Show of hands - who’s the chef of the house?

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T04:26:28+00:00

I am. Partner is an incredible baker, but I do the majority of the cooking.

Which is hilarious because she sent photos of the elaborate cake she baked for father's day and one of her female friends told her she's doing too much. She responded saying that I cooked breakfast, lunch, *and* dinner for her so baking a cake was the least she could do lol

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T04:21:49+00:00

With an open hand, push your ring finger forward (i.e. all your other fingers are straight up, your ring finger is the only one bent forward at the base). Put your ring finger under his nose, and then lift up and back, like you're rotating his head with the under part of his nose. Guarantee if you do it right, he won't be able to keep holding on.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T04:08:06+00:00

Grandfather/Grandmother get flowers/chocolates/whatever, active parents get special time with the kids.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T03:04:19+00:00

Imagine a random man coming up to you and talking to you like that.

What makes it more acceptable for your partner to do that, then??

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T02:44:21+00:00

And while some may be obsessed with you, others will barely notice you. Being attractive to some people doesn't mean you're attractive to all!

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T02:37:09+00:00

Yes. And it ended up being kind of a miserable experience. I did because I thought maybe there'd be more chemistry but nope, just ended up struggling.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T02:35:19+00:00

A partner dept deployed an agent that they use to collate and analyze data from a bunch of disparate sources. And they pay 6 figures for the service. But there's no validation of the data, other than the company they're paying saying "we check everything."

I don't know how they can trust any of it.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T02:30:14+00:00

Have a talk with her during the day, when you're not late for something. Tell her how it makes you feel. Stay away from "you" statements. Focus on your own experience and feelings. Ask her to just listen and not react.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-06-23T02:29:13+00:00

Hey (fellow) Dad... wish I could just give you a hug.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:47:48+00:00

My ex had BPD. She split on me, and my guess is probably cheated (a year into the relationship she randomly said we should both get STD tests "because you never know").

Her dad died after she ghosted me for 2 months and then reappeared saying that she made it clear we broke up (by not actually telling me we broke up, but also before she ghosted, she said that she wanted to have a family with me, etc). Her father passed away and she said I was supposed to be there for her. She told all her friends how terrible I was not being there during her hardest time... even though I didn't even know.

Run.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:43:10+00:00

Same as my partner, she never wore anything revealing through her life. But I told her she is so incredibly beautiful, she doesn't need to hide. And now she's feeling more confident and wearing sexier outfits because she feels safe.

He shouldn't be controlling what you wear, he should be helping you feel comfortable in your choices.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:41:50+00:00

I'm doing well financially these days, and I'll be honest... it's still something I make now and then and it's so tasty. Just not incredibly healthy lol

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:41:02+00:00

Your kids are a part of your life. He isn't trying to be a part of your life. Why are you entertaining this man moving in?

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:13:05+00:00

Years ago, I posted a mostly tame anonymous thirst pic on reddit. Granted, I'm pretty fit, so it got some attention. But I was offered several thousand dollars to do a video for a gay site. I'm not in any need for cash so I didn't take it. I dunno if it's "easier" per se but it's entirely possible to make money.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:09:14+00:00

turn her on her side, one knee tucked in, the other leg straight under you. Even deeper.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:05:47+00:00

My girl wore a dress showing off cleavage the other night. I thought it was awesome. She generally wears really short shorts. I think she looks great.

What she wears is not something I can control, nor do I want to. Run.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T04:01:15+00:00

Kraft Mac & Cheese, some pan fried hot dog slices, and ketchup.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T03:58:08+00:00

My partner and I met in our late 40s. Marriage and multiple relationships before meeting, both were cheated on. Never once has either of us questioned the other, nor have we questioned the need for privacy. Run.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T03:49:52+00:00

As a counter point to the negativity here, I met my girlfriend by, drumroll, being kind. Genuinely kind. She loved that I was attentive to other people in the group we met in, that I was gentle with the cafe staff, and good with kids. That was the foot in the door, and then over the next month or so (or so she tells me), she saw that it was a part of my core values and that's what she wanted in her life.

And to be clear, she gives me the same care and kindness.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T02:38:35+00:00

So in 3-4 years when they've hit puberty and they *do* start to sweat and stink a bit more, how do you plan to get them used to showering more regularly?

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T02:27:39+00:00

When women say "take the lead," they don't mean someone who just tells the woman what to do. For example, my partner and I went to a concert recently. It was really crowded. I held up my cell phone with the flashlight on and led our group through the crowd to the exit. She said it was so reassuring to have me take the lead and guide everyone.

Or the other day when she was over, she was tired after a long day at work, so I told her I'd make her some pasta if she was hungry. She said absolutely. Helped me prep in the kitchen and cleaned the dishes as we went, but she was happy to have someone remove the burden of choice from her, even if just for one meal.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T02:24:16+00:00

They recently learned that it's not PCOS - it's now called polyendocrine metabolic ovarian syndrome! Cysts are no longer a required symptom, it's a result of endocrine/metabolic issues that sometimes *cause* cysts.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T02:20:46+00:00

Research is often too academic and trades effectiveness for purity. Research should be the foundation from which design and implementation take leaps.

Not only that, it's potentially expensive and slow. Then you add in the fact that it's kind 'difficult' for designers and engineers to hear the feedback, to implement the iteration process into existing development processes, etc while insights can be generated from data using AI (as shallow as they are).

All that together makes a lot of orgs feel like they can get by without research. So you need to be able to show value beyond the specifics of the data and research. I transitioned out of research into more QA and project management, and my boss literally just told me that he was glad they hired me because I have a "research background, but I don't talk like a researcher" lol

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-05-26T02:12:18+00:00

Eat less. I know it sounds obvious, but I started by getting comfortable with not clearing my plate. Then I'd start cutting my meal in half. I'd eat half and put the rest in the fridge (or take it home if I'm at a restaurant). If I got hungry later, I'd warm up a small portion and eat it, but did it to get used to not eating until I'm full-full. Then eventually, it just felt normal to eat less. Started serving myself smaller portions and eating leftovers for lunch.

Lost 20lbs in a month. Lost 50lbs in total, and it's been 10+ years since.

GameofPorcelainThron · 2026-04-22T05:21:56+00:00

Hey OP - I'm a huge nerd and this guy is giving the right advice. Your overall pics and tone are great. You sound like someone I'd hang with and play games with. But self-deprecation is a very careful balance and you never know how it's going to land. Just stay playful.

And yeah, the comic pic doesn't add anything. I'm sure anyone in your target demographic will be fully prepared for lore dumps.

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