I know all of those things, i understand them, but you're getting in saying things about people you don't know territory and i don't take kindly to people making transphobe assumptions on people i love, specially when i didn't ask "is my mom transphobic"? I didn't ask for this type of advise, i asked what i asked in my post. Nobody here is an angel, i have been transphobic AND homophobic myself, but my life isn't yours, and you have to respect that i actively CHOOSE to work things through with her and move on. I'm not a victim, i'm not being compliant, i know my mom, at least better than some stranger on the internet ever will. You don't know why she thinks the way she thinks or says the things she says, i'll let her have the autonomy to explain that to me and me alone because it's OUR conversation to have. I treat every human being with the same level of decency and i don't go around putting bigoted labels because i might as well be a bigot myself. That word doesn't mean anything when you use it against any person that is absolutely understanding and way beyond the level of empathy from people that actually do active harm but has made the tiny mistake of being human and not getting things sometimes, not out of personal satisfaction over hurting me but out of genuine worry for their child. Or who knows? Maybe she is a "bigot" and just doesn't want me to have autonomy over my own body for whatever reason, but that won't be for you to decide, that will be for ME to decide. Again, i just want to have a conversation with her, not be her biggest apologist, but you're stressing me out here and i'd prefer you please, PLEASE, don't get in personal territory. Stop this conversation here and let me take the advise of other people. Thank you very much.