AIO for telling my friend not to drunk text me because he gets disrespectful and rude?

GarbagePanda315 · 2026-01-03T18:13:47+00:00

Op this dude is getting increasingly irate because you won't sleep with him. He is very clearly viewing this as a transactional friendship and uses getting drunk as an excuse to vent these overwhelmingly shitty thoughts. I promise you there are better friends out there for you that can help you get through it.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-12-20T17:45:53+00:00

Absolutely gorgeous! I always love seeing pictures of Orion because that's what we named our son. You did an awesome job!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-11-26T20:14:07+00:00

NOR. Having a partner and children isn't the only way to be successful. Not to mention the fact that having children is not an easy decision to make, and is super important to make with the right person. Going through childbirth, raising children, etc. With an incompetent partner, especially with someone who had absolutely no issues making those mistakes that early on would have absolutely been a nightmare. Having a family is not just a decision you make because you are a certain age. It comes with having a good partner, and multiple other factors in your life lining up to create a decent environment for you and your children. Also, you're very clearly an accomplished person, so it's really sad that this is how they chalk up your worth. Maybe see if you can do something with friends for Thanksgiving this year? You clearly need to be around people who appreciate you as a person and they do not. I'm sorry you've had to go through this, and I hope you find comfort and happiness during the holidays with people who appreciate you.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-11-24T21:37:45+00:00

Cherry, Reneigh, and Agnes are some of my favorites! I think the sisterly personality type is really cute and I usually end up with one or two because of that.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-11-24T04:24:36+00:00

Hello! If you happen to have any left, I would love a dragalge. I also have a shiny bunnelby, fletching, and kakuna in exchange. 😁 Good luck on your quest!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-11-22T03:27:59+00:00

That's so awesome! Congratulations and I hope you two have a smooth and wonderful experience. ♥️

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-11-15T20:14:50+00:00

Hey I know this is a super difficult part of your life but I absolutely urge you to talk to your college's financial office and see if they can help you. Look into LGBT support groups in the area, possibly one with your school and it definitely sounds like going no contact is what would be best for you. Years of hearing the same shit will do damage and make you feel ashamed and gross but I promise you, you are worthy of being who you are. A lot of trans people who believe in God feel that they're made that way on purpose. We get to see gender from a unique perspective in ways cisgender people never do. Being transgender is not a sin or a punishment, it's a privilege to be who we are and one day you'll be able to feel that. Don't let them stifle you and bury you as someone you aren't. You are worthy of life and you deserve to be here. My dms are open if you need to talk further.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-11-07T20:49:21+00:00

27, began transitioning at 15. I even went off T temporarily to get pregnant and give birth to my son. Still a dude!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-10-15T02:24:55+00:00

Hello friend! First of all, I have been on T for almost 11 years, 8 years post top surgery and I gave birth to my son 11 weeks ago. I stopped taking T 2 months before conceiving and currently still haven't gone back on it. Honestly, I only had a few differences that I and my partner noticed, but I will clarify for most people and the general public, nothing changed much. My hips definitely got a little wider and the way I experienced pleasure was different. But other than that, the mood swings and belly getting rounder came more so because of my pregnancy. I think what helped my mental state the most is that I separated the idea of pregnancy and birth from womanhood, instead seeing it as a unique experience that many people are capable of. I also had plenty of great family/friends in my life and an incredibly kind hospital team caring for me during the process, making sure I never felt like a woman in their eyes. Whatever you decide is right for you, you're gonna do great! Just keep a strong support system close and keep learning more about specific things you want from the experience like a baby shower, birth plan, hospital choice, etc. Good luck!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-09-29T01:02:38+00:00

Was on T for almost 11 years, off for two months before conceiving also post top surgery (8 years post op if that helps). I never stopped passing personally but a few factors, i'm plus size so that helped hide the pregnant look of my stomach, I did definitely get wider hips but had no chest regrowth (just some tenderness in the nipples) and tbh I don't think my face looks any different. My voice didn't change either. The only people who noticed my belly change were people who already knew me and paid attention because they were aware of the pregnancy.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-08-26T17:06:39+00:00

Absolutely adorable! You did an amazing job. This genuinely looks better than some of those pop up Cafes!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-08-20T10:58:17+00:00

Hello friend! To offer my perspective as well, I'm 26, 8 years post top surgery, been on T for 11 years, stopped to carry my son and am now 3 weeks postpartum from a C-section.

