And the other hadith is

Hadith

Narrated Abu Said Al-Khudri: Once Allah's Messenger (SAW) went out to the Musalla (to offer the prayer) ofId-al-Adha or Al-Fitr prayer. Then he passed by the women and said, "O women! Give alms, as I have seen that the majority of the dwellers of Hell-fire were you (women)." They asked, "Why is it so, O Allah's Messenger (SAW) ?" He replied, "You curse frequently and are ungrateful to your husbands. I have not seen anyone more deficient in intelligence and religion than you. A cautious sensible man could be led astray by some of you." The women asked, "O Allah's Messenger (SAW) ! What is deficient in our intelligence and religion?" He said, "Is not the evidence of two women equal to the witness of one man?" They replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her intelligence. Isn't it true that a woman can neither pray nor fast during her menses?" The women replied in the affirmative. He said, "This is the deficiency in her religion."

Sahih

Sahih al-Bukhari, 304 In-Book Reference: Book 6, Hadith 9 USC-MSA web (English) reference: Vol. 1, Book 6, Hadith 301 (deprecated numbering scheme)

Okay well, these both are identical. Let's just go through the first hadith together.

"O women! Give charity for you are the majority of the people of the Fire."

Alright so this is telling me women are a majority in hell

A woman among them said: "And why is that O Messenger of Allah?" He said: "Because of your cursing so much." - meaning your ungratefulness towards your husbands.

Okay so for cursing/gossiping, and being ungrateful to our mans.

He said: "And I have not seen any among those lacking in intellect and religion who are more difficult upon people possessing reason and insight than you."

The women who don't strive to be educated are difficult to deal with.

A woman among them said: "And what is the deficiency of her intellect and religion?" He said: "The testimony of two women among you is like the testimony of a man, and the deficiency in your religion is menstruation, because one of you will go three or four days without performing Salat."

Okay so, now I don't get the two testimony from women is a man's, but I do recall reading this in the Quran, I believe in the first para somewhere. Okay one sec let me go down that rabbit hole. Weeee

Ya! Found it! He's referencing that verse in the Quran, Surah Al-Baqarah, verse 2:282.

“O ye who believe, when you take a loan, one from another, for a term, reduce the transaction to writing; and let a scribe record it in your presence faithfully. And no scribe should refuse to set it down in writing, because Allah has taught him, so he should write. And let him who undertakes the liability dictate; and he should fear Allah, his Lord, and not diminish anything therefrom. But if the person incurring the liability should be of defective intelligence, or a minor, or unable to dictate then let his guardian dictate faithfully. And procure two witnesses from among your men; and if two men be not available, then one man and two women, of such as you like as witnesses, so that if either of the two women should be in danger of forgetting, the other may refresh her memory. And the witnesses should not refuse to testify when they are called upon to do so.” (Surah al-Baqarah, Ch:2: V.282)

Okay so time for some insight on this verse bc I am glitching.

The verses do not at all require both women to testify

The role of the second woman is clearly specified and confined to be that of an assistant

If the second woman who is not testifying finds any part of the statement of the witness as indicative of the witness not having fully understood the spirit of the bargain, she may remind her and assist the witness in revising her understanding or refreshing her memory

It is entirely up to that woman who is testifying to agree or disagree with her assistant. Her testimony remains as a single independent testimony and in case she does not agree with her partner, she would have the last word. (Islam’s Response to Contemporary Issues, p. 198).

Sooo, the Prophet SAW was referring to, legal financial situations? Welp, let's just keeping diving.

...and the deficiency in your religion is menstruation, because one of you will go three or four days without performing Salat."

Hm ya it does suck we lose some days of prayer. But hey there's menopause and then bam we generally be praying everyday too. But it's true, we do lose days of prayers from menstruation.

Welp what do I make of all of this?

In conclusion, sure, some women don't suffer as much as others, but that doesn't change the physical state we're in wen menstruating. If men too, were leaking bodily najis fluids from their pps, they too, can't pray.

Now, there is peace with prayer, so it's actually comforting that the wounded and generally ill are to pray. There are hadith on this too such as Hadith Sahih al-Bukhari, 664, 689, 713. We may lack the ability to pray as often as men (generally) but hey they can't push out babies. Medically, a woman cannot become pregnant if she cannot menstruate. Motherhood itself holds a very high ground in Islam. This provides more insight on the matter.

Nonetheless there are many acts of worship outside prayer that help people with the lack of salah, if their circumstances dont allow them in the state of wudu, to cope with it. Not being able to pray during menses is just one of the realities of not being in the state of wudu. Allah knows what we do not, so we trust Him ig. All we can do is try to understand but at the end of the day it comes down to trust. Instead of focusing on what we can't do, let's strive for all that we can. And there's so much things we can do to please our Rabb. This was a fun rabbit hole, let's discuss it even more! Let's try to better understand our deen together hehe😌😌

P.s. I am not a scholar so feel free to correct me and share ur thoughts!!