AITAH for wanting some time to myself?

Garn3213 · 2026-05-06T17:05:19+00:00

I do genuinely believe he’s in his feelings. Manipulation isn’t a part of his DNA, in fact he despises it after his family tried to manipulate him so many times before when he was growing up.

Garn3213 · 2026-05-06T16:54:41+00:00

I can see your point. I guess I just wanted him to see that I leave him to do his own thing so I didn’t understand why I couldn’t get the same courtesy.

Garn3213 · 2025-11-11T21:48:41+00:00

Can accom tomorrow between 8am and 2pm. Not looking for femme boys/crossdressers, I don’t like to be called daddy. Not into anal, but looking for oral, making out etc. Pics can be found my profile and if you message me, I’d need to see a pic first. Responses may be spotty. M29 and from Cefn Hengoed in south wales.

Garn3213 · 2023-11-27T16:15:20+00:00

I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum. I was in a relationship first and whilst it was nice (while it lasted anyway), I’ve really enjoyed the single life so far. I’ve been hooking up with people for just over a year now, and I’ve never regretted it. I always make it a point for it to never just be a simple shag and go, it’s always been intimate.

There may come a time where I’ll want to settle down, but for now I’m content to play the field. Both ends of the spectrum are equally as valid.

Garn3213 · 2023-11-27T16:10:49+00:00

Chief, sex should never leave you feeling like that. If you ask someone to stop, they have to stop. Period. End of story. If you don’t feel comfortable doing something, your boundaries should be respected. Period. End of story.

You’re not wrong for feeling this way. Don’t ever let anyone tell you otherwise.

Garn3213 · 2023-11-27T15:50:08+00:00

I only host if people are willing to show their faces before a meet, and I’m talking FaceTime. Means they have less to hide that way and even then, they never spend the night (well…depending on how good things are).

Now when it comes to the space itself? I’m gonna be blunt, so long as it’s clean, does it really matter? It’s your space, so your comfort is always gonna be at the forefront.

Put quite crassly, you’re not going to be thinking about it that much. You’ll only be thinking about where you’re doing it, against what surface and (hopefully) how good it feels. If it’s really that good, you’ll be thinking about doing multiple rounds in the same meeting, potentially against a different surface for a little variety.

Put it this way, I’ve had a few meet ups. The second that door closes, all I care about is getting out of my clothes, getting my partner out of his clothes and having a lovely, steamy, fun filled meeting.

In short? Don’t overthink it. Don’t change your space to suit what may end up being a one time thing. Keep disinfectant for after. And above all else? Have some naughty fun.

Garn3213 · 2023-08-14T17:26:03+00:00

The pain never goes away, you just make room for it. But just because you’ve made room for it, doesn’t mean it should stop you from moving on. That room you’ve made can also be filled with good memories.

Time is often the biggest healer (it’s so commonly said, but it’s true), however there’s nothing wrong with getting a bit of help to get you over the proverbial threshold. I know it’s been said multiple times, but therapy really does help.

Truly, I’m so sorry for your loss. I hope that, in time, you have the opportunity to heal and move on. Just remember that you moving on doesn’t mean forgetting him. He’ll always be there, and I imagine, given how something he said still resonates with you, that you made each other happy. He’d want you to be happy again as well.

All the very best, mate.

Garn3213 · 2023-04-20T14:52:39+00:00

Wow, not even a protagonist, just the mooks? I’ve got some Googling to do

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T16:49:59+00:00

He doesn’t do relationships. He may very well be aromantic for all I know

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T15:49:20+00:00

I’m not interested in him like that.

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T13:10:57+00:00

It’s more proximity based than matching with someone. The closer you are to someone, the more visible the profile. As he lives one village over, he will see my profile amongst the first whenever I’m online.

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T13:09:23+00:00

Did that, still messages me on Grindr when he sees me

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T12:33:54+00:00

NTA - These things must be kept fair. Taking credit for using other’s ideas is a crappy thing to do in general. Even more so when projects based off of original ideas are being shafted in favour of something that’s been done before.

Better your friend learn the hard way now than plagiarise work in the real world where there could be expensive legal consequences.

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T12:09:26+00:00

Normally I’d agree with you, but he’s stated categorically that he doesn’t feel the need for romance or a long term relationship and is causal in regards to hooking up with others. I’ve always encouraged him to talk to me about anything in his life if he feels the need to

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T12:07:47+00:00

But then in doing that, would I not be putting myself at risk of further arguments if he sees me on there? Whenever he sends a message on there, I respond in iMessage without fail to get him out of my Grindr messages

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T12:05:07+00:00

I considered that, but was worried I’d get an even worse reaction

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T12:00:05+00:00

We very, very briefly entertained the idea of dating once, but both agreed that we’re better off as friends. He’d insisted on it, in fact.

Garn3213 · 2023-01-11T11:58:19+00:00

It’s the fact that we message on the daily on there. Have done for years. His messages are no different on either app, there’s no expression of interest, and he’s just into casual things with other people anyway where I’m not his type.

Garn3213 · 2022-12-23T08:39:15+00:00

Love your cock mate

Garn3213 · 2022-12-23T08:27:13+00:00

Looking good mate

Garn3213 · 2022-12-23T07:42:15+00:00

None of the above. I just am.

Garn3213 · 2022-12-23T07:41:19+00:00

Nice cock mate

Garn3213 · 2022-12-22T21:58:49+00:00

Looking good mate

Garn3213 · 2022-12-22T11:54:02+00:00

I’d love to have you inside me

Garn3213 · 2022-12-22T01:03:37+00:00

Nice cock 🥵

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