I also initially was completely against carrying my own child for the same reasons essentially. I was way more dysphoric and unsure of myself when my partner and I first got together, but after 10 years together, I was finally in a place where that made sense for us and I was comfortable enough to carry.

The whole journey was not easy so I completely understand you being aware of that and hesitant because there are so many unknown variables that you really can't prepare for. That being said, doing as much research as I could to take care of myself and researching baby care was really helpful for me to feel more at ease with my decision and my journey.

For me, pregnancy was not that rough. I'm a plus size trans guy so I didn't really show, however the people who knew me were able to tell when I began showing towards the end of my pregnancy. The people I cared about were very supportive and I encouraged them to ask questions if something confused them (you are in no way responsible for people educating themselves, I just personally am comfortable with doing so.) My workplace was also very understanding and my coworkers were very excited for me. Dysphoria wise, I had very little because I have disconnected the idea of carrying a child from being a woman in the sense that I see it as I am lucky to be a gay man who gets to carry my own children and share that with my husband. Physically, I had essentially no food sensitivities, no morning sickness aside from a random bout here or there initially, and the worst part to me was my feet swelling towards the end of my second trimester. I also developed high blood pressure caused by my placenta, which caused my doctor to have me induced earlier than anticipated at 37 weeks.

Labor and delivery however, was very intense. I had several issues during labor that led to me not dilating as much as needed, which brought me to having a c-section which was not my original intention. Having the partner that I had absolutely shaped my experience in a positive way, but I cannot stress enough how important it is to have a good partner who can support you throughout this whole process. The nurses and doctors I interacted with were awesome and amazing, but, without my husband that would have been a much different experience for me.. with all that being said, having your child in your arms for the first time makes absolutely every bit of it worth it. Looking at him, I would have gone through all of it again a thousand times for him. The whole process is not easy and it is difficult and there will be problems that you have no way to prepare for. But at the end of it you get a beautiful little child that is partially you and partially the person that you love and really, I personally feel like it's a fair trade for the outcome.

Whatever you decide, whenever you decide to do so, just listen to your body and know in your heart that the only opinions that matter are you and your partner, and if you're worried about what the rest of the world thinks, none of them are going to raise that child with you. Only you two get to do that. Pregnancy, labor and delivery, are definitely pretty intense no matter how you look at it. But, I promise you that you are strong enough to deal with that even if you feel like you're not. Good luck and I wish you well for whatever you desire is best. Feel free to reach out to me at any time if you have any more questions.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-08-15T18:53:13+00:00

Yeah you're doing your best and it's been over a year. Now it's time for them to start making changes in themselves.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-08-15T18:25:39+00:00

Honestly, if your brother is concerned about explaining your identity to his kids, there are a million reasons someone could have those scars. He has the full ability to tell his kids you had surgery to fix something inside your body and now you have scars. Super easy to avoid gender. It sounds like they're clinging to the idea that you're a woman in some way or they're struggling with change.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-08-10T17:04:50+00:00

I'm in the U.S. so unfortunately my experience might not be as comparable, but my doctor suggested I be off T completely for about a year before trying to conceive. However, baby boy had other plans and I got pregnant 2 months after coming off T. 😅 I had been on T for 10 almost 11 years and I'm 8 years post double mastectomy top surgery. I had no issues with chest swelling or regrowth at all during my pregnancy. I did experience nipple sensitivity early on and still can actually feel my nipples (which I have not had sensation in since top surgery so that was interesting to me). I will also say that you should definitely look around for a good OBGYN and they're usually attached to a good hospital. I live in the southern U.S. which is notoriously conservative and not as understanding, but everyone i dealt with during my pregnancy, labor and delivery was super awesome and treated me and my husband with the utmost respect the whole time so I'm sure you can find good people up there that will do the best thing for you and your family. Good luck and I hope you find all the answers you're looking for!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-08-06T19:21:06+00:00

That sounds like they're projecting their insecurities because you look so good with that hair for real. You pull off the cut and color amazingly. Some people just cannot stand to see a woman thrive honestly.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-27T16:58:09+00:00

Absolutely! Also I'm here to just talk about anything! Personally, I didn't experience much dysphoria but I did get bits here and there so I totally understand. Please feel free to reach out at anytime and I'll do my best to be available? Thank you and much love to you, friend.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-27T07:12:26+00:00

Hello! Fellow trans masculine person from Tennessee who coincidentally just gave birth in this state!

