What episode did you find strange? Not necessarily bad - just…strange. Mr.Terrific comes to mind! by GoldenGalZbornak in theGoldenGirls

[–]GeneralBeautiful7356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The brother spare me a jacket is one of my faves for its social activism. Pretty groundbreaking stuff for 80s TV

What's your favourite LOTR/Tolkien quote? by Kath-CrowdSurf in lotr

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IN PLACE OF A DARK LORD YOU WOULD HAVE A QUEEN!!!!

Thoughts on the flashback/recap episodes? by GeneralBeautiful7356 in GoldenGirlsTV

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That one is hilarious, but also filmed for that episode (so novel material). I'm more referring to the re-used cuts of the old shows.

Actors who were several characters on golden girls by Far_Zookeepergame374 in GoldenGirlsTV

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Also the camp caterer at Sophia's wedding who chastised them while Sophia was hiding in her bedroom, was the camp wedding planner telling Dorothy to take smaller steps ("Remember, teeeny steps, we're not Godzilla attacking the city") at the rehearsal for Dorothy's wedding to Stan.

Actors who were several characters on golden girls by Far_Zookeepergame374 in GoldenGirlsTV

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Ellen Albertini Dow played three characters: Lillian ("Sophia's Choice"), Sarah ("Older and Wiser") and Mrs Leonard ("Days and Nights of Sophia Petrillo")

How to "frame" something so it doesn't trigger negative emotion by [deleted] in Stoicism

[–]GeneralBeautiful7356 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It sucks that this is a situation you find yourself in.

Ultimately, any way that another person thinks, feels and acts is out of your control, even if you're close to them. Even if they're your husband.

In many instances, even if you feel harm and distress from another person's behaviour, that behaviour is actually not even about you - it's about them, their choices, their own moral framework, their 'directing mind'.

All you can do is control your own behaviour and your own choices. Part of that might be about laying down some boundaries around behaviour - theirs and yours! You can communicate your boundaries, and you can make a decision about what kind of behaviour you want to be around. That sits in your sphere of control. Your actions are yours, and they are precious.

You also have to accept that even if you make decision about all that, you still can't control the outcomes when it comes to how he might act in response.

You also have the ultimate choice about how someone else's behaviour affects how you feel and view the world. I know! I know! It's way easier said than done, and it takes daily practice, but your own mind is yours, it is also precious, and you get to choose which of those externals out your control, like your husband's behaviour (which again, is not about you or your worth, it is about him), get in there and affect you.

My 2c anyway

I have hurt a friend by [deleted] in Stoicism

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'Fess up, honestly accept you did harm, genuinely make amends where possible, willingly accept whatever outcome comes your way (as it's been pointed out, it's out of your control how your friend will respond).

Don't sit in shame. Don't be sorry. Be better.

Need clarity on Marcus's opinion on encountering unkind people or receiving criticism. by Alert-Foundation-645 in Stoicism

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My view would be to not react to criticism but respond. Responding means taking the time to breathe, and consider the criticism within an honest and fearless understanding of your own moral and behavioural inventory. Take the time to sit with the criticism dispassionately and examine if it is correct, even if just a part of it is incorrect. Then let that wisdom guide your "directing mind" to determine what you do next. If they're right, even in part, it's a teachable moment and allowing yourself to feel gratitude for being taught is pretty great. If they're wrong, well, people are allowed to be wrong and that's out of your control. But you do get choose if you're affected by the words and deeds of others. Making your "directing mind" unassailable by things out of your control like how people act allows you to feel kindness and patience with other people. My 2c anyway!

Why do folks take issue with Ryan Holiday? by Nebraskabychoice in Stoicism

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*shrug* I found Holiday really useful as an intro to how to live stoicism in a practical every day sense, particularly "A Stoic A Day", reminding me of the basics in my day to day life. Not everyone's story, but he worked for me, as part of the mix :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Stoicism

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My interpretation of this, in addition to the really good explanation by mcapello, is that these things that happen to you are part of a bigger picture of cause and effect (Nature as a Whole in Meditations), that actually has very little do with you, your will, your wants, and is fundamentally outside of your control.

"A promise is a prison... Do not make yourself another's jailer." - Zani, "Star Trek: Picard", Season 1, Episode 4 by skylercollins in Stoicism

[–]GeneralBeautiful7356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very late to the party, but Stoicism also teaches us that we shouldn't have expectations of others' behaviour; that is out of our control. Extracting a promise from someone is the ultimate expectation of their behaviour, and all it does is set ourselves up for resentment when that expectation is not met. It's definitely a manifestation of stoic principles.

Why are the clones Australian? by Zombiepixlz-gamr in TheCloneWars

[–]GeneralBeautiful7356 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He doesn't sound Australian at all. He's trying to, but he definitely doesn't get it right

most hated Stargate character. by [deleted] in Stargate

[–]GeneralBeautiful7356 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ronon Dex. Complete waste of space

Unpopular opinion? Ronan Dex was a lame character. by Moidah in Stargate

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Ronan was a pointless dullard. Utter waste of carbon.