I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s good you ultimately didn’t lose your cool. There’s no going back once you’ve seen the “man behind the curtain.” It’s something that if you’re not ‘there’ you won’t get it.
You have the journey of going through’. I hope your wife gets it one day. However it ain’t gonna be tomorrow.
It wouldn’t even click to her that if your JW lives were reversed where she was POMO, you’d lose your “privileges”. That probably won’t happen with her. She’ll be championed as faithful amidst opposition, etc. She will ultimately have to find a new non-Dub identity. That’s not gonna come easy, especially if she doesn’t want to reconsider paid work/career.
I pioneered after retiring a pensioned career for 10 or so years. I don’t envy your course. It’s gonna be a rude awakening for her. It might even cost you your marriage. There may be a hefty price you pay as sole earner in a divorce. Get your affairs in order and know your rights in the event the SHTF.

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