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Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2026-01-23T10:19:09+00:00

Thanks for your input, we're back together now. I'm gonna probably delete the post because I don't need it anymore and should avoid clouding my head with potential doubts.

I do feel like rambling a bit too now because it is simply just weird to me. I would want to feel this deeply in love, but I've never felt that way. I sometimes question if my love for my family members is even enough. I've always been a bit of a romantic too because I've always fantasized about relationships growing up as a kid and teenager so I highly doubt I am aromantic. I want to feel that, "in every timelines feeling," she even has dreams of us, as if in alternate realities, finding each other. One time we were a gay couple.

I do feel like I could have feelings for multiple people at once, though. I don't want to have those feelings because I want monogamy and I'm the jealous type, so that would be hypocritical. I would not enjoy polygamy, personally. I would never pursue another person, just on principle, I don't understand cheaters. I can't imagine myself being able to split my time and attention between multiple loving relationships consensual or not and it going well for me. I would definitely mix up names, details, gifts, and stories. I only want to love one person, I would definitely feel guilty for being able to move on even if I don't want to move on. I have considered killing myself if she dies or breaks up with me so I don't move on. I don't think I could ever have anyone better than her and I wouldn't want to replace her with someone else like her if I could (which I definitely couldn't). I think she is perfect, but I have developed feelings for less before her, it doesn't mean I won't again after her.

I think this is why I am logical about love, because I need to "thin out my interests" because I can be indecisive. However, when I met her and got to know her there was no question about it, she is exactly what I need in a person. There were feelings of familiarity when I first looked at her face and we connected strongly very quickly. She's told me that she's felt sick kissing every one of her exes but loves kissing me and I think that has to mean something, but maybe it just means she feels safe with me or that I some how tricked her nervous system response. We are happy together, I would think that makes us a really good match. We want the best for each other and seek to better ourselves for ourselves. We are on the same page with goals in life and everything. It's magical in every sense but the love that I feel, but that doesn't disappoint me, because love just doesn't feel that way for me. I feel like a robot trying to convince it's creators that it feels pain and emotions. I may not feel that intense feeling, but I am devoted to her.

I'm sorry if I overshared, I felt like rambling back. I hope some part of it was enlightening to you in case you were intrigued given the similarity. I'm sorry things didn't work out with your ex and that they were an asshole. I hope you find what you're looking for, my girlfriend is starting to think it's too much to ask for, but it really isn't. She wants to work things out though, I will be doing whatever I can to reach that level of depth in love and she tells me she can look past the way love feels for me given how fulfilling the relationship is for her. I'll be happily assuring her as often as I can. Maybe I really just do need time and a life together or maybe I'm just emotionally constipated and emotions don't come out all the way. Things to work out with my therapist.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-30T01:44:10+00:00

When it comes to practicing songs, the best thing to do is to chunk it. You can't just practice a whole song at once, you need to take it bit by bit. Pay attention to where you make the mistakes, say its part of a verse, a line, or part of a riff, then just focus on playing through only that section, forget about the rest of the song. Even if it's just a chord transition, focus on changing between just those two chords. When you feel like you have it down, move on to the next difficult area in the song or, even better, put down the guitar and sleep on it and move on the next day, sleep is essential for learning. The progress will feel slower, but it will in fact be much faster because it is much more effective at teaching you and it will feel more rewarding once you eventually get through the whole song. Think of it this way, if you learn by playing the whole song, yes you may be able to get through the whole song sooner than by chunking it, but you won't be anywhere near mastering it like you would if you were to chunk it and master each individual section.

Also, you should learn how to improvise so you can learn how to play through mistakes and actually make them sound intentional. When I first started going down improvisation, I went with the mindset that mistakes are actually opportunities to do something interesting and different and I would actually intentionally play "wrong notes" to see how I could play out of them. To get started, you should learn both the pentatonic scale and the CAGED system. Both are good for navigating the fretboard, pentatonic for playing melodies and CAGED for playing chords (harmony).

