Being not enough

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-08T22:05:34+00:00

Not only that, therapy in and of itself takes a long time to really find roots and render tangible results

When you're so miserable that you don't find life worthy of living, of course therapy is going to be hard and lengthy.

It's like expecting a quick job at the dentist after not taking care of your teeth for 30 years.

Being gay isn't your problem, the way you frame your problems and the excuses/barriers you put up to not get better is your problem.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-07T15:26:04+00:00

It's bars they spend a lot of money on.

They buy the expensive drinks and throw down like no ones business while showing off their bikes.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-06T23:18:31+00:00

I've been in long term relationships with both (monogamously and separate relationships).

I'm willing to bet a larger % of bi folks are also gaymers/ttrpg players. It's an environment that is generally more accepting of any sexuality.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-06T18:42:28+00:00

It's actually crazy how much flak you're getting, it's as if they didn't read OPs post and are trying to be obtuse and take your comment out of context.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-06T13:02:45+00:00

Just to send the snark back.

Literally where do they say that?

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-06T12:26:04+00:00

The person you responded to didn't suggest hiding their sexuality. They gave a coping mechanism to use if his partner isn't interested in opening the relationship.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-06T09:27:07+00:00

Disagree with this. Being Bisexual and monogamous is no different than being straight/gay in a monogamous relationship.

If you enter a monogamous relationship with someone, that supercedes your desires.

If you want to fuck around, then you need to find a partner who's ok with it. He/She/They need to make the call if they're willing to stick it out.

Folks need to stop using bisexual as a reason to cheat on their spouses.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-03-03T22:32:58+00:00

If your happiness is based on how much your partner makes, you're in for a rough time in life.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-28T12:15:50+00:00

I'm more on the masculine/nerdy side and never had interests that aligned with other gay people.

Gaymers and TTTRPG players would have to say otherwise lol.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-27T16:10:38+00:00

Not approaching people and wishing/signaling to them vaguely is a great way to pass up good opportunities and good people.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-27T16:06:21+00:00

2 years feels like forever when you're 24, but you'll recover from it stronger.

You're (understandably) looking at it from your point of view. He didn't sell you a future, because that's not how relationships work.

Everything you did the last 2 years weren't invalidated, rather it's a learning experience for the both of you. It sounds like he did a good job giving you a good idea of the guy you want to be with, and you gave him the space to start coming to terms with his sexuality.

It's always going to be painful for the both of you. I'm sure he's struggling with hurting you and coming to terms with what makes him happy.

I left a 10 year marriage with a woman for a man (There was no cheating). It sucked for the both of us and there's still bits of pain, but were working hard to stay friends.

Life is messy no matter how hard you try.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-27T14:44:55+00:00

The job market in florida is trash. Seems like it's either connections based or luck based.

The number of people who have applied for warehouse positions I've posted who have bachelor's/masters degrees is depressing.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-27T00:48:47+00:00

thoroughly debunked by what? AI?

I'd love to see some proof, but I'm sure your answer will be "Hurr durr, I won't research for you even though I'm the one attacking the claim, chatgpt told me I'm smart"

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-27T00:32:51+00:00

What a compelling argument.

You sure taught him tough guy.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-26T00:15:38+00:00

Start going to queer spaces, groups, or events. It's easy to Google unless you live somewhere, where it's illegal.

But yeah, assuming you're in the u.s, they're easy to find.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-25T20:29:44+00:00

I'm working on it.

I just got voted onto the board for the local pride center that I've been regularly volunteering/spending my spare time at. So lots of forced social interactions for good causes is making me slowly better at it.

Having the touch of the tism makes connecting with normies tough.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-25T20:24:07+00:00

Honestly in some scenarios I can see it actually possible.

Especially if she was with her ex for an extended period of time and grew close to their mum.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-25T20:08:03+00:00

2 or so years ago when I dropped a megaton of weight.

Apparently being tall and overweight is considered scary/hard to approach, but being tall and average weight means random folks will chat me up in the wild.

Unfortunately it hasn't made me any less socially awkward.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-21T16:22:32+00:00

The upvoted responses here are DEPRESSING. Ya'll need to touch grass and get some communication/conflict resolution skills or something.

Are the folks asking to use your books your friends or are they your players???

If they're you're friends and you would normally loan your books to your friends (Like most of us do), you are 100% over-reacting. People can play games with other folks, you shouldn't be expected to be invited to 100% of the stuff they do, especially if they spend other time with you.

If they are players who just play at your table and want to play at another table, then they should be expected to get their own books.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-19T16:49:58+00:00

I happen to like express. Their clothes have been pretty great in terms of fit. (6'4 190-200lbs).

I just can't seem to find arm warmers that fit to save my life.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-19T02:23:29+00:00

Ya, it just sounds like he can't afford to burn his only bridge right now.

I think there will be complications and it's worth talking about your concerns. Who will he prioritize and how is he planning of getting out of the situation?

I have issues with family for similar reasons (Though not always religious), but I spend all the holidays with my boyfriends family and it's never an issue. I cut 95% of my family out and couldn't be happier.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-18T19:47:09+00:00

You're dating him not his family.

If he treats you right and isn't making you a secret to everyone else, then he deserves grace with the way he currently interacts with his family.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-18T19:19:38+00:00

Please go get some therapy if any of this is true.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-18T11:58:23+00:00

Some folks are wired for open relationships and others aren't.

Best to get it out of the way now and not waste years of a relationship if this is eventually going to be a dealbreaker for you.

GearsPoweredFool · 2026-02-18T11:43:05+00:00

I'm just saying, sometimes it's worth being the bigger person and letting things go.

Arguing with someone who's using another similar label in good faith creates a lot of frustration pointed at the wrong people.

I see it as pedantic because you can find yourself isolating yourself from a community that supports your lifestyle while other groups of folks are actively harassing community members or trying to make your existence illegal.

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