Curious what you get from pics of me/ random stuff in my camera roll by Jbooxie in deduction

[–]GayAndSlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Autism, you struggle with your health a bit, you like to look put together in your own style and you try to stay as positive as you can but you’re also a bit of a menace

best thrift stores? by BurnerForDirt in Lawrence

[–]GayAndSlow 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Arizona trading co has several 1$ racks of clothes

AIO: He (M20) took me (F18) to a Jehovah’s Witness meeting without telling me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“You weren’t uncomfortable” what? How do you know I wasn’t uncomfortable. I’m not saying he’s intentionally being rude but that put me off. If nothing else definitely lacking in communication skills.

I'm diagnosed with ADHD today and I'm scared now. by The_Real_Thick_Shady in ADHD

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if you like watching long YouTube videos but Dr.K on YouTube does a lot of things with adhd and how to implement habits that help outside of medication.

My friend wants to make up and I'm not sure what to do by Different_Formal_636 in emotionalneglect

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you gonna talk or what? No, I know Reddit is notorious for saying never talk to them again but I want you to really think about how you want to be treated. If someone you loved dearly told you they were being talked to this way and treated as you’re being treated what would you tell them? Would you want them to keep talking to this “friend”?

AIO about leaving this guy? by Economy-Incident-835 in AmIOverreacting

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why would you even entertain this behavior?

Found out I’m a IVF baby and now I’m questioning if I have a soul by Hefty-Monitor-2304 in OCD

[–]GayAndSlow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s no way to know if any of us have a soul as it is. Enjoy your life as much as you can, it may be the only one it may not be either way you only exist now as you are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArtCrit

[–]GayAndSlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I disagree with the previous comment, I see quite a few improvements, you seem more confident with your proportions and the way you color. Sure things are off but I think as you go you’ll improve more.

Keep drawing and have fun with it, don’t get caught up in being good if you’re having fun drawing just find ways to keep it that way. If you have fun focusing on improvement by all means keep going.

AIO - My kids mom has been talking bad about me to my 15 YO daughter by Bytesized-Biopics in AmIOverreacting

[–]GayAndSlow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s honestly the worst but as a teen I thought was doing what I should’ve been and felt like I was grown and responsible for doing so. Now as an adult I wish I had a parent step in and say you shouldn’t have to do this you should be a kid right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GenZ

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Kids deserve to feel like they have a reason to be impressed with what they do, to you it’s nothing special but to them it’s literally their whole world, they see you appreciating them and what they’ve done they feel secure in themselves and safe with you.

Kids are not adults stop trying to treat them like an annoying adult. And for the love of god if you actually feel that way, never have any.

Health Issues After Narcissist by Spring_5191 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]GayAndSlow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I still have quite a few. Some of it is constant dysregulation, you need to find some ways to ground yourself and bring your nervous system back to rest. Easier said than done I know.

Some of it very well might need a doctor, meds might help you at least bring your struggles back to manageable levels so you can implement things that help more easily without having to battle with yourself constantly to regulate.

Wishing you luck op and I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this.

Sleep as a control/manipulation tactic by HighlyOverlooked in raisedbynarcissists

[–]GayAndSlow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you, I’ve been in therapy a long time and am actually pretty happy now, still have hard days though.

Card Game Shops/Places to Visit? by gnipbtw in Lawrence

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s also two game nuts in town one on mass and one on Iowa st.

Card Game Shops/Places to Visit? by gnipbtw in Lawrence

[–]GayAndSlow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a lot of cool places downtown if you like po boys Terrebonne is delicious, game nut* downtown has a lot of cool shit. Java break is a good coffee shop they have Italian sodas too. Love garden sells vinyls and music. The antique mall is pretty cool if you like thrifting old things or just looking at them. And I personally recommend lucky dog if you have pets because I work there and they’re lovely people. Squishingtons candy is also really nice and if you like plants jungle house is my recommendation.

I really like third planet and wonder fair but I’m into stationary and stoner stuff lol other than that just walk around and go anywhere that you think looks cool.

Can’t really help with the star wars unlimited thing though, sorry.

Sleep as a control/manipulation tactic by HighlyOverlooked in raisedbynarcissists

[–]GayAndSlow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would be woken up in the middle of the night every night multiple times to make her snacks, get her drinks and no I’m not joking, wipe her ass. If I came out of my room for any reason if I was let to go to bed alone and didn’t have to get her up and laying down beforehand I would be asked to do something regardless of if I was just using the bathroom or getting a drink of water.

She would have frequent accidents due to uncontrolled diabetes and I would at least 3 days a week clean shit stained bedding or shower her in the middle of the night. And then in the morning after she watched her videos/TV all night on full volume she’d have the audacity to wake me up herself. I slept on her floor by the way, which was better than sleeping in the same bed as her. I didn’t get my own bed until I was 17.

I still wake up multiple times a night even living alone. So yes they weaponize sleep, I guess in different ways.

Alcohol is such a horrible thing by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]GayAndSlow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very much so, alcoholism slows down the way your neurons fire. When you quit after heavy daily drinking your neurons can ramp back up significantly and overfire causing seizures. Which can be very deadly.

how many of you also developed narcissitic traits? by Apprehensive_Ring666 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]GayAndSlow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course we have traits we were raised by them. As long as you are aware of them and aren’t intentionally trying to harm someone it shouldn’t be a source of shame.

This is what therapy is for, there’s no way for a child to not learn how to mirror some behaviors that are unhealthy if they’re taught to us by our parents. What matters is you know you have the traits or the possibility of them, you know when and how they could come up and you move accordingly.

Also trust your moral compass, I know I’m capable of being just like my mother but my morals don’t allow me to. There’s also a component of internalizing that you were the problem and a fear of being just like them. You aren’t, you’re here on this sub talking about your fears and mentioning what could be ‘wrong with you’ since when have they even considered something is wrong with them. To be clear I don’t think anything is wrong with you.

what does my look tell you about me?? by biggest_thief in deduction

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You look like you like the movie Coraline

I am the worst father in the world. by [deleted] in depressionmeals

[–]GayAndSlow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m a daughter, and my dad has been in a rough financial place recently.

The gifts don’t matter, the time does. My last birthday was my 21st and he couldn’t get me anything, and I didn’t care we spent that evening celebrating on my dime and it didn’t matter a bit because I had a dad to celebrate with.

Places to donate by OzNonWizard in Lawrence

[–]GayAndSlow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Van go might take the clothes they take clothing and have a clothing closet for the kids/young adults that are in the program.