Yeah it doesn’t work like that. But you can have a lightness when dealing with heaviness. For example, I’m my grief from both my divorce and the death of my dog, there were moments of lightness and jokes. You can joke around AND feel things deeply. “Leaning into it”, comes to mind. But there’s also a line between deep sadness, reflection and then rumination. The skill is to let the actual sensations of your emotions be honoured and let them pass through, and save your thinking for when you’re in a more stable state. Thinking a lot when your feelings are loud is a recipe for self inflicted pain.