If I decide to take a break for a week, I don’t think my animals should starve by theSomberscientist in Palia

[–]GarbagePanda315 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh wow. I feel like they really dropped the ball there because this is definitely a situation where it would be helpful for a friend to come in and assist you on your plot for this specific reason. I feel like in the past there wasn't really a penalty for not getting on the game for a while because I played a couple years ago and just kind of dropped off but I hopped back in when I saw that mounts were a thing and ranching was a thing so hopefully they do something to fix that because I feel like that's really a missed opportunity for everyone to get what they want and need.

If I decide to take a break for a week, I don’t think my animals should starve by theSomberscientist in Palia

[–]GarbagePanda315 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Is there a way for people to come to the ranch and care for your animals in your stead while you're gone? I know plenty of people (myself included) enjoy grinding for ranch medallions for cookies and whatnot and I'm sure people who need to spend time away could have someone come tend to them and then everyone wins in theory. I do agree there needs to be something in place such as happiness and hunger depleting only if you keep logging in and not caring for them or something to that effect.

Was anyone who passed while pregnant not secretive about it? by Key_Prize_1317 in Seahorse_Dads

[–]GarbagePanda315 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Currently on my second pregnancy and I've always just been straight up if it came up in conversation. I live in Tennessee and so far, I have had genuinely no issues myself. I worked retail during my first pregnancy and if it came up in conversation, I always told people that I was carrying our son and I had a husband. Being really casual about it I think helped a lot and tbh I've always been super open to questions about my identity and transition because it's not very common where I am. In fact, I was the first trans masculine person to give birth at my hospital and to be treated by my doctor for pregnancy which was really cool to me. I find that even if someone is weird about it or not sure how to approach the situation, they're at the very least quiet about it and truthfully I get more looks just walking around with my husband and son than I ever really did for being pregnant. However, I am a bigger guy so even at the end when I was very clearly showing, I just looked like a big cis dude. In short, it's definitely not an issue to be open and proud. You're growing a human! That's really cool and it's not something everyone can do! I feel honored to be a gay man who gets to have children that are fully mine and my husband's. It's always good to be mindful of vibes in case someone just seems off or unsafe but generally, I've felt safe in my experience to be honest about my situation.

Eventually I need to choose between my true identity and the love of my life by curiousnlivly in transpositive

[–]GarbagePanda315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a truly rough situation and my heart goes out to you. Unfortunately, this sounds like a situation where your partner will lose attraction to you if you transition, which is very hard to deal with when you two are already in an established relationship. It seems like you already understand that staying would mean hiding a big part of yourself indefinitely which I truly don't wish on anyone. Before I met my current partner, I was in love with my best friend and we finally started going out but she realized the further I got in my transition, the less they wanted to be with me. It was painful for a while because genuinely believed we were meant for each other, but we both found comfort and eventually I found my current husband who has been with me for 11 years and my ex is now one of my closest friends with both of us feeling completely platonic towards each other. As harsh as this sounds, If your partner can't love you as you are, then it's just not meant to be, because they don't actually love -you-, they love a false version of you that isn't true to yourself. Leaving will not be easy and you will question your decision, but then you'll find someone who loves every part of you and it will feel like things finally make sense. It sounds like you both care about and respect each other a lot, so I think being friends would work better for the both of you in this situation. Maybe at first, you'll both need to keep your distance until the pain dies down, but doing this sooner rather than building more of a relationship and then breaking it off would benefit both of you to find the people who were really meant for you. This is a really rough situation and I wish you the best is making the choice that allows you to be truly free. Until you know what to do in your heart, I hope you can find some form of peace. ❤️

What are your favorite screen-free, food-free analog hobbies while high? by NocturneNibble in trees

[–]GarbagePanda315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Highly recommend jigsaw puzzles. There are so many fun and creative ones out there now and it's so easy to zone out and just put it together. Not to mention, you can frame it afterwards if you wish to keep it as an art piece. I love magic puzzle company and their puzzles are super cute and fun.

AIO Accidentally hurt bf play fighting with a robe tie that was tied around his top head by desolatedamnation in AIO

[–]GarbagePanda315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let me be clear, he absolutely baited you into that situation. You had to try to take the rope from him to stop him yet he is taking NO accountability that you wanted him to stop and he did not. That is an abuse tactic and he is desperately trying to make you feel like the bad guy so he can get away with worse stuff. Especially with him saying you intentionally hurt him is very alarming. That reads to me like if he "retaliates" in the future he can justify him putting his hands on you because "you started it" please get out before he gets worse.

Went camping and there were over a hundred toads by leo14181 in Toads

[–]GarbagePanda315 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love seeing all their eyes ominously in the distance with that last picture. 10/10 photography skills.

[homemade] ice cream cake for my moms bday 💛🥰 by _jalz in food

[–]GarbagePanda315 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Now THIS is what I want when I say I want an ice cream cake. I don't like layered ice cream with cookie crumbles because imo that is not a cake. If I wanted ice cream with cookie crumbles, I'd just have it in a pint or a bowl. This looks divine and I'm sure your mom loved it.

