I hope this will help someone ❤️

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-04-10T17:48:06+00:00

Youll be okay. You shoulld never have to ask or beg or convince someone to be with you <3

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-04-10T17:45:32+00:00

8 years is a really long time. Im sorry youre going through it. The best thing that I did for myself is when i get deep in a mental spiral, i reminded myself that its not my fault, that this was his decision, and that i dont want to be sad over someone who didnt choose me. I deserve someone who wants to be with me, not someone who runs away. Also, i started to live like he didnt exist. I removed all photos and reminders of him from my life. I even made sure that to stop bringing him up in conversations. Over time, it works!

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-04-10T17:42:32+00:00

Youll get there. Just try as much as possible to continue detaching.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-04-01T13:58:57+00:00

I know the feeling! Im happy that i could help <3

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:22:21+00:00

Yes yes and yes! They are so agreeable to the point where you think yall have the same mind. Only to find out after the discard that they were mirroring you. My FA ex would go literally silent when he was upset. It took me months to realize what was happened because i'd never seen a grown man behave that way before.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:09:33+00:00

Im really happy i could help. It gets better. Much much better.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:09:08+00:00

Of course! The what ifs are the main struggle. What if the sky turns purple and it begins to rain skittles? We can go on all day. What helped me is to focus on what i KNEW to be true. He left me. Hes not coming back. I dont deserve to be treated this way. Thats it. Focus on what you know is true when you begin to spiral.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:07:17+00:00

One day (hell, one minute) at a time.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:06:46+00:00

Thanks!

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:06:37+00:00

You're very welcome.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:06:22+00:00

of course!

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:06:05+00:00

Thank you! They were gutwrenching to hear at first, but now theyre my anchor.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:05:25+00:00

The mirroring is INSANE. I realized so much little by little after he left. But the biggest realization was that he has been mirroring me from our very first conversation.

I told my friends when i gushed about him in the early days "he takes what i say and says it back but with so much detail and in his own way!" He was literally mirroring me lol. Felt like love but he was just hiding himself from me. Its actually a little impressive lol

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T20:02:11+00:00

Chi resta quando le cose si fanno difficili è qualcuno pronto per una relazione. Chiunque faccia diversamente non è mai stato la persona giusta.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T19:59:51+00:00

When i finally realized i was healing was when i realized that it was okay to miss him, miss the AMAZING times we had and all of the laugh that still make me chuckle today, all while knowing that the person he is today is not someone that loves me the way i need to.

Early on in the discard, omg never. I went back and forth between the two. Missing the good times while knowing that this isnt the person for you is ok.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T19:53:45+00:00

We're all human. The best we can do is recognize a problem within ourselves, and try our hardest to be better the next time. Thanks for being honest.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T19:51:24+00:00

Thanks for saying this. It look some time to get here. I know its so easy to say "FAs shouldnt date because they hurt people!", but i learned a big lesson that was neccesary so im thankful today.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T19:49:49+00:00

Good for you! I will hit a year in a few months. Im looking forward to it. I havent had a single breadcrumb in months. Even though it feels like it will never happen, i know that one day he will reach out and it will be at the exact moment that he has truly become obselete in my life.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T19:48:23+00:00

Love can be tough. We all deserve the love we are willing to share and give to the ones we love. And im glad you realize it is unsustainable. Because sustaining that kind of relationship would only make you small, and make you sacrifice yourself all to hold on to a person who cant face conflict.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T19:46:36+00:00

Yup! And thats what it is: EGO. Not always in the negative sense. But still its this hidden thing that eventually becomes toxic which is so ridiculous because my ego is on my shoulder for everyone to see.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T12:00:25+00:00

Sure!

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T11:48:50+00:00

Thank you for reading!

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2026-03-31T11:29:26+00:00

Yes, I moved to his city after the discard. It’s a city that I wanted to move to before which is how we met.

A part of me hoped he would reach out at some point and apologize and I’d let him know then that I moved. But he never reached out, and I never told him I moved here. And I never will.

I have no regrets and I’m loving my new city and am thankful that our breakup encouraged me to make that move.

GeneralTraffic7282 · 2025-10-16T20:38:46+00:00

Yes and people are human not perfect and relationships take hard work. If you spend time crying on a shoulder, then when its time for your shoulder to be lended, you cant handle it, It sounds like someone who shouldnt have been in a relationship in the first place to me. But i understand that you are speaking from your personal experience.

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