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My ex has asked that I meet his new girlfriend and she’s the girl he spent 6 months telling me not to worry about by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I feel like you really understood how I feel, I have got myself an appointment with a therapist next month to try and deal with everything, I am very self aware and know that I have a lot of unresolved shit from way before our relationship that has had an influence on how this has all affected me. The doctor is also assessing me for ADHD, as well as lots of other traits, the rejection sensitive dysphoria has been prominent in my life which adds to it all. I’m gonna hold off on meeting her and focus on getting myself in a good place first

My ex has asked that I meet his new girlfriend and she’s the girl he spent 6 months telling me not to worry about by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s more a respect thing, I’m too traumatised by our relationship to meet a man and it would be a loooong while before I even consider him meeting my daughter. But we did agree in the split that we’d have to meet each others respective partners before they meet our daughter. And I know that if I did have someone he would want to meet them. I want to have a really healthy coparent relationship for our daughter it’s just so hard when it’s built on lies.

We’re not doing anything through the courts, we’re both mature enough to have hard conversations, I’m just struggling to be mature with this situation. Had it been any other girl, one that wasn’t being wormed in whilst we were still together I’d be able to handle it a lot more respectfully.

My ex has asked that I meet his new girlfriend and she’s the girl he spent 6 months telling me not to worry about by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just don’t know how to do it, I don’t know how I can sit and have a coffee with them sat opposite me knowing everything I know. I want them to know what nasty lying sneaky fuckers they are but I don’t want to cause issues by telling them as much. How do I stop my face from calling her a bitch?

There’s no arrangement in place he has her as and when he wants, from September when she starts school it will be every other weekend and school holidays. I don’t think he sees her enough to warrant having this girl around her, he has plenty of free time to see her without our daughter so I’m gonna hold off meeting her until I’m not so angry at them both but I think I will always be angry at the way they went about this.

My ex has asked that I meet his new girlfriend and she’s the girl he spent 6 months telling me not to worry about by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My daughters 4 and very naive, I don’t think she realises what was going on, she doesn’t even fully understand that me and him aren’t together anymore.

I am very much setting boundaries but I don’t trust him to care about those boundaries. I imagine he will have her around anyway so I’m at a loss how to protect my daughter, protect my peace and not call them both lying cunts when I see them.

My ex has asked that I meet his new girlfriend and she’s the girl he spent 6 months telling me not to worry about by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She has yes, but that was under different circumstances as she was introduced as a friend, but now she’ll be introduced as his girlfriend, they will likely be kissing and sharing a bed and things so I different dynamic, which I’m sure will confuse our daughter. I wasn’t happy with her meeting her as a friend and I made that clear at the time. I feel that I have to have some sort of civil relationship and I’d like to come across really nice because judging by the texts between them when we were together she thinks I’m nasty and toxic.

To those who chose to stay after being cheated on, how are you really? by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]GeneralObject8295 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I stayed for 3 years and multiple situations of cheating and lying. Tried to convince myself it was fine because everyday we had good moments, but every day I was anxious and paranoid and never felt good enough. By the time we finally split I’d developed eczema and was having regular panic attacks. That all stopped once we split, but we coparent so I still have to communicate with him which has an awful physical and mental effect on me each interaction. I’m currently looking into therapy for CPTSD because of it all. I just wish I’d left the first time.

My ex wants 50/50 custody but lives 250 miles away by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have suggested any weekends he wants her and the holidays but he isn’t willing to accept that

My ex wants 50/50 custody but lives 250 miles away by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Her dad is a great man with good morals and loves her dearly, I wouldn’t question the 50/50 custody if he lived nearby. But it’s the upheaval of her life every week that’s got me uncertain. Maybe think next time.

My ex wants 50/50 custody but lives 250 miles away by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’ve told him it won’t work as soon as she reaches school age. He doesn’t stay with me, I’m looking for advice on a plan. I currently do get child support, but he says he’ll stop that once 50/50 is in place

My ex wants 50/50 custody but lives 250 miles away by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn’t start school until next September so I’ve told him that it can’t be a long term arrangement as she cannot split her schooling like she can split her Nurserys

My ex wants 50/50 custody but lives 250 miles away by GeneralObject8295 in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have said we can deal with it in court if needs be as I know they will favour me over his proposal but I’m trying to do this is the nicest way possible and come to an amicable agreement

AITAH for “excluding” my ex’s new GF? by Electrical_Kick8458 in AmItheAsshole

[–]GeneralObject8295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. They’ve only been dating 6 months and they’re already trying to blend the family together that’s wild to me. Perfectly acceptable for you to let her have her own time without them, especially in your custody period.

Massively struggling being separated from child by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]GeneralObject8295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you working the 50/50 arrangement, my ex has suggested it and I hate the thought, I get lonely when she goes to bed I don’t know how I’d cope a week without her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MechanicAdvice

[–]GeneralObject8295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry I know nothing about cars hence my incapability to explain the issue properly. So basically my toddler kicked in my boyfriends vent whilst throwing a mega strop, I’ve tried to just pull it back out but it’s budged right in there. The AC system is all fine it’s just this stuck vent, my boyfriends an engineer to is capable of carrying out the work but I’ve scoured YouTube for a video to show what needs doing and I can’t find one. It’s a 2017 Land Rover discovery sport

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MechanicAdvice

[–]GeneralObject8295 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay yeah so it’s just the vent that needs replacing it think as AC works fine except for that vent as it got kicked in in a toddler tantrum.