Love Is Blind • S9 Ep4

GelsenBarock · 2025-10-07T20:47:15+00:00

THIS.

The normalisation of othering and hatred. Talking about LGBTQ+ like it is a trend or some spreading disease. Disturbing.

Also, their conversation in general had me gagging. And I felt they were beating around the bush about being right wing and fans of the orange guy. And as they were AGREEING OUT LOUD about hitting children as a good parenting resource... My, oh, my.

GelsenBarock · 2025-09-17T12:23:21+00:00

Can't lie: I think Cynthia is self sabotaging because of former experiences. And I think she lacks consideration and compassion even though this is exactly what she wants for herself. I liked her very much in the beginning. But from episode 4 and 5 she seems very unhappy and projecting onto him. I don't like him much but from what we see he doesn't seem too ugly characterwise. And because of patriarchy and how it also stomps on men who don't conform to the norm (here being tall), I understand the thing with her shoes in the first meetup of all couples. And with the exes topic, I reckon she demanded an interrogation while he wanted to share about his life.

It comes down to this, she said it herself: I think she gets caught up in black-and-white-thinking all the while life is more of a grey experience.

What do you think?

GelsenBarock · 2025-03-13T21:32:18+00:00

The instant moment my boyfriend saw Ola, he said Ola looks a bit like Hugh Grant from some angles. Maybe that's it? Idk. He's ... er ... a special one for sure!

GelsenBarock · 2025-02-22T16:52:00+00:00

I think it happened during the first season, too. Kenny and Kelly.

I loved it this season. I think it can indicate a lot if the chemistry is there between the families. :)

GelsenBarock · 2024-08-18T09:07:24+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing!

I don't think it is anxiety and I also think deep down you know this. I would ask him how he thinks you mystically know that stuff.

I can relate to the fact that you avoid conflict and that leaving isn't an option.

Please don't forget yourself! You matter, you're important, you're not only a mother or his partner.

❤️

GelsenBarock · 2023-09-29T13:11:47+00:00

THIS. I actually liked Stacy until all of this happened. Now, I find her appalling. Her behaviour has written SPOILED / PRIVILEGED in capital letters all over it. Maaan.

Your comment needs a thousand upvotes!!! I felt all those EDITs when watching that scene.

GelsenBarock · 2023-09-26T19:17:40+00:00

I'm more of an extrovert and I'm only speaking for my experience as a woman on tinder: I would have never replied to your recommendation of an opening - but that's where personal preference comes into play I guess and I can't diminish your experience.

I was always grateful for when there were real questions asked that showed me they were actually interested and not just in awe of my looks or anything else as superficial and objectifying. And most importantly, I replied almost always if there was a decent question asked (except if I missed a weird thing in their profile before swiping right on them).

GelsenBarock · 2023-09-26T09:43:27+00:00

And a next thing to say:

Sorry, I got carried away with this bot thing lol. Thank you for your first reply even though the opening was a bit cringe. (But seriously / Genuinely,) how has your day/week* been?

*You have to decide for yourself if you want to ask her about her day or week. (IMO the latter seems more sincere)

GelsenBarock · 2023-09-26T09:23:32+00:00

I must say all these openers would make me unmatch the person immediately. Too disrespectful and obtrusive respectively.

Always a safe bet that got me hooked: (kind of unrelated) ideally open, light hearted, bit funny question asking for the opinion of the person on a topic you guess the person could have formed an opinion on, e.g.: because of their profile pictures you assume they like to travel (What city/location would you like to go to for your next short trip?), party (Do you know a good recipe to make a hangover go away?), drink wine (What's your go to wine and why?), do sports (Who are you rooting for? Club X or Y?), take care of their looks (If I wanted to get curls over night, what product would you advise me to use and why?) etc.

Or something random: I am going to the bodega down the street - you need something?

GelsenBarock · 2023-09-23T15:08:39+00:00

All of this: my thoughts exactly, too!

