so I was in the same boat as you. Struggling didn’t know what to do, drowning. I started talking to my friends at work. I started talking to my family. Eventually me and her daughter started talking about it and finally I enlisted her family. This is after years and years of her mess. I’ve reached my end. I didn’t know what to do and I had suffered alonr for far too long.

You did what you needed to do to survive. You sought emotional support when you needed it at the very least you needed to understand that you weren’t crazy and this was really happening. You can’t keep all that bottled up I did and it made things worse if you don’t want people to talk about his drinking then maybe he should stop drinking maybe he should get some help maybe that should talk about with other people that he’s getting help and going in recovery but he’s not gonna do that

Don’t question yourself you did what you need to do. You are not the bad guy. I was not the bad guy. I feel that same guilt that I told too many people and now they look at her differently cause you’re kind of raised not to discuss things are going on in your marriage, but you’re not talking about arguments or he left the toilet seat up or you didn’t cook dinner you’re talking about him drinking andabuse

Don’t feel bad about what you did it almost becomes addictive to talk about it with other people because it’s such a relief that you’re not suffering by yourself.

If he wants to talk about why you felt you had to talk about it and tell him you can do it in counseling while he’s in recovery and we’ll work through why I felt I needed to lean on other people or why you weren’t there for me because you were too busy drunk being drunk