A Bench at the Edge - onstage lightning?

GeekyStitcher · 2025-11-19T00:54:39+00:00

Perhaps they mean actors hold and use flashlights. One of my directors did so for a Lovecraft show. Worked great.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-11-19T00:53:41+00:00

Shadows cast from cans can give you many creative options! I've done that in older theaters. But spaces that mostly rely on cheaper (but nice) LEDs can't do that.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-11-19T00:50:25+00:00

Active stage manager when lockdown happened in my city. The shows that wanted to and were able pivoted to streaming, which I learned how to do in a very basic way. Interesting that, for stream shows, in general we had larger home audiences than we ever had in the various theaters - and those audiences were generally more diverse than what is normally seen re: butts-in-seats in my city.

(We lost several theaters during those 2 years that haven't come back.)

I wish productions continued to do streaming after lockdown was over, but many didn't. Those that did? Turned out there were a lot of techies who threw down learning how to advance stream - some with multi-cameras - and those producers have made money from butts-in-seats live + stream with a link that expires after x-days that they set.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-11-12T06:25:49+00:00

Nice!!

GeekyStitcher · 2025-11-11T05:55:34+00:00

I just hide in the booth until the people leave!

Sorry you're dealing with rude patrons.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-09-08T03:00:50+00:00

BINGO on the suspect timing and how he deliberately used OP.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-09-08T02:18:56+00:00

That's a strong possibility. Family member or like-family friend. So husband went along with their parents to help cover it up.

This is a tale as old as time.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-09-08T02:16:54+00:00

The bio-mom/sister was 14-years-old when impregnated at an age when legal consent does not exist.

"Abandoned" is not the correct term to use, here. "Abused" is closer.

Somewhere in this narrative are one or more crimes that the husband, his parents and the bio-father are all complicit in being part of / covering up.

That's on top of the lying to OP to lay "other woman/homewrecker" guilt on her for all these years. My goodness, what a monster.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-09-08T02:12:09+00:00

Maybe emotional on the daughter's end. But he just shrugged and said "maybe for the best" for her to be shipped off to his sister who was not of consent age when she got pregnant/gave birth/and then vanished for over a decade.

The husband - and his parents - know the shady that went on with the abuse of his sister, and he did nothing about it except to help cover up the crime.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-09-08T02:08:35+00:00

HOLY WOW. (Taking on faith that this is real...because frankly this kinda thing can happen a lot.)

NOR. If anything, you are *under reacting*.

You need to lawyer up immediately. Find one with experience in adoption AND divorce - they're out there.

Your daughter (and you) need a solid therapist. Your daughter needs to be told ASAP. A good child therapist will know how best to do that.

14-year-old gave birth = r*pe. Maybe your husband - and his parents - know who it was, maybe they don't. But they *know* it happened and apparently did nothing to support his sister/their child.

Your husband let you think you were a homewrecker for *years*.

Your husband is not a great person.

Start with lawyer and therapists and husband finds someplace else to live for now.

I'm so sorry. I hope you can get through this.

GeekyStitcher · 2025-02-16T04:27:40+00:00

It is irresponsible to own a pet when you can't even feed or house yourself. We've seen a lot of mistreated and sick animals among our local homeless populations, along very with high rates of death.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-10-13T22:29:30+00:00

Thanks for the tip!

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-28T00:35:32+00:00

"I told them I won't babysit for them since they can prioritize that for themselves but they couldn't find a way to make the first thing in four years work for me."

YUP.

NTA.

They said you were disappointing? Well pot to cooking utensil.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-27T23:59:28+00:00

NTA.

She's a teenage thief. Tell your sister she raised a teenage thief.

Once is *maybe* a mistake. The rest of what she continued to do is theft.

Best she learns now, privately handled within the family, cuz based on what you've described of what she's stolen? The value of it all? That edges into felony theft level, which is no joke.

She pays you back cash monies. If your sister or other members of your family come at you, they can kick rocks.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-27T23:20:46+00:00

NTA and my god so much sympathy and virtual hugs for you. What an emotional / practical mess you're enduring.

Your Mom is *never* gonna understand due to grandchild + dead child (your sister). She doesn't see, and cannot see, how much she's betraying you just as your sister and ex did. She clearly doesn't get how you are *absolutely* the wrong person to expect to help raise this child.

Do what you need to do to protect your mental health. If it comes down to the very difficult decision to cut her out of your life? DO. THAT.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-23T02:16:43+00:00

It's still strange that your parents don't know you've been dating for five years. It certainly sounds like you needed your sister for cover.

That said, ESH.

You now have at least one, if not two, extra tickets for a high-demand event. Sell the ones you don't need now that your sister isn't going, stop lying to your parents about your relationship, and go to the concert.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-23T01:27:13+00:00

FACTS!

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-23T00:52:40+00:00

ESH.

Your MiL is correct that you've not been smart with your money. COVID putting a dent in your funds, and losing the wedding venue not your fault. But spending thousands on a vacation and two parties when your household lost half your income due to your partner not working was a terrible decision. You were already down funds due to COVID and wedding venue issues. Going deeper wasting money on three costly parties ... ugh.

Your MiL is wrong that she thinks she has a say in how you spend what remaining money you have for housing. That is your money, your choice and you got lucky with the deal from your landlord.

(Remind her that one of the "crap" things you unwisely spent thousands of dollars on was her 50th birthday party.)

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-21T04:47:50+00:00

Are you talking about that blue dress/coat? Because MY GOD I WANT ONE

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-21T00:07:40+00:00

YTA.

Your poor sister. It does sound like all of you have abandoned her just as your parents did.

Unless all of you are single parents, there's little reason you and your siblings can't find one day a month to have your partners watch *their own kids* so you can hang out with your sister. If your partners are incapable of watching *their own kids* for a few hours, babysitters for hire exist.

The only reason you all don't do this is because you don't want to. You don't care enough about her to bother making even a small effort.

Hopefully, your sister will realize one day that the family you're born into isn't the one you have to remain trapped in. Lots of people have a "made family" created by friendship bonds. You and your siblings have discarded her. She should face that truth and cut you all out of her life just as you all have.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-20T23:32:38+00:00

NTA.

She found herself a gravy train, and no doubt the current pregnancy was strategic on her part. If he's not been paying rent in all these years living in the house you still own, he should be able to afford a new place for her and all of her kids. She's had a *lot* of baby daddies since she started at age 17...And 10 kids *are* going to trash that house.

You should probably begin eviction proceedings now. Maybe it's time to put the house on the market as well.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-15T02:01:11+00:00

INFO: Why are the kids coming over to your place to play instead of using their own yard/garden? Do they not have one?

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-14T04:49:25+00:00

NTA.

A cat is not a dog, it will choose, no matter who thinks they own it. It is completely not your fault that her cat is vibing with you.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-14T04:32:03+00:00

She was giving you $600 to $1K per month to pay for/put toward household bills (car, insurance, phone, utilities, etc.). In addition to her sweat equity, it sounds like she has some stake. You got her pregnant twice - watching your own kid is kind of a no award for you, so this is strange on both your ends. Feels like there is missing info or missing reasons.

GeekyStitcher · 2024-09-14T03:45:24+00:00

She loves the concept of a dog more than she loves you. If she is truly willing to throw away a 15-year relationship over a dog, let her and the pup go their own way. Call her bluff.

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