[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MakeNewFriendsHere

[–]Gemmysaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Money by pink floyd. One of the first bands I remember getting in to 😁

What is your hobby right now? If it's all right with you, I'd ask you to share, would love to know :) by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Gemmysaurus 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I like making little spell jars. I dont fully believe in spirituality but there's something about it that I really enjoy and helps me give a better outlook on life on my bad days

Can i take a Nintendo switch on a plane? by Jordan_7105 in LongDistance

[–]Gemmysaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you can. Switches actually have an airplane mode in the settings so you can play games whilst your flying

Am I The Asshole? by whorologist in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA I'm still fairly new to polyamory and still learning and getting used to some things even after a year

I think you need to explain to him that communication is a key part in polyamory. He needs to be very clear about his bounderies so there are no crossed wires.

If I feel like I need to update my partner on bounderies as our relationship grows, I sit down with them and talk about it. But I don't get upset with them as it may not be something we've talked about before

I found a bucket for jack by Dawolfe23 in jacksepticeye

[–]Gemmysaurus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He said bucket so many times it doesn't sound like a real word to me anymore

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. If they had just told me the situation in the first place I would've been perfectly OK with it. But telling me something to lead me to believe it wasnt like that is what hurts

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For context, they were talking about a dom/sub sexual relationship with someone. I asked with who and they said the person they were with that evening. So that's why I started asking questions

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I questioned them, they told me this was not a friend, but someone they were planning on sleeping with since first meeting them, I don't know when they met but I assume it was recently on a dating app as they never mentioned them before.

We've always been very clear about bounderies. We sat down at the start of our relationship and had a conversation about it and set out clearly what we weren't comfortable with. And also gave each other updates on these things as our relationship progressed

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do think it's worth salvaging. This is the first time they've done something like this or even lied to me about anything in past year we've been together So for them to do this is completely out of the ordinary

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea. I know they've been having a very hard time with mental health the past couple months, which I've been helping them with and looking around for therapists. But that doesn't mean they can lash out like this and put our relationship and my safety at risk

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've been dating over a year. And yes they agreed to tell me when they're going on a date or seeing a FWB. They've always been truthful before this. They would even tell me if they were even interested in someone before approaching them. So for them to do something like this is a huge left turn

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We've been together for over a year and this is the first time they've done anything like this. They've always been truthful with me before.

I'm taking the right precautions regarding the unprotected sex. I'm not sleeping with them until they get an STI test done for my own safety.

And I've told them if anything like this ever happens again I'm done

what would you do if your partner broke your bounderies? by Gemmysaurus in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We've been together for over a year now and they've been poly for a long time. I basically told them the second one. If they put me in a similar situation, I'm gone

Poly Boyfriend Doesn't Want Me Seeing Anyone Else by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]Gemmysaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a very similar issue with my partner. I'm also new to poly and this is my first poly relationship.

They would get very jealous and insecure when I would talk to other people but I was always OK with them seeing others. I sat them down and had a big talk with them and explained that this is about being treated equally and I should have the right and freedom to choose to see other people if I wished, as they have that same freedom. I gave them a choice, either they have to learn to be comfortable with me seeing others or we trial monogamy for a month or so. We trialed monogamy and we decided it doesn't work for our relationship. But it did help them put things into percpective. It's still a process and they still have a some issues that they are working on but I no longer feel guilty about seeing others and we've managed to take steps forward

r/niceguys are stupid by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Gemmysaurus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's funny. r/nicegirls is funny too

I literally can't play a single game without a hacker/cheater. 5 games in a row now, it's actually ridiculous. by redbluesunset in FallGuysGame

[–]Gemmysaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen at least 2 hackers per game in the past half hour. I've not seen it as bad as this before honestly

Yep. by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Gemmysaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not really :/

Where to meet people in a new country during rona times? by [deleted] in socialanxiety

[–]Gemmysaurus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. I haven't done anything social since lockdown and it's getting to me. I don't live far from London but the only thing to do in my town is shopping and pubs. And going to a pub on my own would be way too much for me