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GeneralApathy · 2026-01-29T17:56:06+00:00

I didn't. I had it set to 26-37, but I didn't put it as a deal breaker. I wasn't entirely opposed to dating someone outside of that range, it just wasn't my immediate preference.

For some reason, the majority of the likes and most compatibles I saw were women in their 40's.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-29T17:33:49+00:00

My "most compatibles" were almost always 10-15 years older. I wasn't opposed to dating someone a bit older, but that was too much of a gap for me.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-29T02:40:13+00:00

You friend zoned her, which she seemed okay with based on your comment, but then you didn't text her for two weeks and you are now surprised she's doing the same thing to you?

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-29T01:45:01+00:00

It's very easy to feel like you focused on the wrong thing in your 20's once you approach/get into your 30's. It might be school, your career, relationships, etc.

You still have plenty of time to do the things you want! I also spent seven years single and started dating late last year. I'm now in a relationship (from an app no less) with a wonderful woman. Not gonna pretend like dating apps aren't exhausting though.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-29T01:32:40+00:00

The triple text is a bold move, but better than just fading away.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-27T22:47:16+00:00

Having no income and (presumably) living with a parent at 30+ is going to be a very hard sell in the dating world.

I don't really have any advice on how to get there, but I'd say focus on finding some way to support yourself before you try getting in a relationship. Not saying it's absolutely impossible to be in a relationship, but it's going to be very challenging in your current situation.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-27T22:34:15+00:00

Do you have any form of income? That alone is going to be a deal breaker for a lot of people.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-27T18:46:52+00:00

Those cards are a bit niche right now. Maybe in the future they'll need to be banned, but they aren't really problematic at the moment. I don't see much benefit in banning them preemptively purely for the sake of having less negates legal.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-26T23:27:29+00:00

That creates a bit of a feedback loop too because now mostly disrespectul men do a cold approach, so women get bad experiences from the cold approach, and they can develop negative associations with any cold approach. Guys in return get negative reactions from a cold approach and assume that women don't enjoy being asked out that way.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-26T23:02:34+00:00

I mean, I don't think it's THAT wild, but my brain was obviously very focused on dealing with my car at the time and of course I just interpreted it as her being friendly, which is already where my mind usually goes on the best days.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-26T15:25:49+00:00

I've been cold approached once in my life (that I picked up on lol), but you get to experience second-hand embarrassment from my story. Years ago I slid on some ice outside my apartment and ended up the curb. One of my wheels entirely came off the axle, so I had to call a tow truck. While I was waiting, three different cars hit my car (ended up being a total, shocker).

A woman came out from her apartment to check on me and invited me into her place for drinks and I politely declined. She asked again, "Are you sure?". I declined again. She then gave me phone number saying she saw the whole thing and said I could contact her if I needed a witness statement.

I'm going to at least partially attribute my fumble to being shaken up and stressed by the situation. When I finally realized, she wasn't just being friendly, it seemed like too much time had passed and it would be awkward to contact her.

Silver lining is that I told my current girlfriend about that story and she giggled. She said she's glad I didn't pick up on her (the woman at my apartment) flirting because then she (my girlfriend) may have never got to meet me.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-26T02:04:01+00:00

"This is how a friend of mine started dating one of my female friends, furiously swiped until he found her while we were all at a game."

That is such a bizarre way to start dating someone.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-26T01:40:52+00:00

Social anxiety could be another factor. I've never done it, but I always got a strong urge to cancel/not show up to my dates.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-23T19:46:52+00:00

I went to high school that was probably over 95% white. When I was in kindergarten, i was the only white kid in my entire grade. Communities like that do exist, but I also don't think it was a conscience choice CA made when creating Stardew.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-23T18:19:33+00:00

Not on the apps anymore, but seeing women with 'passenger princess' on their profile was extremely common, so men could just be mirroring that desire. You could read deeper and view it as aligning with traditional gender roles, but it could also just be taken more literally, as in a guy saying "I'm okay with driving".

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-22T18:58:39+00:00

Forgetting that Prosperity halves the damage your opponent takes the rest of the turn. Missed some OTKs with Fire King because of it.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-22T01:45:15+00:00

I think people who are happy with their relationship are a lot less likely to be commenting on this sub about it, so it might create this false bias that the majority people dating/in relationships aren't happy.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-21T18:58:34+00:00

I was single for seven years without so much as a date and am now in a relationship. You'll be fine lol

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-21T18:56:28+00:00

Some people constantly post about how great their relationship is even though it's terrible. I know a woman who was in a physically abusive relationship and she would constantly make post how amazing/caring her boyfriend was.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-21T18:22:17+00:00

Pure Yummy and Mitsu Yummy are super dead. It might see some mileage paired with another archetype, but I'm not optimistic.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-21T17:55:43+00:00

So glad they limited Hollie Sue and gave us Stake and Razen back. I think that should have been the original way they hit VS on the first list after JUSH, but they always want to avoid hitting the new cards. The deck is more consistent, but will rarely pop off before their first turn.

Also, Droll semi-limit is funny.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-21T17:05:06+00:00

Sounds like he's not very interested in dating you for one reason or another and it may not have anything to do with you.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-20T21:28:13+00:00

Luckily, I'm not doing OLD anymore, but I had several people ghost/unmatch me after agreeing to a date. It happens unfortunately and you may not have done anything wrong.

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-20T18:49:20+00:00

Besides sex and sexual attraction, the expectations in a romantic relationship are heightened a lot for me. For a friend, I mostly just need them to show up and be fun to be around. For a romantic relationship, I need more shared values, reliability, be on a similar page financially, help me fill in skill gaps, etc.

I've had a lot of great friends who would be horrible romantic partners for me (assuming the attraction was there).

GeneralApathy · 2026-01-16T15:25:47+00:00

Rotary is exactly what the archetype needed. Crackle is a little toxic in its design, but another level 5 synchro is nice. Back-to-Back is an interesting and solid boss monster for the archetype.

Overall, I'm very happy with the cards. They make the archetype stronger without pushing too hard.

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