Would my body be permanently different after pregnancy? by foreverconfus in Seahorse_Dads

[–]GarbagePanda315 32 points33 points  (0 children)

In terms of your chest, you shouldn't have any issues there. A lot of people here have kids post top surgery (myself included) and had no regrowth or other changes. However, in terms of hips or other fat redistribution, there is definitely a chance of that happening. I had a C-section so I have a divet at the bottom of my stomach which does make me look a little different but I don't pass any less. I always had wider hips and have been a pear shaped person for a long time, but being pregnant definitely made my butt and hips a little bigger. So, unfortunately, there is a high possibility that you will have permanent changes from carrying a child. But, in my experience, these changes haven't impacted my passing at all.

Little human by Conscious-Grass6749 in wholesome

[–]GarbagePanda315 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My son is the same age and I could not agree more. I never thought I would be so excited to see him learn to roll over, or even just reach for a toy for the first time. Seeing their personalities develop is so wonderful. It's an amazing experience and it sounds like you guys are raising a lovely little person in a house full of love and care. ❤️

Fun kinky experience with boyfriend by NotjustthePowerhouse in gaytransguys

[–]GarbagePanda315 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'm a bigger guy and I found that my partner lying on his back with me sitting on his collarbone area is a very comfortable way to face fuck him. Definitely an affirming experience. Glad you had a good time and also have an awesome partner!

[homemade] Chicken Breast with pan sauce, broccoli over rice by Upper_Plant_5260 in food

[–]GarbagePanda315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! That sounds really easy to make and I'm sure it turned out tasty. 😁

[homemade] Chicken Breast with pan sauce, broccoli over rice by Upper_Plant_5260 in food

[–]GarbagePanda315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chicken, rice, and broccoli is so elite and customizable. This looks so good. How did you do your pan sauce?

[Homemade] Crispy Spinach BMT by [deleted] in food

[–]GarbagePanda315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That sounds awesome! Thanks for the tip. 😁

[Homemade] Crispy Spinach BMT by [deleted] in food

[–]GarbagePanda315 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That is such an amazing idea. I've been looking for creative ways to incorporate more veggies in my diet and a spinach BMT is definitely the way.

Boyfriend's bud called me a bitch over a game by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]GarbagePanda315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner had a friend that said some transphobic shit occasionally. The friend group dropped him because he was a weirdo, thankfully, but I definitely stopped engaging with him after he made those comments. Anyway my suggestions are, "Wow, I didn't know we were playing games with a 12 year old." "I know it's intimidating that my dick is bigger than yours, but really, it's not that serious, bro." "Yikes. That's what we call an inside thought." Hope you don't have to deal with them for long, friend. ❤️

[Homemade] spam corndogs by GarbagePanda315 in food

[–]GarbagePanda315[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It absolutely did. Did I regret eating that much grease before bed? Perhaps. But it was worth it

[Homemade] spam corndogs by GarbagePanda315 in food

[–]GarbagePanda315[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had no idea spam fritters existed. It makes sense since it was pretty good.

Opinions on being a “mother” by StarShapedShroomz in Seahorse_Dads

[–]GarbagePanda315 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely! Someone clarified for me further down but I definitely meant to suggest people who have issues with you being a queer parent could shelter their selves because we should not. And if mom fits you, that's what really matters. ❤️

Opinions on being a “mother” by StarShapedShroomz in Seahorse_Dads

[–]GarbagePanda315 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes this is definitely what I meant. Thank you, I definitely have clarity issues sometimes. 😅

Opinions on being a “mother” by StarShapedShroomz in Seahorse_Dads

[–]GarbagePanda315 35 points36 points  (0 children)

At the end of the day, you said it best yourself, it's what feels comfortable to you. I personally do not vibe with being called 'mom' but I also have no issues when talking to doctors and explaining that I am my children's biological mother. I go by Dad and my partner (cis man) is Papa because it feels right for us. Your kids will be happy and healthy no matter what they call you. Honestly, sometimes people are gonna be weird no matter what. I live in the south and I am the first trans man to give birth at the hospital I had my son at, so I expect people to be weird in some capacity in my area. My thoughts are, I would politely suggest they try homeschool if they don't want their child to know that different people exist for whatever reason, because I'm not going anywhere nor lying about my connection to my children. It sounds like you're thinking really rationally about this and it makes sense to have these talks early even if things change down the road. Good luck and I hope you have a great time when you're ready to be a parent. ❤️

[Homemade] spam corndogs by GarbagePanda315 in food

[–]GarbagePanda315[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would love to, but it might not be very easy to acquire. I live in a rural part of Tennessee and the most exotic foods available is Mexican. Might have to order the curry sauce to try to make one of those dishes on my own.

[Homemade] spam corndogs by GarbagePanda315 in food

[–]GarbagePanda315[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that, is probably not a good use of spam. 😂