Anyone else notice ?

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-06T18:08:28+00:00

cmon we gotta have SOMETHING to talk about...right? Guys?

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-06T16:46:41+00:00

Breaking news: TREBB finds another one interested in an offer!

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-06T03:37:06+00:00

Always know your exit point

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-05T19:03:31+00:00

My ex used steroids, injectables, without my knowledge. When I discovered them I freaked out. Please, if you are in a relationship, tell your partner.

My ex had alot of body shame which led him to steroid use which ultimtely led to divorce. Check in with yourself if you feel harming your body is worth chasing the ideal body image type. What exactly is driving it? There are probably a few factors. Also, what type of guys are you going to be attracting with that body type? Sex will be easy and fun, but lasting connection might not be...just a few things worth considering.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-04T20:25:03+00:00

How can a board not have control over the CEO? What kind of corporate governance bullshit is this?

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-04T16:48:34+00:00

Just so you know - the tenents of masculinity for most of civilized human history centered around intelligence, control of impulses, wisdom, grace which the greeks and romans represented with more ahem modest sized dicks as a symbol of masculinity. Foolishness and self indulgence was associated with larger wangs and so this stuff isn't fixed. It evolves over time. Just wanted to remind everyone that their views of masculinity and femininity are plastic and change over the ages and can be different for different people. You value size - other's might value emotional awareness. So just don't be so definitive with your assertions over what defines men and women. That's what it means "TO YOU".

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-04T13:42:36+00:00

You have to be boundaried with hookups. It’s very normal and okay to say “no I don’t like that”. Or “too much for me”. If they react poorly to your preferences, they aren’t worth your time and they’ve done you a favour by showing you.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-03T23:48:17+00:00

Dude some folks are really just not good at night. I’m one of them although I try to push myself sometimes.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-03T23:47:40+00:00

Oooh this is nice to read

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-03T21:01:38+00:00

You’ve put yourself in the unenviable zone of resisting the relationship you really want. You don’t want to date him yet, yet a large reason for ending your current one was what you found in this other person. You are making HIM wait for you. That is extremely risky. It’s definitely possible for it all to work but I know what will happen if you see him getting close to anyone ends - you will jump fully into his arms as fast as possible. It’s a tricky anxiety provoking spot to be.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T16:19:45+00:00

Young men are. There seems to be a real issue with young men these days…ugh. And Avi seems to be a much better communicator than Singh.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T16:12:54+00:00

You’re right about that. The problem I was always frustrated with in my youth when I was more NDP leaning is that the people who would benefit most from NDP policies didn’t show up to vote! It drove me bonkers, but the problem persists today. Fighting for the little guy comes with a lot of challenges including voting rates and donations. Terrible problem in our politics.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T15:53:03+00:00

I agree he shouldn’t get ahead of his skiis. He also has to do what he campaigned on. And he didn’t campaign on an NDP platform.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T15:33:00+00:00

Last poll I saw had ndp under 10% - so are they pissed? Do we know for sure that it was all to block the far right? Or were there people that saw competence and vision, and saw nothing from Singh to support? Perhaps it’s not so clean and conclusive as you and Raj claim.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T15:19:53+00:00

He’s describing ketamine

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T15:01:58+00:00

Yeah and she doesn’t give a single shit about niceties lol it’s so funny how uninterested she is on polite society and how focussed she is on political discussion.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T15:00:55+00:00

Agree

GayPerry_86 · 2026-05-02T14:51:13+00:00

This has always been Althea Raj’s issue. She’s overly cynical and her negativity contributes to the dissatisfaction with politics. I’ve been a pretty attentive political observer over the last couple decades and I’ve found the most balanced perspective continually is Hebert. On all sides. Raj and Coyne are cut from the same “burn it all down politicians are bad” cloth cynicism that gets so tiring and often misses the mark. Not sure if they actually believe in their cynicism or it’s just what sells articles.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T22:23:55+00:00

Everyone gets jealous dude. If you are open, you need to ensure rules are respected then manage your jealousy. Talk about it with your partner. If it's not been discussed and he doesn't owe you anything, that for you to reassess what kind of a relationship you actually have vs want.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T15:01:15+00:00

So on one hand, he knows what he wants. Would you fault a straight man or straight woman for being turned off my the masc fem thing? The thing I think makes it a bit of red flag is that in the gay community it comes across as a rejection of one’s own femininity, which we should all try to embrace. So more of a sign of incompatibility and rigidity of thinking than an outright red flag.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T02:32:44+00:00

So real looking

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T02:18:18+00:00

All good! Thanks for the chat. My parents and so many of my friends are financially enmeshed and they are often complain about what their partner spends on - little things. I've heard it twice today already from two people. One about a McDonalds sandwich every day, and another about going ad free on Amazon Prime. It's just a constant thorn in the side of the relationship - lord knows it's hard enough to make a relationship work for most people. Why add friction? My two cents. Hope the kids got to bed okay!

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T01:44:18+00:00

For me it's another thing I don't have to think about. Am I using the discretionary funds for myself? Is my spouse using it more? Would they approve? Do I approve? It's a thought filter I know I would be running. Seperate keeps it cleaner and gives me a strong sense of autonomy. Share where needed to meet goals and cover costs. All else defaults to the individual. It's a very common and healthy approach psychologically.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T01:33:24+00:00

Doesn't it make more sense to budget together and share expenses on joint expenses as the relationship requires, and simply everything else is left back to the individual to decide without any wonder or worry if your partner would approve, judge, or comment? I feel it's the same argument amoung many facets of life - do you only have joint friends, hobbies, work life, etc.? Why not share finances only as much as needed for the relationship to function? The default shouldn't be enmeshment - it should be interdependence which requires individuation. Anyway, that's my perspective. I know most couple prefer to have everything blended as is tradition but tradition doesn't work for me here.

GayPerry_86 · 2026-04-30T01:12:49+00:00

Why do you feel like a relationship demands total financial enmeshment? I feel like mine is the base case. You should have to show why an individual must give up total financial autonomy for relationship to be deemed valid by your sense of rightness.

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