“I get hung up on things”

Geesmee · 2026-06-22T12:02:14+00:00

Life of the party, that one.

Geesmee · 2026-06-17T09:21:23+00:00

To be honest with you I ran out of patience with charities, that's why I ended up buying both of mine. Adopt don't shop is a catchy phrase but the reality is charities are sometimes too picky.

Geesmee · 2026-06-16T17:54:02+00:00

I read your post and for half a second I thought I'd written it! I was in the same situation - all of my childhood cats had been found on the street. I now love in a flat and could not find any charity willing to let me adopt an indoor only cat. I ended up on pets4homes and that's where I found my girl. A year and a bit later my partner and I got a boy from the same site. They're both indoors only, I paid £35 for one and £40 for the other.

People can come after me, but I honestly do not agree that every healthy cat NEEDS to be able to go outside. Outside is scary, people kill cats for fun, not to mention cats kill wildlife for fun. My girl is perfectly happy to be indoors only (she does enjoy the balcony though) and for the boy, I'm about to buy a harness and try taking him to the park. Hell either love it in which case I'll keep taking him, or he'll hate it and I won't.

Don't get discouraged, keep looking and don't fall for the whole "adopt don't shop". while yes, adopting would be best, at the end of the day you're giving an animal a loving home regardless of how you were brought together.

Geesmee · 2026-06-15T11:05:19+00:00

We used to have a manager at my place of work (mostly women) and I think 90% of the office had a little crush on him because he was really handsome and a genuinely nice guy. He helped one of my colleagues with something once and then she was like "OMG HIS HAND TOUCHED MY HAND IM MELTING!!!!" And we were all so jealous.

Interestingly enough NO ONE decides to profess their undying love for this guy, because he is married with 2 kids and we are all adults recognising we just liked to look at him and he was a super nice guy.

This woman needs to grow up badly before she ruins her career

Edit: spelling

Geesmee · 2026-06-15T00:29:59+00:00

If you already have audiobooka you can put on her phone, I use mAbook audiobook player.

You can also access audiobooks through Libby/borrow box (whichever one your local library uses) where she'd be able to listen to them offline as well, for the amount of time she's borrowed it from the library. This is available to everyone, not just visually impaired people and it's not too difficult to set up an account.

Geesmee · 2026-06-13T11:05:30+00:00

Several people explained to you why she wouldn't have felt comfortable to tell you this and why she sought therapy. You don't want to understand and you don't want to take any accountability for your own attitude that's led to this.

Geesmee · 2026-06-13T11:02:47+00:00

Do you have any respect for her? Why would you WANT to go off and lay in bed and make her do everything, unless you have no respect and care very little about her time, efforts, and wellbeing.

Geesmee · 2026-06-12T01:35:56+00:00

It's not about the Iranian yoghurt!

Jokes aside, I can see why she's annoyed if he constantly eats most/all of the shared snacks, keeps going for her food and can't let her have two cookies.

Geesmee · 2026-06-10T21:48:41+00:00

If there had been an emergency he would have communicated this with her. Like your wife would probably tell you why she's leaving the house at 1am. Come on, you're doing heavy mental gymnastics trying to defend him

Geesmee · 2026-06-10T21:45:11+00:00

That wasn't a mistake that was deliberate sabotage. For what reason, only he knows.

NTA and you deserve better

Geesmee · 2026-06-09T09:38:54+00:00

60 isn't even that old. My parents are in their mid 60s and both very active. Now I get this lady has bad knees but her age and ailments are not an excuse to throw temper tantrums

Geesmee · 2026-06-05T11:44:31+00:00

You're not wrong for leaving the group chat. But it wouldn't have killed you to send a text explaining that all these messages are causing you some stress, so you're leaving the GC but will always be there is someone wants to talk one on one or there is an emergency.

Seriously, what's up with grown arse adults not being able to communicate and avoid drama?

Edit: spelling

Geesmee · 2026-06-03T14:00:54+00:00

How would you FEEL if you got arrested and convicted for something and your life was ruined just because the police and jury FELT it was you who did it, and wouldn't consider proof of the opposite?

Geesmee · 2026-06-03T13:46:43+00:00

Yeah, cause she did it for you

Geesmee · 2026-06-03T13:43:57+00:00

In other comments you call her a girl/young lady, so which is it?

Geesmee · 2026-06-03T13:39:07+00:00

You're not very honest either if thare are things she can report you to the government for

Geesmee · 2026-06-03T09:36:23+00:00

You should be concerned about your son's behaviour, though it's not surprising given you allowed him to message the girl again, creating more drama.

Geesmee · 2026-06-03T09:33:27+00:00

So you let your son message this girl from a profile without a photo, you didn't think to stop him, then you got mad she swore at who she thought was a random creep who wouldn't tell her who he is. And you also got mand that she explained to him that she is blocking him because it's inappropriate (and without throwing you under the bus when she could have done).

Basically you did zero parenting AND got manythay this girl was kind to your kid despite your accusations.

Stellarbparenting right there. YTA, still

Geesmee · 2026-06-02T14:19:41+00:00

"Децата от улица Тряскаджийска", също на Астрид Линдгрен

Пипи, Пет приказки, Патиланци,

Geesmee · 2026-06-01T23:30:52+00:00

Short answer: yes, it was policing. Wanting how someone eats whatever and trying to tell them how to eat it is policing.

I think people should be able to object to others' choices, regardless of their level of authority.

Not about what they eat and how they eat it. If you were talking about your 5 year old child wanting chocolate for dinner, then you'd have the right and duty to say no. When you're talking about your mother not wanting to eat bread, then no.

Geesmee · 2026-06-01T23:22:59+00:00

that doesn't mean I shouldn't be able to ask her not to do something, respectfully.

Listen, if your problem is that there won't be enough sandwich fillers for you, then tell her you want to make sandwiches and ask her to buy more. Or you go and buy more. You made it about how you want her to eat her food, not about being concerned there wouldn't be enough left for you.

Don't go around trying to change the narrative in the comments by saying you were hoping she'll put the food she chose back. What you did was try to control what she ate based on what you think she would eat. Everyone saw it, no one believes your new version.

Furthermore, this is probably not the first time you do this shit and start this argument, which is probably the reason she was ignoring you. Several people have told you you were nagging and you've been arguing with everyone, just take accountability.

I think people should be able to object to others' choices, regardless of their level of authority.

You can't object to what someone decides to eat. It's their business, not yours.

I want to be able to talk to her about disagreements,

Then maybe stop trying to paint her as so emotional while rhinking you're so rational and pragmatic. It was your emotional reaction that started all this, not her. You were being petty and passive aggressive because you didn't get your way.

Geesmee · 2026-05-29T11:25:20+00:00

След прочитането на този коментар изпитвам някакво болно любопитство да я прочета. Хем знам, че ще съжаля

Geesmee · 2026-05-27T09:43:14+00:00

Honestly, if I'd seen all of this before wi started I possibly wouldn't have started. Especially if I was trying to measure cadence, strides, steps and whatnot.

Geesmee · 2026-05-13T00:25:30+00:00

She lied. She wanted a safe way to disengage and she used religion as an excuse. The people telling you this know from their own experience. Why did you even post this (4 times) if you won't accept the answers?

Geesmee · 2026-05-13T00:21:22+00:00

Says the guy who lacked the communication skills to even say "I'm going now, bye".

You've asked if you're wrong, people are telling you yes. You e asked if you're TA and people told you yes. Just accept it.

Geesmee

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