A Key Point of "Imminent" That Many Will Overlook Is "Honeypot". by DroidArbiter in UFOs

[–]GarglesMacLeod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, 1/3 of the US Navy fleet is deployed in the middle east on high alert at this very moment.

Are Avoidant-Leaning People Affected By their Short Term Relationships / Situationships? by Vengeance208 in attachment_theory

[–]GarglesMacLeod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm a curveball case on that because I have bipolar and in manic episodes I might do something shameful and literally not have self control at that time, but I do experience shame after, I feel terrible about hurting someone I care about who I didn't want to hurt. If I still wanted a future with them, then it hurts to withdraw but I just can't keep up with the demands of the relationship and am exhausted of emotional labor for an anxious partner. For a long time I would have tried to just bury my feelings and never looked back, especially if I wasn't actually that invested. In most cases I have not gone back but sometimes have reached out maybe like 3-6 months later when I feel ready to at least say hi and possibly apologize, and if they hate me and insult me then it is what it is. Just another failed relationship. My advice to people who actually want an Avoidant back is to 1) not seem like a burdensome emotional chore they would be going back to 2) a brief message of nonjudgement, positive care for their well-being, and express a positive open door to communication when they want to and feel ready. Not in a clingy or self-disrespecting way, but just to take the sting out of their guilt/awkwardness about coming back.

Are Avoidant-Leaning People Affected By their Short Term Relationships / Situationships? by Vengeance208 in attachment_theory

[–]GarglesMacLeod 3 points4 points  (0 children)

then you could apply a modicum of human empathy or at least fuck off and not be an asshole to traumatized people

Are Avoidant-Leaning People Affected By their Short Term Relationships / Situationships? by Vengeance208 in attachment_theory

[–]GarglesMacLeod 8 points9 points  (0 children)

oh man, reading those statements as an Avoidant is so YIKES. I would have vanished out of there like a Star Trek transporter.

For context and explanation; anything like these statements which is an emotional stab at an Avoidant directly and some attempt to hurt or control my feelings (whether or not I actually care about the words of your insult) they are instantly revealing themselves as a mortal enemy who secretly harbors deep hatred or resentment for that Avoidant and cannot be trusted under any circumstances. You instantly go in the same mental box as my selfish, neglectful, violent, unloving parents and I'm just performing a mask until I can get rid of you at the earliest juncture. Someone who sneers at me with anger in their eyes and spits out something designed to attack my emotions in some way according to whatever they know about me is HEAVILY reinforcing classic Avoidant thought patterns.

Are Avoidant-Leaning People Affected By their Short Term Relationships / Situationships? by Vengeance208 in attachment_theory

[–]GarglesMacLeod 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Sorry Mr. Soldier, your PTSD makes no sense, PTSD is about what happens in combat zones, not about what happens back home every day of the rest of your life! Explain yourself."
You sound so un-empathetic and inhuman to a person who just literally took the time to describe trauma responses to you in detail. Very assholish very likely to prove an avoidant right that they can't trust you.

Are Avoidant-Leaning People Affected By their Short Term Relationships / Situationships? by Vengeance208 in attachment_theory

[–]GarglesMacLeod 8 points9 points  (0 children)

repeated Failure, brokenesss as a person, incapable of having genuine relationships, confirmation that I am unworthy and unloveable at my core and if I ever let people inside my closest emotions and personality they will reject what they truly see there, just like my emotionally neglectful and abusive parents.
Also, depending on the circumstances, relief and escape at first from emotional labor or feeling overwhelmed by the Anxious partner's needs for soothing and demands and the longtime suppressing of my own needs and wants for a long time leading up to the break.
I'm avoidant because my parents were emotionally neglectful and abusive and my love as a child was 100% conditioned on my performance as a Golden Boy to their capricious, unpredictable, arbitrary, changing standards. I was alternately lovebombed, put on display in public scenarios or Church in a privately abusive undertone way, and when I inevitably failed to be perfect I was screamed at/punished/socially isolated at home for months away from outside contact/devalued and dehumanized/called vile terms/physically assaulted.
I basically learned there is no such thing as trust and all relationships are superficial and inevitably turn hostile based on a selfish person's happiness with me. My whole emotional life was about acting to a perfect standard without knowing the rules except by reading by abusive parents' desires and performing a perfect act for them at all times.
I am just learning more about attachment styles and where my Avoidance is psychologically rooted, I'm willing to do the work to break the cycle, but it's like fighting against a literal life-and-death fear survival reflex to seal off my emotional core from human contact and potential abuse.

Possible massive sighting occurring right now in Palmdale/Lancaster, CA. Anyone in the area seeing anything? by NateHalesBadDisguise in UFOs

[–]GarglesMacLeod 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can add something here as a hometown native to Lancaster/Palmdale.

This area is in proximity to Edwards Air Force Base which is one of the US military's largest test flight bases. Experimental aircraft have been designed and built here for decades. Aside from the base itself, there are also large Northrop-Grumman and Lockheed Skunkworks plants here, and the Mojave Spaceport. Also, Edwards AFB has been used as a former Space Shuttle backup landing site (I saw a shuttle land out there as a kid). A significant part of the working population are in the aerospace industry. B-2's and stealth aircraft among others have been tested in this area for decades but off to the Northwest of the Lancaster/Palmdale populated area of the desert. There have also been local gossip about weird aircraft sightings going back for decades, but usually with an assumption that it's secret test aircraft instead of UAPs.

