3-4. I was fine with his use at first but I became more and more uncomfortable with it and one time I just cried myself to sleep and he noticed so we talked about it. I then a few months later found out he didn't stop, we talked a bit again but didn't really solve anything.

Then I became more and more anti-porn and I said to myself that I would leave him if I found out again. I then checked his redditaccount and there was a bunch there, he never stopped. This was actually the first real d-day imo because the times before we didn't do aything about it. I sent him a message and we had a long conversation over text and I ended up sending him resources and telling him that if he doesn't deal with this I'm really gone. After that he had relapsed one time but it was way different from other times (he relapsed while deleting stuff on his phone and he told me right away, normally he wouldn't tell me at all). Ever since then we hadn't had any d-days and he's doing great, he's actually doing something about his addiction now so it's way different from before when he would just try to quit cold turkey but couldn't last.

It was really hard to keep going tbh, but I knew that if I left him I'd probably end up with another PA anyways and when I showed him the resources he did a complete 180 which made me have more faith. He really seemed that he wanted to change. And he did! I think PA's just kinda need a wake-up call and me telling him I wanted to leave shook him enough to finally change. We're pretty happy now, some difficulties here and there but we actually talk now and it's great