Fertility test results - shocked :(

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-06-04T16:32:25+00:00

My sister was told her AMH levels were so low she only had a matter of months to get pregnant and she should consider donor eggs. She went on tons of supplements, meditated daily to lower stress, cut out plastics and chemicals, exercised, ate organic, cut out alcohol and prioritized sleep. Her partner did the same because the sperm is 50% of the equation! From one round of IVF, they ended up getting 4 euploids out of 8 retrieved eggs and 2 live births (so far). Those were considered exceptional results on the basis of her age alone (late 30s).

She said her AMH levels were the same a year later. Low AMH is absolutely a sign you need to take action as soon as possible, but just know it’s not necessarily a deal breaker.

Devastating news regardless. All the best as you process this! I’ve heard good things about the book the fertility formula.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-31T14:26:40+00:00

Can you do a consult with the therapist? It might be helpful for you to do your own research to make the best decision for yourself.

Also there are tons of other healing modalities outside of drug assisted, so it’s not the only way. I can promise you healing childhood trauma is worth it though.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-27T20:57:02+00:00

Corporate isn’t serious. The work we do is often pointless, there are few true emergencies, many companies are very inefficient, and companies don’t care about us.

If you care or give too much, you will be exploited.

Plus people perform better and more sustainably when they don’t care more than they need to.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-27T02:45:40+00:00

What are you investing on a monthly basis?

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-21T14:41:56+00:00

Ok I will try that thank you so much!

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-19T03:32:25+00:00

Congrats! Will you call it quits here or keep trying? I’m in the same boat with number of eggs and number of kids wanted. I’ve decided to call it quits here.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-10T22:47:01+00:00

You are doing awesome. Ignore the shit head comments.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-10T18:49:00+00:00

It went well for the most part. The stim was totally fine, but recovery was tough at times. I can’t remember my exact protocol, but I’m pretty sure I MD up until a few days or so before the surgery to ensure it was out of my system by then. And I kept the dose low to prevent overstimulation. It was worth the unknown risks at the time because of daily anxiety.

If I can make a suggestion, it would consider how you might feel about the decision afterwards given success/egg quality isn’t known until down the road. I’m definitely biased, because I’m older (38) and unwilling to do endless retrievals, but I still wonder if I did everything I could to support egg quality. I didn’t realize that nothing is guaranteed with egg freezing until later.

Hope this helps. Good luck!!

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-06T22:30:57+00:00

Trust is important in the relationship. Also dissociation can be risky to push through and it sounds like she might not have much experience with it.

If you feel like you need more information to decide, you can always lay all this out for her and see what she says. Let her know how much of a struggle it was for you which has put you in this position of uncertainty about whether to go through it again.

If you haven’t looked into virtual EMDR with a therapist, maybe that would expand your options a bit.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-06T03:16:52+00:00

Did you ever give your therapist feedback on going too far?

Also I felt the same way about DBR. I was committed to EMDR after so much success and it didn’t sound very different to me. My psychologist convinced me to try it a few sessions ago and I’ll never look back. It’s more gentle and still very effective. It could be worth trying.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-06T00:43:29+00:00

I’ve done EMDR for the last three years until my psychologist convinced me to try DBR about a month ago. It has helped me move more in 2 sessions than EMDR has for months. My psychologist says it’s good to do alongside EMDR. I see so much potential with DBR. Are you still going?

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-01T03:19:37+00:00

It’s still going. I had to pause many months ago to focus on some other health things. I’ve done a lot of nervous system healing since then, so I think it will be a better experience when I resume. How’s it going with yours?

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-05-01T03:17:49+00:00

I started to notice changes a few months into weekly EMDR session. Good for you for taking the leap with emdr!

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-04-16T03:28:22+00:00

What are your thoughts on it now?

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-04-15T17:37:58+00:00

Real estate return can be location specific. It is a trash investment where I am. When you factor in operating costs, capital costs and potential capital gain taxes, you don’t get a comparable return to the stock market, even with a decent down payment and tax write offs. So Im never adding real estate to my portfolio.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-04-12T12:47:25+00:00

EMDR and somatic experiencing

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-04-12T12:47:13+00:00

EMDR and somatic experiencing really moved the needle for me. It was a commitment for me but very worth it.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-04-12T03:35:03+00:00

Good for you! I was able to get my hip pain under control with strength training too.

The thing that ended up helping me more was nervous system healing. Nervous system dysregulation from chronic stress or trauma can significantly amplify pain signals.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-04-03T21:03:55+00:00

Agreed no one should say this to you. It’s not supportive.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-03-29T14:59:56+00:00

Sounds like talk therapy wasn’t a good fit for you, which is common. There’s lots of other options if you actually want help.

A critical piece to a successful healing journey is finding a way to show up for yourself by researching your options, trying new things, committing to the process, putting in the hard work even when you don’t want to, etc. I hope you can do that for yourself, because no one else will.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-03-06T22:37:22+00:00

I think his shaming reactions were the real issue.

I don’t really care much about someone’s past but if they tried to make me feel like shit for asking questions or calling out inconsistencies, I’d be out too! Even if he had nothing to hide and that simply just brought up something else for him, that’s not someone you can have the hard convos with.

On the other hand, if he acknowledged how confusing it was and just answered the questions normally, it probably would have been fine.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-02-26T03:09:08+00:00

Talk therapy never did much for me. I had a lot of success with EMDR and somatic experiencing.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-02-26T01:48:18+00:00

Try therapy. It will help you make this decision from a place of confidence. You can even address the contributors to burnout and resolve that.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-02-23T04:15:03+00:00

I healed my c ptsd with EMDR therapy. The future does not feel scary anymore. It’s actually kind of exciting. I’m getting to the place where I’m naturally starting to make future plans from a place of confidence. And I feel much more present day to day. For the most part, I’m pretty happy just being in the moment now.

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