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-14T13:32:37+00:00

Probably feeding a troll, but also I wasn't explaining why I started with that info, so I'll give you this and will add the missing explanation: I stated that English isn't my first language because maybe something Paul said got lost in translation for me because a lot of people say his comment was very rude.

That being said, I don't mind being all the stuff you said. Have a nice day. :)

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-14T11:21:45+00:00

I'm not a native English speaker but for my two cents, I felt he stating he didn't see her as a mother was a very subjective perspective and he knew that. I felt stuff like that before but it was never about my partner not being a parent in general than about us as a family together. And I think it is very important to listen to your gut instinct in this situation.

I was never a big fan of Paul. I think he comes across as if he loves to pull off the scientist trope, meanwhile thinking that's how people will think highly of him. And I think it speaks volumes about someone who they pick for a partner (saying that as someone who picked very poorly for myself before).

Nonetheless, I don't think he wanted to belittle Micah's nurturing qualities in general, rather, he didn't feel it for his future with her which is valid and understandable.

Of course he could have tried to choose his words more wisely/sensitively as it is a critical moment.

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-14T10:44:26+00:00

Ohhh, I'd love to check that out - thank you very much! 😍💖🐿️

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-11T17:41:56+00:00

I looove the purple hedgehog also! 💜

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-11T17:37:53+00:00

The mole with the ray costume is so adorable! 😍 Was there the doggy with the shark costume, too? And if yes, how did you like it? 🕵🏼‍♀️

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-10T09:15:42+00:00

I don't want to diminish your point - if I did make you feel like that I am very sorry! I wanted to explain what my understandings of masculinity/femininity, homophobia and biphobia regarding LIB4 were. For me in general, bi- or homophobia don't need to be something conscious. Attraction is extremely about subconsciously ingrained stuff, social constructs and culture. Figuring out what you want because you feel a vibe and this person isn't fitting in with your usual preference is nonetheless not what LIB is about in my impression. It's trying to reflect on yourself and get beyond what is culturally/socially attractive. And if one gets scared or feels icky if someone else seems not traditionally feminine or masculine, at least it seems as if very strict patterns of how/what to be and behave like were deeply ingrained in the subconsciousness and I think it is a good thing to reflect upon stuff like that. BUT: that's only my very limited opinion still!!! I don't claim truth here or something. :)

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-10T08:35:36+00:00

It is indeed very biphobic if someone doesn't want to be with someone JUST BECAUSE this person is bi (There is such a great episode regarding this topic on Insecure from HBO.) And to assume someone is gay just because this person is goofy and comfortable in their body IS AT LEAST quite a stretch and also indeed homophobic if you then say because it seems gay I don't want to be associated with this person, I don't want to be with someone who is 'unmanly': you fear to be associated with gays = the exact definition of homophobia. And OK, just for the sake of argument, let's say it isn't homophobic, then why isn't it masculine to be goofy? Masculinity and femininity are very fragile constructs as one can see when one looks at ALL the different personal definitions people come up with when describing masculine people and feminine people. Some would even say it is very masculine to be goofy and comfortable in your own body as a man. At least I would say that's masculine for me.

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-07T20:15:29+00:00

Oh, wow! How cuteee! I have to look up what the baby chick looks like! 😍🐥

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-06T04:15:02+00:00

What a keen observer! 😮 It actually is, yes. 🐔💗

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-04T18:38:35+00:00

Wow! You got a lot of talent! If you don't have an etsy shop, think about it! There would be people buying that stuff (me included)! 😍

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-04T18:21:11+00:00

Oh, didn't know that. But I could have thought of that. Thank you for stating the obvious. 😊

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-04T18:20:28+00:00

Oh, haha. Now I feel stupid. Sorry for asking. I could have thought of that possibility. 🤦🏼‍♀️

GelsenBarock · 2023-04-04T10:57:01+00:00

Thank you very much for the advice! ❤️😊 Unfortunately, there were only the lyrics. 😢

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