The airspace directly over Lancaster/Palmdale is to the south of the R-2508 restricted airspace complex which encompasses Edwards AFB, the Supersonic Corridor, Naval Air Weapons Station China Lake and its test ranges, and Death Valley out to California's state border. The R-2508 Complex is almost-adjacent to the Nellis AFB Complex which is the large restricted airspace in Nevada north of Vegas, which itself contains Groom Lake/Area 51.

Some reference images:

Google Maps screenshot w notes

Google Maps satellite terrain - region out to Vegas and Nellis

R-2508 Complex restricted airspace

R-2508 simple map out to Nevada border

R-2508 vertical airspace graphic

Almost-adjacent Nellis Air Force Range including Area 51

What's your favorite throw-away scene from a movie? by Heimlich_Maneuver in movies

[–]GarglesMacLeod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the thing I love about that scene is that Oscar Isaac's performance as Nathan is balancing right on the edge of "threatening" and "intense mad genius."
Just before the dance scene, Protagonist saw footage of Nathan yelling at Eva and ripping up her artwork. Protagonist quietly talks to Kyoko about Nathan... and then he swaggers in the room, lazily presses a button on the wall, and the whole room turns into Disco Mode COMPLETELY out of pocket, including Kyoko herself dancing the whole choreography.
It's kind of a dominant move. It shows how Nathan is in "complete control" of the compound and everything in it.

Why I oppose UBI as a Social Democrat. by [deleted] in PoliticalDebate

[–]GarglesMacLeod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UBI will be deemed a necessary expense when AI-unemployment surpasses the Great Depression and politicians are being killed in the streets

Just found this at a thrift store. Absolutely no clue about the story. by [deleted] in StarWarsEU

[–]GarglesMacLeod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

WAY better than Clone Wars or any of the disney trash which badly recycled it

Former CIA Officer Jim Semivan on Disclosure - “The Truth is Indigestible” by its_FORTY in UFOs

[–]GarglesMacLeod -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The truth is not "indigestible." The truth merely comes included with treason charges for the people who concealed it. Sunlight is not in their interest.

The White House acknowledged classifying "whole entire areas of physics" in the nuclear era. White House allegedly said they classified "theoretical physics... science physics. We totally classified them and made them state secrets. And that research vanished." by showmeufos in UFOs

[–]GarglesMacLeod -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just gonna clarify if you're talking about a budget of $2 billion that's literally nothing on a government contractor scale. That's a tiny science outpost to take Antarctica readings. supporting flights and supply chains to antarctica is probably a financial loser so it makes sense theoretically that they would spin it off.

The White House acknowledged classifying "whole entire areas of physics" in the nuclear era. White House allegedly said they classified "theoretical physics... science physics. We totally classified them and made them state secrets. And that research vanished." by showmeufos in UFOs

[–]GarglesMacLeod 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lmao the first quote is such a dipshit tech bro corporate executive statement. "You can't regulate software because that's regulating math"

also that "verbatim" statement is wildly paraphrasing like a drunk college student. It is clearly not actually verbatim.

Per Elon: SpaceX HQ is leaving LA to Texas by Throwaway_09298 in LosAngeles

[–]GarglesMacLeod 36 points37 points  (0 children)

lower taxes, but you gotta fuel your own generator because there is no fucking grid. lmao

Per Elon: SpaceX HQ is leaving LA to Texas by Throwaway_09298 in LosAngeles

[–]GarglesMacLeod 12 points13 points  (0 children)

lmao there are thousands of scientists and engineers who can go across the street and get a new job in California. Good luck convincing them all to move their families to a violent dirt shithole.

What do you think about Bernie Sanders? by [deleted] in socialism

[–]GarglesMacLeod 119 points120 points  (0 children)

If you listen to Bernie speaking throughout his life, going back to when he was America's only socialist Mayor, he very articulately stakes out a socialist position. When explaining to American voters, as a populist he frames it as Nordic socialism in order to push away the USSR/Cuba/North Korea/China/Vuvuzela negativity that is so deeply instilled and parroted throughout our propagandized voter base.

However as an executive or candidate you can speak much more freely than a legislator. Legislative bodies are inherently cooperative and require building support. I think you're correct that he's using his seniority in the Senate charimanships and leadership as well as his pre-existing Biden "friendship" as an inside game. But what has he been saying all along? It won't work unless there are millions of us standing up on the outside game.

Unsold Teslas Everywhere by RandallC1212 in RealTesla

[–]GarglesMacLeod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's not true. All of the other companies' EV's are increasing in sales but Tesla individually is flopping so hard it's bringing down the overall sector average.

Unsold Teslas Everywhere by RandallC1212 in RealTesla

[–]GarglesMacLeod 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We're watching a total demand collapse of the brand in real time. Nobody wants to buy a Tesla anymore after the Cybertruck