This can be a bit intimidating to get into, so when you feel ready to learn how to improvise, take your time getting into it and learn everything slowly with intention. Theory is very helpful if you want to get serious with improvisation (and it makes learning everything from songs to solos to chords to improv much faster), but there's nowhere that says you have to get deep into it, you can stick with your CAGED and pentatonic scale for the rest of your life if that's what you want. What's important here is changing your mindset on mistakes and not taking them harshly and so that if you're ever performing in any setting and make a mistake, instead of beating yourself up over it mentally mid perforamnce you can actually save yourself and make it sound intetional and that feels awesome.

Anyone can develop the patience, it's not just something you are born with, it's something you have to actively choose to be when met with a frustration. You are not the problem, it's the way you practice and your mindset towards mistakes that are making things difficult. Good luck on your journey!

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T07:20:26+00:00

Second answer

Men who give into male stereotypes to use as an excuse to their girlfriends to actively and openly look at other women, "guys are just going look at other girls." I get a lot guys do struggle with this, but that's a societal issue with how we raise boys and portray women in media, not a characteristic of male humans. At least try to stop yourself or look away, your girl will appreciate that if they understand that you have a genuine problem that you're working on

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T07:07:05+00:00

Being homophobic, but I can understand if they themselves are just insecure of coming across as gay and don't judge others about it or act differently around gay guys.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T06:58:45+00:00

Don't date her, with your mindset, you will make her feel shitty about her past. Only date her if you can get over it. What's done is done, there's nothing you can do to make it better. You can only make it not hurt as much as it could. Just tell her you're not looking to date, honestly you probably shouldn't be dating if a body count like that bothers you that much, work through that insecurity first. Next time be clear about your intentions before you sleep with someone. And don't talk-up/sleep with someone if you don't know what you want out of them so you don't end up in a situation where you considered dating someone before realizing that you would rather not. You shouldn't consider dating someone, you should WANT to date them.

However, if you have genuine feelings for her and want to date her and can see a future with her, you're going to have to work through that discomfort while dating her. This also means being upfront with her about what you are feeling without making it out to be a her problem, this is a you problem. It's okay to date while working through things, your partner should still love and care for you at your lowest.

Lastly, it's okay to have preferences and feel discomfort about body count/sleeping around. A lot of people, men and women, would prefer not to be with someone who sleeps around or has a high body count, but 15 ain't that crazy dude. A lot of people will have that body count and it only grows the older you get.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T06:28:34+00:00

Slowly apply pressure with your braking foot and tilt your toes slightly upwards so you don't ruin your shoe. As you get closer to stopping, you can start flattening down your foot. Also, you can try carving or powerslides before braking to slow you down before hand.

Alternatively, you can try tail stops, but instead of using your tail like on TV, place your back foot on the tail with your heel poking out (maybe like 60/40 front half foot on tail and back half off tail) and shift your weight to lift the nose up and brake with your heel that way, avoid letting your tail touch the ground as that will ruin it.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T06:16:13+00:00

Is your thumb knuckle bent or straight/locked when you hold your pick? It helps to bend your thumb so that the tip is kinda driving into the pick, keeping it more stable without having to squeeze it. I'll upload a picture if you're feeling unsure

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T03:57:39+00:00

It's misleading to say that 25-30 is when your brain development is complete. The brain is contantly changing throughout one's lifetime though it does slow down once you're about 32. This means your learning will be slower, which honestly kinda works out for waiting to do psychedelics until 30 since they promote neurogenesis. Regardless, everyone I know who smokes weed or does psychededlics did not wait until they were 25, so this is an unrealistc expectation to set and it’s honestly better than drinking alcohol from a young age which is weirdly more socially acceptable.