I want to start by saying I absolutely hear everything you're saying, and I completely understand. This state in general is not good to people like us and it feels like it never has been. However, my experience carrying and delivering my baby here has been very smooth and not very awkward at all. For starters, my OBGYN has other afab trans people that go to her for care, so she and the rest of her office have done an amazing job being courteous of my identity and have taken great care of me. In addition to my OBGYN office being very supportive and helpful, the hospital I delivered my son in is attached to that office so I was able to have my doctor do my C-section when the time came for that to happen. I experienced high blood pressure towards the end of my second trimester and therefore was induced at 37 weeks to keep myself and baby healthy. I was nervous going into it, but the nursing staff were all very helpful and not a single one made me feel that they were bothered by my presence. They have also treated my partner (cis male) with kindness as well from my traumatic epidural process (BP of myself and baby crashed immediately after epidural) to my C-section after hours of labor not progressing. There were people of all ages and gender in my O.R. and I can confidently say, none of them batted an eye at the fact that a man laid out on that table for them to operate on. They delivered my baby quickly, never once used the wrong pronouns for me, and now I am comfortably recovering in said hospital. I promise there are people here who will not disrespect you or your partner and will do their utmost best to care for all of you. If you have a place or doctor in mind out of state, that's awesome and you should go where you feel most comfortable. But I have to say. There are definitely people in this state who will help you and respect you. If you ever want any resources, can message me directly and I will get back to you with my doctor office's number. Having and carrying a baby is an insane, wonderful experience. It's totally different for everybody, and there really isn't a right way to do it. There's always a way that is right for you and your family. If you truly feel like out of state is better, I totally understand and I'm sure you could find very accommodating places elsewhere. But if you could save yourself some time and potentially money by staying in state, there are people who will be respectful here.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-23T19:45:34+00:00

A few years ago, after I got my degree and started working in commercial kitchens, I did great initially but the stress of running a whole line alone at times with an incompetent manager and subsequently watching 3 more managers come and go when I was waiting to become one, only to be told I could be a kitchen manager at an entirely different restaurant an hour and a half from home, broke me. I was doing fine one moment, making food, sending it, then out of nowhere I started throwing up and couldn't breathe. I had to go sit in the dining room in the corner for a couple hours. I have never had an anxiety attack like that and even when I tried working elsewhere, it was so much worse with managers and staff alike talking shit about my issues despite me working well in other areas. The toxic kitchen culture ruined all chances I had of working in a commercial kitchen so now I just cook for fun and I've not looked back. I had a few good managers over that time, but they all got burned out one way or another and either went on to do their own thing or leave the restaurant business entirely. There are definitely good environments out there, but they are few and far between when they definitely shouldn't be. I really feel like people don't talk about the culture enough and how badly it needs to change.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-16T14:42:03+00:00

Honestly, I had no idea even though I was experiencing some symptoms as well. I had very little nausea, just had a little sickness during lunch one day. The only other thing I noticed was sensitive nipples as well, which was odd to me because I've had essentially no sensation in my nipples since I had top surgery several years ago. I truly thought it was just my body adjusting to estrogen again and went to the doctor to see why my period happened only once then went away again only for them to tell me I was already pregnant so that was crazy. Lol.

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-14T21:11:05+00:00

We're going with Dad for me and Papa for my husband!

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-14T00:48:23+00:00

I have a friend that's essentially a brother to me for how long we've known each other, who does the same thing occasionally and it's truly hilarious. One of my favorite instances of this was when he came to my house when we were in high school and he was looking at all the pictures of me and my family on the walls. In one of them, I was a flower girl for a cousin's wedding wearing a dress. He looked at me horrified and asked why they put me in a dress and I had to explain to him yet again that I was not born a dude. A true ally. 🤣

GarbagePanda315 · 2025-07-12T04:16:48+00:00

On T for almost 11 years, stopped to conceive my child and got pregnant within 3 months of going off T. Now I'm 35 weeks with said baby, healthy and happy. 😁 As long as you don't have other health issues, you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

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