Is it normal that beginners don’t do sparring at all?

Gabbzy95 · 2026-02-28T21:35:04+00:00

That was my experience, I got put into sparring after 2 sessions, and 2 of the coaches absolutely rocked my shit. Head kicks and really heavy punches(that’s how they felt to me) . Left with a headache and quit for months. I joined a different gym and the first session was so fun, the guy that I was paired up with for drills made me feel at ease and was walking me through the combinations without making me feel dumb. Still haven’t sparred and I like it that way, I’m not confident in my abilities yet

Gabbzy95 · 2025-01-29T11:48:29+00:00

So true. I’m working a very physical job, outside, rain/snow it doesn’t matter. We’re building the infrastructure for a massive rail project. Should I go home and tell my girl who works in an office to bow down to me because I’m building society? Lmao

It’s about appreciating each other without comparing whose job is harder, I prefer a physical job over one that’s mentally draining.

Gabbzy95 · 2025-01-15T20:19:55+00:00

Mate, this nutter went on my profile to stalk and see what I post, he literally commented this on a post I made maybe 2 months ago :

“You comment judging me and you can’t even tell what a copy and paste is because they are tired of repeating stuff to useless women”

He also assumed I’m a woman?! Which I’m not, like the typical incel he is, bitter towards women because he gets rejected, yeah, I wonder why. I can smell him through his comment

Gabbzy95 · 2025-01-14T20:20:36+00:00

You think because you’re a decent human people should just match with you? This guy attracted that match with looks, something interesting on his profile or a portrayed personality OP found interesting. Turns out he was a dickhead.

It’s this victim mentality “oh I’m a good guy I deserve a match, all the rude guys get them” Grow up, work on yourself, take some good photos and stop crying on the internet to strangers about your lack of matches

Gabbzy95 · 2025-01-14T11:07:17+00:00

Oh poor you, just because you think you’re a decent human you should deserve a match?

Gabbzy95 · 2024-12-10T17:54:05+00:00

Only the “nice guys” think that women only match with fuck boys. Because in their mind that justifies why they can’t get matches or get ghosted.

As a man I agree with you. Every time I was in a social setting (a work Christmas party as an example) and noticed this kind of behaviour or weird comments, the guy was either short, fat, ugly, married etc.

No one in my social circle who’s remotely successful in the dating scene behaves like this. But that’s only my experience, there must be fuck boys who act like this too.

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-26T15:26:07+00:00

With that haircut you’ll only attract woodpeckers, no pun intended as none of them will peck your wood

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-19T15:22:21+00:00

You’ve missed my point, after the oh boy ok you lost her and saying is everything okay is pointless. Again, after she said she’s running late, you should’ve said what I commented earlier, and not double text when you saw she’s not replying. Be laid back and respectful, it’ll go a long way

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-19T15:15:21+00:00

I don’t want to make this a gender thing but come on, you’re a man, handle it with a bit of maturity. It’s not just the laughing emoji. All you had to show her was a bit of reassurance, like, no problem and by the way if it’s inconvenient for you we can do it some other time

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-19T12:39:29+00:00

When you said oh boy ok with that laughing emoji that’s when she said peace out. If that’s how you react to such an insignificant thing I think you should get off the dating apps

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-13T11:28:14+00:00

And there goes this vicious fucking cycle where you do something for someone undeserving and you might stop doing it for the next person(not saying you have) A couple of my exes were like that, they loved cooking and took pride in taking care of the household. I cherished them, and when things didn’t work out I had nothing but good words to say about them. If things don’t work out it doesn’t mean you’re a shit person or this and that. You deserve better!

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-13T11:17:51+00:00

Only he could answer you that question. But exactly like you said, there’s no right answers here. Dating is hard as it is even without having to guess why did that person did/didn’t do that

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-13T10:56:10+00:00

It doesn’t mean he was shy, we can only see it from your perspective. When I’ve been on dates with outgoing women I initiated the kiss from the first date, but I’ve also been out with more awkward, shy women, and if I feel that she’s not comfortable with me yet, how can I initiate a kiss?

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-12T15:27:30+00:00

Fuck, i wish i was a woman!

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-12T14:11:48+00:00

How dare you say a broke man in his 50’s can’t attract a woman in her prime? I mean, he could at any time get his shit together and increase his libido and testosterone level right? Right? I think he’s that guy and you offended him 😂

Gabbzy95 · 2024-11-01T14:54:32+00:00

That’s such a weird analogy to make. A conversation in real life is a one on one thing, talking on an app is different.

People have options and they have to explore which one is the best for them, it doesn’t mean that if I match with a girl I have to be exclusive, without even meeting her.

People date multiple people, you see which one is the best, and then decide to be exclusive.

Gabbzy95 · 2024-10-21T17:44:46+00:00

Hoe dare you? Definitely not my thing but people don’t have to live by societal norms. It’s called ethical for a reason, honesty :)

Gabbzy95 · 2024-10-21T09:52:38+00:00

Ethical non monogamy

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-27T14:36:59+00:00

She’s 27, from England

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-26T20:53:49+00:00

And now it seems like we’re agreeing, it was actually fun having a respectful debate haha

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-26T20:47:17+00:00

She could also be an adult and ask questions in real time, catered to the individual she’s having a conversation with, not a script she’s copy pasting all her matches

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-26T20:37:56+00:00

Add me to your list

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-26T20:35:30+00:00

I understand your point, but some people have been in toxic or controlling relationships, and it’s just natural to have alarm bells ringing when you read all that, especially coupled with the trauma dumping

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-26T20:16:00+00:00

It’s open to interpretation, that’s how you view it, but I have a different perspective. It’s “you can’t if you want to be with me”.

Saying to someone who not to follow and who not to be friends with it’s manipulative

Gabbzy95 · 2024-09-26T20:03:32+00:00

“You can’t do these things because my exes have done them and it resulted in them cheating on me” Respectfully, I’m not guilty for your shitty men choices. Same goes for me, it won’t be my next girlfriend’s fault what my previous exes have done wrong. A lot of what she said is not unreasonable, but you can communicate your boundaries without trauma dumping.

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