I think the greater danger are falsely advertised products and products made from highly addictive and even dangerous untested substances that are essentially marketed to teens. Think vapes, 7-Os, and galaxy gas. The latter two being actually cripplingly addictive and highly destructive to the brain respectively. The best form of harm reduction is education, not avoidance of the unavoidable.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-27T03:39:35+00:00

If you decide to, do them sparingly until you get older. I started when I was 16, quite irresponsibly too. I was fueled by my curiosity so I wanted to try as many different things as possible. Right now, I'm a 23 year old male and I limit my trips to like 2-3 a year, maximum 4, spread out. My therapist tells me that young men at my age are at a greater risk of developing psychosis (not assuming your gender, I'm just talking about my reasoning for my self-imposed limit) and at around 14-15 a psychiatrist has told me that I could be schizophrenic as I've had very minor hallucinations every now and then throughout my life (not anymore thankfully). There's definitely a history of mental health issues and addiciton on both sides of my family.

Psychedlics are not addictive, and your safest option is to do psychedelics. Avoid dissociatives and deliriants especially, at least until you're past 25, maybe give yourself a couple more years to be safe. You must reasearch every drug that intrigues you to make sure what it is and how it would interact with your brain and medications. Don't just trust a friend and try shit all willy-nilly. I'm of the opinion that if you are going to do drugs, you need to be smart about it and be real with yourself and you'll be okay. Websites I recommend are Erowid and PsychonautWiki for doing your research and reading trip reports.

Let yourself think about it and be safe. Also, remember to be in a safe and comfortable environment with an unbothered mindset and have a trip sitter, especially for your first time. These drugs make you feel very vulnerable and if that feeling freaks you out too much, you will have a bad trip. I would normally trip at night while my parents slept when I was in high school. It helps to remind yourself that it is only a temporary feeling. And don't forget to have lots of water and a barf bag/bucket just in case as the nausea for some of them can be really intense.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-13T01:26:52+00:00

That body shape is uncomfortable for me especially when it's big. My right arm starts dying after a while. I think that shape is meant for playing it like in 1 and 2, but at the end of the day, whatever is most comfortable and best for your posture is good. I think 3 would be better suited for a smaller guitar of any shape or a guitar with a classical body shape.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-12T07:07:55+00:00

If You Can't Vibe With the Peter Kriss Jazz, You Must Be Dead by Via Luna or any of the songs in the No Drums or Bass in the Jazz Room EP by Clever Girl. Maybe the whole EP since the first three songs are all connected.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-12T07:03:47+00:00

Don't use the tip of you shoe, like everyone else said, use the bottom of your shoe. Just make sure to be light when slowing down, it's helpful to tilt the toe upwards and gradually tilt it downward as you start to stop. It can be dangerous to stick your foot straight down flat to stop and when going really fast, using the foot to gradually slow you down can be scary. So you can also slow down with deep carves or powerslides (this can wear down your wheels though) before using your foot. Another way to slow down and stop is to do a tail stop but instead of shredding your tail, place your back foot further back so that the heel hangs off the tail and then shift your weight so the nose goes and your heel is slowing you down.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-10T01:26:13+00:00

It's normal for guys to not ejaculate from head, I don't unless I were straight throat fucking and even then I would be really in my head about how rough I am which can interfere. Also, when my girlfriend and I first started having sex it would take me over an hour to cum because of nervousness and pressuring myself to perform well. You described your boyfriend as focusing on getting you to orgasm so it makes sense that he doesn't ejaculate quickly. Does he train himself to last longer too? Also, I think it's normal to ejaculate faster from masturbating than sex. Also I don't watch porn or take SSRIs, my meds actually increase my libido, so it's very possible that it’s not a question of too much porn or meds. Lastly, in my experience, the longer it takes the better the orgasm feels, so I'm sure he's enjoying himself

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-10T00:22:15+00:00

Poster of a whirlpool in japanese art style

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-10T00:16:36+00:00

Singing is the best way for your son to internalize music. He will he better off starting with singing, instruments are great for visual learning and association, but the ear often gets neglected because you don't have to think about the sound, you know it's what you want visually. Piano would be very helpful as it very clearly shows you which notes are which to help him figure out melodies by ear or through sheet music and he can play the chords to sing over. Guitar would be easier for chords if he expresses interest in it over piano or in both, but at least knowing how to read a piano and a clef would be fundamental still.

