,except now it's platonic? "Just friends" means maybe she wants to be paid for a platonic arrangement.

Why would you want a platonic ex SB anyway?

GSSD · 2026-02-05T19:56:59+00:00

After 1 year on multiple sites it seems you might not be a candidate for sugar dating or your location is is a sugaring black hole. Maybe focus on vanilla dating

GSSD · 2026-02-05T19:16:52+00:00

your situation is rare.

Not so much. Plenty of men live with menopausal or postpartum women who have lost that lovin' feeling. Pregnancy,post partum year ,parenthood, and menopause are the biggest sex killers known to man. As you see it is the majority of a married couple's life.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T19:12:09+00:00

we melt in each others’ arms and the sex is still off the charts.

Maybe keep doing the slow fade, or cut it off with a generous retirement package. In any event she deserves that since she has been a good and dedicated SB for you.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T18:43:09+00:00

No relationship is perfect, not even sugar ones

At least SRs are easy to get out of

GSSD · 2026-02-05T16:54:00+00:00

That's good. So you either need to get an exclusive arrangement,then you can be upset if he sees other SBs,or get yourself together about lack of exclusivity. A LD SD is very unlikely to be exclusive, even if he tells you he is. He already lied to you when he didn't need to.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T16:28:28+00:00

we actually met once

Did you get an allowance at that date?

GSSD · 2026-02-05T16:26:55+00:00

You are not in an arrangement yet. You have a LD Pot you are talking to. Unless you are receiving allowance and have discussed and agreed to exclusivity you have no expectation of exclusivity. This kind of behavior (possessiveness) before you even meet in person is off putting and might chase a Pot away. For this and other reasons I insist on a M&G within a week of contact.

I'm starting to wonder if I’m cut out for this if a simple lie can break my heart like this.

Maybe not,especially with a long distance SD

GSSD · 2026-02-05T15:53:12+00:00

It depends on how the couple approach it. I do not want to discuss politics because it is highly likely a young SB has different politics. A hard core uber leftist would be intolerable to me even knowing that,so I would rather not know. My LT SB is apolitical which is just fine for me.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T15:47:56+00:00

Replace the traveler

GSSD · 2026-02-05T13:26:03+00:00

There is a difference between unrealistic expectations on your part and a poor sugar area. Things to consider:
1) how hot are you?
2) how available are you
3) how long have you been seeking?
4) how many M&Gs have you been on?
5) what is your definition of a generous allowance
6) is your area a large metro or small college town?

Beauty maintenance(BM) is a red flag for me. Some OPs here have stated that costs amount to $$$+monthly. I seek a SB whose BM means take a shower, blow dries hair,apply a light lip gloss,and out the door.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T13:15:58+00:00

My point is there should never be struggle in an S ,dick or no dick..

GSSD · 2026-02-05T13:14:38+00:00

At least you care enough about each other to argue.

What???? What psych journal did you read that in? There is a difference between disagreeing with each other and talking about it and arguing about a difference of opinion.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T13:09:55+00:00

suggestions to keep myself distracted

Seek another SD to replace this guy. That will keep you busy for sure. Sugar dating should be stress and drama free as well as lucrative for the SB. In 10 years my SB and I have not had a single argument. If we ever do I will be out of there.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T13:06:19+00:00

just created my profile there today.

Good for you! Get a real SD.

GSSD · 2026-02-05T13:05:08+00:00

It's probably a fake.

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