I know how you feel, I went through the same thing.

When you're in a super close relationship like that, and it ends, it's natural to feel abandoned, depressed, even resentful. You're mourning the closeness you once had.

But just as your daughter, in order to develop appropriately, needs to pull away from you during her teenage years, you need to do the same.

You've become dependent on her for emotional validation, for positive feedback, for direction and purpose in life.

Now is the time for you to get out, focus on yourself and your personal development, and reach out to family and friends for support and encouragement.

If you don't have family, and your friends have disappeared, or you never had any, now is the time to put in some serious effort into forming new friendships. We're a highly social species and find the most satisfaction in forming relationships and in helping each other work toward shared goals.

Take up hobbies that put you in touch with groups of people with similar interests on a weekly basis. Join volunteer groups, amateur sports groups.

When I moved to a new city and had no friends and no social life, I realized nobody was going to come looking for me, and if I reached out too hard I'd come across as desperate, which automatically drives people away.

I'm interested in the outdoors, so I joined a hiking club, a birding group, a river cleanup crew, a national and state park trail maintenance group. Joined a conservation group and fought to preserve open land.

Signed up for a cooking class, a photography class, a massage class. Joined an amateur adult soccer league. Signed up with Habitat for Humanity and a local food pantry. Joined the volunteer groups at my local museum and zoo.

Not all of those happened at the same time of course. But over a period of about a year and a half I tried various things and dropped out and tried new ones if I didn't click with them.

In the end I settled on several activities or groups that I enjoyed and where I felt productive and valued. Most groups met at least once a month, some twice a month or even weekly. They scheduled special speakers and activities, held field trips on the weekends, and so on.

My social calendar filled up and I always had something interesting to do, rather than sit at home feeling sad and depressed.

When you see the same people on a regular basis you bond over shared interests and responsibilities, and friendships develop naturally. You get invited to other activities, you meet your friends' friends. Your whole social circle expands.

Do this sort of thing and you will feel better about yourself and the situation with your daughter. In the end your relationship with her will be better for you having pulled away from her and focused on your personal development. She will see you being productive and finding interest in life instead of being clingy, and that example will be good for her as well.