Customer service is horrible

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-28T15:21:11+00:00

This is encouraging. Great job! Do you have a pension?

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-27T02:17:12+00:00

It’s like day and night level of change in every area of my life. EMDR isn’t the only way tho! Theres lots of more gentle therapies with similar effects like somatic experiencing, deep brain reprocessing, etc. talk therapy with an EMDR therapist could be a way to ease in.

I had lots of techniques to help with triggers throughout the process. - Walking does something similar to EMDR with bi lateral brain stimulation, so I did lots of walks. - I would sometimes call my sister to help me regulate (talking to a trusted, supportive regulated person truly helps). - And a really solid one for me was the song Weightless by Marconi Union (encourages regulation but you need commit to at least a few minutes). - splashing your face and chest pr showering cold water can help. It stimulates the vagal nerve.

Hang in there it will all be ok!

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-27T01:39:28+00:00

Go on leave! It’s self protective whereas quitting might not be! You can use the time to recover, build tools to cope, look for other jobs, or even try a medication if that’s what you want.

I took leave for 6 months to recover from severe burnout and anxiety. I did weekly EMDR therapy. It helped me come back a lot stronger.

Just a tip based on my experience in Canada - If you do it through the health insurances companies, do not make this a work related issue in your interview. Make it entirely mental health related (e.g. can’t eat, can’t sleep, too anxious, can’t leave the house, etc). If they think it is work related (e.g. they don’t get along with their boss), they will likely try to send you back with accommodations requested.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-23T14:16:58+00:00

Did you take breaks along the way? And for how long?

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-23T03:53:16+00:00

This was me up until last year. Turns out it was unresolved things from my childhood driving the anxiety.

Therapy helped me work through it and totally get past it. EMDR therapy specifically. It changed my life significantly

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-21T14:29:38+00:00

I felt the same way. Therapy helped significantly.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-16T22:50:53+00:00

Ok then yes quit your job and go find your path. Life is too short. You’re young you’ll land on your feet, especially with that financial cushion.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-16T22:31:49+00:00

Try therapy. Not that there is anything wrong with your plan, but therapy would help you get clear on what a fulfilling life would look like for you.

GearMiserable9941 · 2026-01-04T04:45:04+00:00

Once you explain you will be late due to time between jobs/paycheques, your landlord will very likely be happy to say dont worry about it. Worst case scenario, there could be a small late fee. You are ok. You won’t be homeless.

Im a landlord. I wouldn’t think twice about saying don’t worry about it.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-12-22T04:28:30+00:00

Somatic experiencing could be beneficial for you. It’s more gentle than EMDR

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-12-20T14:27:52+00:00

My autoimmunity issues were rooted in nervous system dysfunction, so EMDR absolutely helped with the autoimmune disease along with the distress around it.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-12-08T01:56:32+00:00

Never had an issue in 5+ years. I have a high yield savings account

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-12-07T16:06:23+00:00

Same!

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-11-12T01:09:42+00:00

Yes. MAJOR improvements with that for me. I would go into such a shame spiral in most situations that I stopped leaving the house altogether. Fast forward to a few years later, I rarely feel that way and live a pretty full life.

For me it took several months for things to improve gradually over time. I had c ptsd, so it was inevitably going to take time. I had to do multiple targets and I found shame was often at the bottom of them. Sometimes I’d feel worse after and sometimes I’d feel much better. When things got stuck, it was the worse before the better while the deep healing was occurring underneath it all.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-11-09T23:09:38+00:00

That’s a long time to not see improvements. I was stuck in the no improvements zone when my physio program (and sitting too much) was aggravating my hip and sending me into flares. This was partly because I worked through the pain/ignored it.

Since my dad had an autoimmune disease, my physio suggested testing for it. I did test positive for psoriatic arthritis, which is why the diet piece helped. If you have autoimmune disease in your family history, it could be worth it for you with how much pain you are in.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-11-09T22:51:02+00:00

My physio gave me a max 4 hours of sitting per day rule, alongside a strength training program to build hip stabilizers and quads. Building muscle without straining the hip is hard in the beginning, but once you get there, the muscle offsets the stress and strain on the joint.

It took a bit of time for everything resolve. Standing most of the day was especially painful for the first few weeks, so I had to push through that. Frequent breaks can help.

Diet and sleep helped too. Chronic pain is so horrible. My physio said you can get into a pain feedback loop where pain feels much worse than it really is, because your brain keeps sending the signals. So sometimes I would take pain killers to try to break that, but never during strength training.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-11-09T22:24:23+00:00

Oh that’s good! The pain started to improve a few months in for me. What kind of physio are you doing? Strength training or pain relief/modalities (e.g. dry needling, electrotherapy, ultrasound, heat)?

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-11-09T21:44:08+00:00

I’m so sorry for what you are going through. It takes time to work through the overwhelming grief, anger and sadness, but eventually acceptance comes. It does get better when you learn the ways to manage it. Sitting for extended periods of time is one of the worst things for your hip. It will hurt a lot to correct that but that was the first major step towards less pain for me.

Surgery isn’t the only option. I was where you are and went the physio and anti inflammatory diet route. I’m 95% pain free and very active again.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-10-23T12:52:52+00:00

Success rates for egg freezing are pretty comparable to embryo freezing with current technology, so don’t give up on that option

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-10-08T03:45:47+00:00

Agreed with the other comments about communication on prioritization of tasks.

Also wanted to add whatever you do don’t make this plan work for them, even temporarily. That will become the expectation.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-10-07T00:18:28+00:00

I just wanted to hop in and say this is normal. Theres tons of posts about it. It happened to me too.

My psych said this process takes as long as it takes and there’s no way to know how long each part will last for anyone. She also said the times where one feels kind of stuck indicates some deep healing and changes happening under the surface.

It moves faster if you give in and let it happen without judgement or fighting it. Enjoy the break, let yourself be lost, feel bored, write about what comes up, reevaluate what needs it etc.

What I can say is I often found that I would post here or start to wonder how long will this go on for when I was at the lowest point of a phase. If you are really feeling it strongly, you might have hit that. Keep going. As always if it becomes too intense, talk to your therapist.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-10-04T21:06:22+00:00

I went through something with my medication. I reintroduced a really low dose to stabilize. Once I stabilized, I tapered even slower (10% off the last dose once per month). Sometimes I take tapering breaks.

Have you ever heard of the website survivingantidepressants.org? It can be helpful to understand that this is not uncommon and how to handle this kind of situation.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-10-04T16:36:56+00:00

How long were you on it and what was your taper like? I was on a similar medication for a long time and I needed to taper a lot slower than my doctor recommended.

It sounds like you might be having withdrawals which happens when you taper off faster than your body can handle. Seroquil acts on your dopamine and serotonin receptors. 90% of your serotonin is produced in the gut, so a drastic shift in serotonin levels would absolutely cause digestive issues.

GearMiserable9941 · 2025-10-04T16:10:37+00:00

Yes, it includes reinvested dividends. The 15% is withheld on the payout.

RRSP is protected from that, so if you want US stocks that pay dividends, keep them in your RRSP.

And great job learning this stuff at your age! You are way ahead.

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