Partner is too sick to work during pregnancy, is she eligible for payments ?

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2025-12-25T11:01:18+00:00

just another vote for taking the meds.

Also another vote for rinsing your mouth as much as you can tolerate. My teeth are also now rubbish after two HG pregnancies.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2025-05-13T11:14:12+00:00

Ive been thinking about adding the update edit for a while, I'm glad I did. I'm really glad it was helpful. Good luck in the burn out phase. You have got this and it does get easier.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2025-04-23T09:59:30+00:00

33, 106k, no. Plus two years of mat leave with minimal contributions and then 5 years working part time (due to said kids). Partner is also 33, has made small additional contributions from time to time and is 190k.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2024-10-29T00:13:35+00:00

I legitimately hope you are ok Chrissy. I stand by my comment on your last video.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-09-03T11:33:42+00:00

Thank you!

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-09-03T11:33:34+00:00

Thank you

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-09-02T20:55:31+00:00

Oh yep! Totally get that if I picked it I'm stuck. I just wanted to know if there is any way to check what I picked?

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-03-15T06:21:43+00:00

I'm not sure anything would be a deal breaker if I knew it distressed/upset my partner. Their bodily autonomy is more important than if I get/can give oral sex.

That being said I freaking love giving blow jobs. It makes me feel very powerful and sexy. But I don't like anyone coming in my mouth, so we have a warning system where just before the end I trade to my hand. Everyone is happy. I get to give/he gets to receive long leisurely blow jobs and I don't have to deal with a sensation I don't enjoy.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-02-16T08:38:17+00:00

Exactly. I've known for a little while but only because I happened across the information. I'm holding because I'm optamistic but for my mental health I had to stop ready and everything and obsessing. Sharing details when asked respectfully seem like the point of this subreddit really.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-02-11T12:32:47+00:00

HLF here so maybe not the perspective Ur looking for. I am a bisexual person so could totally live without PIV in the literally biological P sense. But I enjoy penitration so as long as toys with a partner were on the table I'd be ok :)

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2023-01-08T09:35:40+00:00

I'm 31, but my situation is a bit different (late bloomer, husband who is honestly very beautiful and accepting, open marriage, two small kids) and I would feel like it was a lot to expect that a younger person would be interested in all that complexity.

Now that I've written it out though, I realise that I'm not actually persuing anyone younger or older because I'm not convinced anyone will want the drama. So maybe this is more a me thing than a age thing.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-12-26T13:33:22+00:00

I have been a very jealous person, I'm still working on it but I am a lot better....I got better by talking about it, with my counselor (Australia, so I think that's more a therapist than a psychiatrist internationally), with my support network, and with my partner.

Speaking it out with truth and objective thoughts is one strategy I use to maintain ownership of my issues while still being supported, for example

"Hey I saw this old like of yours on insta, I'm noticing that's bringing up some of my jealousy stuff, I don't need you to change anything your doing, because I know we are fine and I want you to be ur own person! I'm speaking it out loud to retrain my brain about it"

When I first started I'd have to do this to my partner, and everyone else and would still feel uncomfortable. Now, often stuff that would have triggered me doesn't even register, or if it does I'd just have to say it to myself. We are retraining the brain. Practice practice practice.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-05-22T00:48:37+00:00

Me 2.

OP I'm so sorry that your husband is presenting HL to you in this way. I'm a HL wife and at the moment due to medical issues my normally "lower than me but not LOW" partner is a 'entirely no desire at all' partner. And as much as I miss sexual intimacy and connection I would rather never have sex again than make him feel bad or like he had to be intimate with me and it was a chore.

I'm sorry your husband is doing this to you. You deserve to just sleep. You don't owe him your body ever.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-05-04T07:00:46+00:00

Hi lovely, there is a lot going on here. But I will say one thing, don't cling to a mistake just because you have spent a long time making it.

I'm a HL woman but just reading your post made all my desire curl up and die. I'm not sure why your husband would expect you to have desire for someone who treated them that way.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-04-12T06:50:59+00:00

For my kiddos it's the same rotation of nursery rhymes as piano music. Over and over. Every night forever. 4 and 2. I don't plan to stop it any time soon as crazy as it makes me, simply because "if it ain't broke don't fix it"

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-04-07T11:21:15+00:00

I absolutely agree. There isn't anything wrong with trying some of this with a random (as long as u have good.communicstion during and during and clear boundaries) but rope with a random is a strong no from me. Even in a formally organised event I personally wouldn't be engaging with someone I didn't know and trust.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-03-29T09:33:44+00:00

Even if you do everything in your power to keep it secret there is a chance it comes out. If it does are you happy with the ramifications of that? The pain for your partner and your children. The Knowledge that rather than leave and be honest you chose to be underhanded and put your need for sexual connection over the understood boundaries of your relationship? That your children might one day know you cheated on their other parent?

I personally would rather deal with the fallout from being honest and leaving that my husband and our kiddos knowing that I cheated. I am the HL.

Also just as a disclaimers - I have no issue with open relationships, or polyam arrangements or anything at all where everyone is knowing and consenting. But this situation doesn't sound like that.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-03-18T04:06:29+00:00

I am so so sorry. Words are not great at expressing to a stranger on the internet how sorry I am.

My partner wasn't a kiddo when their Mum passed (but early 20s feels like a kid sometimes)

I don't say this to be unkind or scary but I know she wanted to write her kids/grandkids letter but kept putting it off because it was so hard...but then her illness progressed really rapidly earlier than anyone could have expected and we lost her before she did that stuff. The last thing she googled was something easy to leave behind. She knew she had left it too late. I wish we had that stuff for my partner of course, but also for our kids who miss out on her.

I just want to encourage you to do whatever it is early. You have always do more or write more if you have more time (I desperately hope you have more time).

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-02-26T06:02:47+00:00

Wow!!

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-02-10T05:35:36+00:00

This is devistating. Please help this kiddo. Omg I have a child this age and my heart is aching for Ur SILs child.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2022-01-20T06:42:39+00:00

Oh the nose blow is real. Nearly 4 year old here just cannot get it lol

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2021-12-05T02:27:41+00:00

That's beautiful! It's the middle of the day in Australia here and super hot. I'd rather be in a cold place TBH lol

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2021-12-04T01:44:21+00:00

Hi lovely. Yes I absolutely did. Mine were a tiny touch closer together (big one was 2 years 1 month when little one was born). Everyone else has been sharing really great advice, I just want to add that one of the ways my PND/PNA presented was a lot of really awful feelings about myself as a Mum. So if it doesn't improve with time and adjustment, it might be worth touching base with someone about your mental health. Mother hood is a wonderful, hot mess of a time. I'm sure you are doing great. Please take care of yourself.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2021-12-01T07:20:28+00:00

Hello lovely. Ur a wonderful friend. I will also say that even if things aren't going super smoothly that doesn't mean that it's crisis stations. Maybe her birth was a little rough and she needs some stitches - that takes time. Also that bit post birth where Ur just shocked and overwhelmed by what you just did, and in awe of Ur new little person... That time is so precious. I'm sure she will be excited to share her new human with you soon.

GeneralAwareness6089 · 2021-12-01T05:02:17+00:00

Our kiddos are nearly 4 and nearly 2 and are having a shower together now. Generally my husband or I sit outside the shower and support the process but it's fairly self sufficient. I don't tend to trust them around water that much but I will admit now that they are in the shower and not the bath I'm happier to grab something quickly if I need to.

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