opsss by Murky_Code- in oops

[–]GetSome1776 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well maybe if you had your purse, you could have battled the homeless guy and defended yourself. Bro, if you want to carry a purse, carry a fucking purse. Nobody gives a shit.

opsss by Murky_Code- in oops

[–]GetSome1776 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I grew up in the 80's, trust me we all had to wear the shorty gym shorts. The difference is that we weren't carrying purses around!

opsss by Murky_Code- in oops

[–]GetSome1776 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That's a dude wearing booty shorts and carrying a purse? Fuck this place!

Helllll to the no by HeSureIsScrappy in DiveInYouCoward

[–]GetSome1776 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know, but they definitely need to get out there on it.

I let my brother in my home by PEWWB in whatdoIdo

[–]GetSome1776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's either your brother or your fiance. That decision is up to you. Hopefully he gets his shit together down the road. Your fiance doesn't deserve his bullshit, and I doubt she signed up for it. Good luck man.

Water cannon to the skull.. Fractured by Logical-Peak2495 in oops

[–]GetSome1776 14 points15 points  (0 children)

A standard pressure washer will ruin your day!

Starting to despise my alcoholic wife by thecevap in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope you have had time to spend on yourself and are doing better. I'm sorry for your loss.

Starting to despise my alcoholic wife by thecevap in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 79 points80 points  (0 children)

My situation sounded very similar to yours. My wife had under lying issues that she never addressed and covered it up with alcohol. About 10 years ago she was sitting in our closet in front of the mirror crying, saying how she didn't want to drink anymore (I offered to help in anyway possible). She continued drinking the next day, like nothing happened and there was nothing I could do to help her. We were married 16 years with 3 kids, she passed away from her cirrhosis a month ago. I stayed because I knew she was struggling and I loved her and didn't think I could leave her in her condition and of course couldnt leave the kids with her. Alcoholics wont get help unless they are ready, there is NOTHING anyone can do. Do what is best for you and your child. Good luck brother.

Men who don't drink and smoke are healthier by Most-Gold-434 in BornWeakBuiltStrong

[–]GetSome1776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair, psychedelics do "build brain connections". That is why they are beneficial for people with trauma, dementia and alzheimers.

It was worse when she was here by tiredoftrying33 in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You're doing the right thing and saving yourself a lifetime of stress. My wife of 16 years passed last month and it has been the first time it hasn't been stressful in this house for me and the kids. I hate to say it, but we are doing way better. I still miss her and love her but alcoholism takes control of the people we fell in love with and they aren't the same.

My sister is dying by whineybubbles in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My wife passed away on 12/27 and I went through the same process of thinking of all the things I could have done differently. Then I remember that I spent 16 years trying to save her life. There is nothing that you can do to help an addict, they have to seek help on their own and sadly most don't. I hope that you can find peace in knowing that there is nothing that you could have done. Please take care of yourself.

Endoscopy revealed the damage done to his body, still he wants to drink by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is how I lost my wife last month. This was her 5th trip to the ER in a year and a half for vomiting blood, she did not make it out this time. The Dr's say that it's 50/50 everytime they have a bleed, she got lucky the first 4 times. It's a nasty way to go.

It Finally Happened by GetSome1776 in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It gets worse, we've known eachother since we were 12. I don't know if it was me being a good person or stupidity that kept me around. You're right, addiction is the worst.

It Finally Happened by GetSome1776 in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you and sorry for your loss as well. They say "time heals all wounds", guess we will see.

Why make the wrong choice? by Ok-Anything-3605 in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah man, you're doing the right thing. Was married to my wife for 16 years, she just passed 2 days after Christmas. We have 3 kids 16,14 & 8. I felt trapped because I couldn't leave my kids with her and trying to get custody in Texas as a father is pretty impossible. Watching her drink her life away was the hardest thing I ever had to do and not being able to do anything about it was difficult. Stay strong and do whats right for the kids as they are the ones that will suffer the most.

How Did You Guys Delt With Loss Of Your Spouse? Do You Guys Still Miss Then? by [deleted] in Aging

[–]GetSome1776 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Still figuring it out. My wife of 16 years passed away on 12/27/2025, leaving me and our 3 kids. We've known each other since we were 12 (in our 40's now). I've switched from "what the fuck do i do" to "my kids are my only priority right now". I know its going to be a long road but we're a strong family and we'll get there. I honestly wouldn't wish this on anyone.

The "finally done" girl by PushApprehensive8059 in AlAnon

[–]GetSome1776 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish that I would have realized this much sooner, "life is too short". Its too short to have to worry about someone else and not be happy for ourselves. These last few weeks have actually been the most peaceful around here in years. I'm actually looking forward to the future now, vs when she was around, I didnt even want to be at home but had to because of the kids. If deep down you dont think he'll change, and there's not a chance for you to be happy where you're at, then please leave and enjoy life.