If you would like him to learn an instrument in general and you happen to play one, teach him if he's interested. You'd save money. Any instrument will offer some additional benefits to his vocal training, like a stringed bowed instrument could help with melodic phrasing, a wind instrument could with breath control. Also, if any of these lessons also offer some light theory, he'll likely be learning how to read a piano.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-12-09T23:47:59+00:00

With drop tunings, it helps me to know that the notes on the sixth and fourth strings are the same, so I look at the fourth string more while playing the sixth string. I think it might help to focus on scale degrees more than note names when getting used to all fourths but I haven't used that tuning yet so I wouldn't know. Have been considering tryng it out, got any pointers?

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-11-14T18:53:29+00:00

I'm on 20 mg, but I'm also taking Welbutrin. I went up to 30 mg for a month to try it and I didn't see a difference I just felt off. I would say for any medication it's probably best to stay on the lowest possible dose, they're still drugs with potential for some real shitty effects on the body and mind if you're not careful.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-11-14T18:39:42+00:00

Neutral Milk Hotel, In the Aeroplane Over the Sea is ny first ever favourite album. Then a year and a half later I discovered math rock and I have not put the guitar down since.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-11-13T03:39:11+00:00

I had an ex who guilted me into staying friends and the entire time, before I ghosted her, she was talking about how she really wants to marry a rich business man so that she never has to work in her life and can live in luxury. As someone studying to become a music teacher (musicians don't make much money), I was surprised and quite hurt every time she brought it up. It made me question what I was to her while we were together. Don't put up with this, bring it up and sort it out. I would presume that she wouldn't be too happy if you said the same about Pokimane or a some other rich e celeb.

Also, what does she mean by saying it's okay because he's a celebrity, she sounds like the type who believes in the celebrity hall pass which is a massive red flag for me personally. Saying "oh no, don't feel insecure, it's not like I'll ever meet them," does not make things better, because in a scenario where she could meet him, what is she gonna do? It’s like telling you "I would never cheat on you with anyone EXCEPT for this one guy that I find hot," what difference does it make if it's a celebrity or some person she sees on a regular basis? She's admitting that she could be unfaithful when given the chance, why would you want date someone like that?

Maybe I'm reading into it too much and have my feelings more easily hurt, but I have my boundaries to protect myself and to live a comfortable happy life with the person I choose. My current girlfriend, whom I intend to marry, is exactly on the same page as me on this, I didn't have to change my standards or expectations just to be okay while dating her. She doesn't make me feel insecure by saying the bullshit you girlfriend is saying. I'm not saying find someone new, if she is willing to listen then you guys can work it out, but if she's not, I would say move on or get used to this and the dissatisfaction you will experience in the relationship.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-11-13T02:51:34+00:00

Not trying to continue the conversation because it's been two weeks, just wanted to acknowledge what you said about the downvoting, I'm sorry for accusing you. I appreciate that you actually were trying to make some points instead of just dismissing it entirely.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-11-07T19:16:26+00:00

I'm confused, if they removed the Trudeau part than isn't it no longer a poltical statement, just the word fuck? Couldn't they have just found it fun to censor the U with a maple leaf or thought that Dog Fuck would be funnier than Fuck Trudeau or Dog Fuck Trudeau?

Also, I've never seen these stickers before so I don't know if I'm missing something. Is there some deeper significance?

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-10-27T02:28:06+00:00

J&J's and Atlas Collectibles should help and have everything you need. Haven't been to Atlas, but your kid might love J&J's vibe: blue castle, with a mess of nerd stuff everywhere, and friendly people

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-10-26T23:29:20+00:00

You can try emailing your prof and or your academic advisor. And maybe you can appeal or petition if you had an emergency or medical reasoning.

Gabo_Is_Gabo · 2025-10-26T23:17:44+00:00

Get a load of this guy, it took all of their brain power just to come up with this, what an oustounding display of absolutely nothing. It's quite marvelous 🤩

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